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12-29-2006, 04:13 AM
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It seems like it kind of depends on the context. Then again, if I cared all that much what others thought, I probably wouldn't be so open about my atheism.
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12-29-2006, 04:16 AM
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12-29-2006, 04:56 AM
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We all have our "buttons." I think even if someone on this dinky forum pushed a peron's button then there might be some retribution from even the most stoic of members.
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12-29-2006, 05:49 AM
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Oh c'mon people, don't be chicken! Say how you feel and don't be so candy-assed about it.
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12-29-2006, 06:02 AM
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Well, Mona, you know it's obvious that what people say does get under the skin here at HDC.;) Otherwise people wouldn't argue here. People say that they don't give a shit, but it's not really true. It can't be. On some level, what someone says to you is going to have an impact be it positive or negative.
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12-29-2006, 06:05 AM
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In the daily grind, i dont really care what people think. On some level, i AM looking for a certain amount of outside approval, probably because growing up i got a lot of "If it doesnt have to do with you getting good grades, i dont want to hear about it." from my mom, which happened quite a bit during my creative peak in high school.
I ended up living a very segregated existance when we lived in germany, the closest friend i had lived over an hour away (by bike), and i generally couldnt get a ride to their house. On top of everything else, i was an akward kid in school, and while i had fairly well developed social skills and was well regarded by most other kids, i made friends with rejects because they were more to my liking and had similar interests, so i would catch shit for that. And on top of it all, my sister turned into quite a mean-spirited bitch while we were over there amnd seemed to really enjoy shitting on my self-esteem whenever she could. Of course, if someone else picked on me, she acted like my savior, but i think she just liked giving people shit, and it was another excuse to be a bitch. I developed a wall against other people's opinions. if it's negative and not constructive at all, then whatever. If it's positive, then i eat it up, hence my shameless plugging and pimping of my website, my stories, my kid, my wife... etc...
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12-29-2006, 06:25 AM
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its funny, thi smakes me think of the whole "Sticks and stones may break my bones" thing. It's bullshit. They teach you that when you are a kid and dont have the experience or confidence to really build a mental wall against outside influence. The ability to let things go, and confidence in general is built from the outside in when you are little. if you arent protected, then people will rarely develope a sense of self-worth, which is necessary for confidence. alot of people these days raise kids with a strong sense of self worth because they are trying to make sure the next generation doesnt have to deal with the same crap they did. i know my wife and i are trying as hard as we can, we both suffered a lot as kids, and "Get over it" just doesnt work. We spend our entire lives trying to undo damage done to us as kids, whether we are aware of it or not. Poeple who have genuine confidence are blessed, and it is not as common as i think some people would like to think. A lot of "Confident" performers are actually screaming for outside approval on some level. i know i am. The other thing is, that if words cant hurt, then explain the whole bully and school shootingphenomenon.
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Re: Thread topic.
Depends on the person, depends on the situation. If it's a person you're close to, or in alternate cases want to be close to, I think the general feeling is that it would be good if they held you in at least fair esteem, and that if they didn't it might be a little dissapointing... Perhaps if it's someone you look up to, or admire, or perhaps one that you feel you have something of importance to learn from, I think the situation would be more comfortable if you got the vibe that they deemed you worthy of their company/expertise. Of course, it's not always a two way street there, as I'm sure many of you are aware...I guess the important thing down the line is to figure out whether in each case, that's indicative of simple personality incompatability, or something about yourself that you could/should change, and whether or not this person/relationship would be worth making said changes over, and furthermore if those changes would actually yeild results you consider sufficient. Sometimes there's nothing you can do, in which case, it's probably best not to take it to heart anyways, I think any kind of successful relationship, be it business or personal has to be at least someplace near equal participation/regard...if it's not...then it's not really worth all that much in the first place, and nothing you should dwell on any longer than neccessary...it'll just do your head in, when there's no answer you'll really ever arrive at, and be happy with. Other than that, who really matters? I wouldn't be cut up about it if somebody that I wasn't seeking friendship with, or say, didn't feel that I had anything to gain from, seemed like they didn't like me, or thought ill of me...what would be the point? But I think it's important to mention here that just because certain behaviour, or views deliberately shoved in ones face can evoke a reaction, doesn't mean that a person is taking things personally, or to heart...a common misconception 'round these parts.
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