My Husband and I are Seperated.

[wood_elf_pansy]

My husband and I are separated.

This is my story(it started on sunday).

Well, he got sooper pissed because i smoked a cigarette even though the other day he drank rum(his excuse was it is low carb) and then he left me at his families house where his cousins baby's first bithday was taking place and his dad took Christopher(Adams son) home so I got high with his sisters and his aunt well, when i got home he asked if i smoked anything other than cigarettes and i said "i didn't say anything when you drank rum the other day" he said "that doesn't matter" and i said "fine it doesn't matter", and then he kept nagging me about if i did or not then i finaly told him and he got pissed off and started to walk away and then turned around and told me that i needed to find a place to go for the night and to not take the truck because i don't pay any money for insurance or gas even though last thurs i gave him sixty something dollars for gas and insurance. So, I packed up Alyssa and myself and we stayed the night at my friends house. well, then yesterday he told my sister that he was going to prove something to me by getting drunk all day. he was proving something about me getting high when he was spending time with his son but, i didn't do that until after he left me stranded at his uncles and then bob took chris home. so fuck that. Well, he blames all of our problems on working at Wal-Mart and my sister staying with us. He said that he is only less than half to blame. Well, we have had problems so much longer than Wal-Mart was included and my sister was never really there when we were. If anything she helped make things a little better for me. She helped with cleaning a bit and she helped me with Alyssa so that I could get things done. Well, to end that part of this entry, we are over until he can PROVE to me that he has stopped drinking. He will have to be sober for at least six months and been going to AA meetings. He can still see his daughter, with someone there. I totally understand why Maria treats Adam the way she does when it comes to Chris because I dont' want him alone with Alyssa either. Until he is clean and sober for some time.

Well, I am staying at my moms trailor. She hasn't stayed there in a long time. I'm thinking about seeing if she will sell it to me. That would be awesome. Then I wouldn't have to move anywhere. It would be so easy on me with Alyssa. I could just get a job from here and not have to worry about where I am going to move to. Hopefully she says yes. That would be so great.

Oh and I don't have a phone or internet at my moms house so, I'm kinda lonely there in the evenings.

Well, I'll try to write in here more often, when I'm babysitting.

Trishia

[wood_elf_pansy]

I wonder how many people are going to view this without saying a word to me?

That makes me feel so much like I don't have any point here. Maybe I shouldn't have posted it anyway.

O well, too fucked up in the head to care.

Too bad I decided to quit smoking...

[zomb5150]

I hope that everything works out for You.:)

[monalisa]

I'll reply. I'm in a similar situation, We don't have any human kids, just avery old dog (16 1/2) and a fat cat (10 1/2). My boyfriend is a complete control freak and if you do something that isn't the way he'd do it, you're not only wrong, you're stupid. I had been going through some severe depression when my mom dies in November and alot of work and home stress and strarted drinking too much. He harped on me about that, That time he was right, although a little les harping and more compassionate help from him would have helped more. Anyway, so I cut way back on my drinking. Then he starts harping onme because he thinks I drink to much WATER! I only drink a couple of 16 oz. bottles of water a day which from what I read is less than a person drink. My point is, if I improve myself in one way, he'll just find something else to put me down for. The building we live in is in my name, and I keep telling him to buy it for me so I can get out of here, but he doesn't do it.

Long story short, don't let him get you down. At times like these you need to build on your inner strenght, family and friends.

Take care and hang in there. Feel free to IM me if you need to talk off the general board.

Hope this helps,
-monalisa

[scaryminda15]

good luck with that. dont worry i just put a new thread and i got 12 views and no answers. Man are confusing to me too. they can do what they want but we cant. well that is just my opionion.

[monalisa]

Originally posted by monalisa
The building we live in is in my name, and I keep telling him to buy it for me so I can get out of here, but he doesn't do it.

Sorry, I meant buy it FROM me. I know, I'm anal. :)

[lionels_mother]

I hope it all works out for you. And well done for quitting the ciggies! :)

[zomb5150]

monalisa,
You need to find a guy who'll let You drink all the water You'd like.
Who is He that He thinks He should monitor Your fluid intake.
Personally..... I think I'd tell that fucker to eat a dick.

[cheebacheeba]

I sympathise...but I've got not a great deal worth saying more than, as a mother, make sure you act in the best interests of your child...and if it takes measures like these, so be it.
The situation, however strange and difficult, can sometimes be far better than the alternative, especially if there's a drinker involved. Everyone in a relationship should treat their partner as such, a partner, an equal...talking for five minutes can resolve more than an hours yelling, remember this, and if you remain calm, and he doesn't, just walk away.
Take some time away, to yourself and perhaps while you're gone, his sense of priority well develope a little, maybe there's some things you should think about too...a lot of times, in anger, people can say things specifically intent to hurt bad, and those things can not only make the situation worse, but also be hard to take back, sometimes impossible. The situation gets worse, and sometimes the little people are caught in the middle, not a nice place to be, not at all saying you're to blame, I'm just saying that sometimes people can do/say things without realising, especially when theyre angry or distressed.
All the same, time on your own should allow you to assess the situation without bias, and a clear head.
I hope everything turns out ok.

- B.

[scaryminda15]

Monalisa,

I think that he shouldn't be telling how much water you should drink because it is heatlhy and better than drinking. My dad does the same thing i lost weight like 25 pounds and he said it wasnt enough. some man can be so mean sometimes. well good luck with your life and im sorry to hear about your mom. stay strong.