Who gives a rip?

[monalisa]

Originally Posted by Phalanx

Re: Thread topic.
Depends on the person, depends on the situation.
If it's a person you're close to, or in alternate cases want to be close to, I think the general feeling is that it would be good if they held you in at least fair esteem, and that if they didn't it might be a little dissapointing...
Perhaps if it's someone you look up to, or admire, or perhaps one that you feel you have something of importance to learn from, I think the situation would be more comfortable if you got the vibe that they deemed you worthy of their company/expertise.
Of course, it's not always a two way street there, as I'm sure many of you are aware...I guess the important thing down the line is to figure out whether in each case, that's indicative of simple personality incompatability, or something about yourself that you could/should change, and whether or not this person/relationship would be worth making said changes over, and furthermore if those changes would actually yeild results you consider sufficient. Sometimes there's nothing you can do, in which case, it's probably best not to take it to heart anyways, I think any kind of successful relationship, be it business or personal has to be at least someplace near equal participation/regard...if it's not...then it's not really worth all that much in the first place, and nothing you should dwell on any longer than neccessary...it'll just do your head in, when there's no answer you'll really ever arrive at, and be happy with.

Other than that, who really matters?
I wouldn't be cut up about it if somebody that I wasn't seeking friendship with, or say, didn't feel that I had anything to gain from, seemed like they didn't like me, or thought ill of me...what would be the point?
But I think it's important to mention here that just because certain behaviour, or views deliberately shoved in ones face can evoke a reaction, doesn't mean that a person is taking things personally, or to heart...a common misconception 'round these parts.

I have to admit, that I always do what I call "self checks", in other words, I always think could I have done or said something different or better in whatever case. and I tend to do that wherever I interact with people. Granted, I'm guiltly of caring too much about people and "the world according to Kathy" would be a very caring and fun and safe place to live. But that's not reality. I think everyone can only take care of their own little space in the world and hope others do the same in a positive way (call me PollyAnna). But I also know that I care too much a lot and just need to let it roll off my back like a duck to water more. Does that mean I need to care less, yes. And I find that kind of sad.

[VampiricClown]

Don't know, don't care.

If someone finds a problem with me, so be it, that's there concern, not mine.

[urgeok]

people forget the 'pen is mightier than the sword' thing.

there are several reasons for revealing your thoughts on a forum .. some of those reasons are especially not healthy - when they are poisoned thoughts.


- are you trying to influence others ?

sure, the more stable/mature people realize its only a forum - and come here for info - to share info - to see who likes the same things as you and get good vibes off of the shared entheusiasm, and then .. at times - to get a laugh.

sadly there are some folks who are in need of more .. there is a sense of power on a forum they seek. and some of these people are more easily influenced and manipulated by the ones who come here to act like tough ass forum gods.

- are you trying to simply get a rise out of people ?

never understood the 'poke a stick in the wasps nest' mentality unless you are so bored and empty that its all you have for human interraction and entertainment. I guess i answered my own point. Your character is so flawed and damaged that you need the SAFE conflict from others to amuse yourself.
I guarentee these assholes wouldnt do it in real like for the fear of being turned into a grease spot on the bottom of someones shoe.


so yeah, i think words are important ... they reveal your character ..
I'm constantly at a loss to see why some people want themselves to be portrayed as metally challanged bad boy fuck-ups where they arent wanted..
i'm sure there's a clinical term for it,

at any rate it's unpleasant. i dont get my kicks from unpleasantness .. i get it from good times ... and even on this forum .. with the right folks, talking about cool issues, yakking about movies we dig, and getting some good natured digs at each other - even i'm capable of having a good time here occasionally.

and i should say thanks for that - you guys know who you are ... its the only reason i came back. there were people i missed.

[Vodstok]

Dont lie, you loved every second of screwing with trendkill. There is certain satisfaction when the person is clearly a jackass and you get a rise out of them. As far as targeting people who are going about their business, i agree with you.

[urgeok]

Originally Posted by Vodstok

Dont lie, you loved every second of screwing with trendkill. There is certain satisfaction when the person is clearly a jackass and you get a rise out of them. As far as targeting people who are going about their business, i agree with you.

man that guy was so full of shit ..
i guess sometimes i can get sucked into trying to expose the bullshit - but i dont last more than a couple of exchanges..

i walk away - and when i do - i stay away. its usually more satisfying watching these guys dig their own holes.

[Vodstok]

I honestly enjoy the back and forth of threats and one upmanship from people who claim to be important or smart, when they dont get, even when I SAY it, that i am simply trying to aggravate them to see how far they will go. Trend claimed to be a 25 year old psychologist/documentary writer... Yet he engaged in a lengthy 3 day bitchfest, extolling how smart and accomplished he was, all the while reacting worse than a 12 year old. it was truly an amazing experience.


people like that are fascinating in the same way watching garden spiders bolt after insects ion their web are.

[Miss Olivia]

@Vod....I lived in Germany too, it sucks when you don't speak German.

I care what other people think to a certain extent, if I judge what they say to be worthy of my care. Unfortunately, I have a very nasty temper and sometimes little things that shouldn't bother me do. I've had to curb that in real life, but it's easier to get into an arguement online because there's no fear of retribution (a.k.a. getting arrested or getting your ass kicked) and so a lot of the disciplinarian buffers that exist in the "real world" don't affect judgement here.

[Roderick Usher]

Originally Posted by urgeok

so yeah, i think words are important ... they reveal your character ..
I'm constantly at a loss to see why some people want themselves to be portrayed as metally challanged bad boy fuck-ups where they arent wanted..

Amen to that, brother. Prentending to be bad-ass is the surest proof that you aren't. It aggravates the hell out of me, but these fools want to drag you down to their level...

rise above, my friends, rise above:) And know that the ones who wallow in negativity will be consumed by it.

[Vodstok]

Originally Posted by Miss Olivia

@Vod....I lived in Germany too, it sucks when you don't speak German.

I care what other people think to a certain extent, if I judge what they say to be worthy of my care. Unfortunately, I have a very nasty temper and sometimes little things that shouldn't bother me do. I've had to curb that in real life, but it's easier to get into an arguement online because there's no fear of retribution (a.k.a. getting arrested or getting your ass kicked) and so a lot of the disciplinarian buffers that exist in the "real world" don't affect judgement here.

Exactly, and i think that is what Urge was getting at; you get kids with zero or less self-esteem, who want to be big badasses, so they come to a forum (or online game) and start shit with the local denizens, because they get to vent their frustration, angst, whatever and dont have to worry about the punch in the face they would no doubt recieve in real life.

[crabapple]

so you can slap 'em around a little bit!

because you like it! slap

;)