My Husband and I are Seperated.

[monalisa]

[ Feel free to IM me if you need to talk off the general board.

Hope this helps,
-monalisa [/B]

Arrrrrg. I meant PM me.

-Mona the anal one ;)

[monalisa]

Originally posted by scaryminda15
Monalisa,

I think that he shouldn't be telling how much water you should drink because it is heatlhy and better than drinking. My dad does the same thing i lost weight like 25 pounds and he said it wasnt enough. some man can be so mean sometimes. well good luck with your life and im sorry to hear about your mom. stay strong.

Thanks and I know drinking water is good forme, he'll never sucedd in that one. But this is his habit, he complains, I, the eternal lets just try to get along person, improves my behaviour the best I can. And trust me I give him pleanty of suggestions for what he could do to make things better, he'll agree and then just do the same old shit anyway,

Sorry, didn't mean to take over wolf_elf_pansy's thread. But Trishia, this proves you are not alone! Hang in there girl!

[monalisa]

Oh, to hell with my spelling, There aren't any spelling Nazis out here are there?

[scaryminda15]

oh ur welcome monalisa. so wolf how are u handling this?

[wood_elf_pansy]

Originally posted by cheebacheeba
I sympathise...but I've got not a great deal worth saying more than, as a mother, make sure you act in the best interests of your child...and if it takes measures like these, so be it.

That is all I'm worried about. How to take better care of my daughter. That is why I decided to quit smoking.

talking for five minutes can resolve more than an hours yelling, remember this, and if you remain calm, and he doesn't, just walk away.

You know, I didn't yell, I actually haven't yelled at all this time. I have been through it so many times I am kinda like an emotionless blob, well I was pretty pissed about certain things but, I got passed it. He is the one who was yelling. Blaming others for his actions. I can't deal with his crap anymore. So I'm not.

Take some time away, to yourself and perhaps while you're gone, his sense of priority well develope a little

I am doing that but, I doubt he will change. He has a son and he never sees him unless a family member picks him up and brings him to him. He hasn't even tried.

a lot of times, in anger, people can say things specifically intent to hurt bad, and those things can not only make the situation worse, but also be hard to take back, sometimes impossible. The situation gets worse, and sometimes the little people are caught in the middle, not a nice place to be

I have held my tounge on saying things to hurt him. I don't want it to hang over my head. I was once the little person caught in the middle so I know exactly what you mean. The main reason that I have been with him for the past year of unhappiness is because I didn't want my daughter to grow up without her father and I wanted her to have a happy normal life but, to be with him would make that not happen.
Thank you for your comments B.

[wood_elf_pansy]

Originally posted by monalisa
Long story short, don't let him get you down. At times like these you need to build on your inner strenght, family and friends.

Take care and hang in there. Feel free to IM me if you need to talk off the general board.

Hope this helps,
-monalisa

Yeah, guys suck. If I ever get into another relationship(a long time from now) I'm gunna become a lesbian... lol

[wood_elf_pansy]

Originally posted by scaryminda15
good luck with that. dont worry i just put a new thread and i got 12 views and no answers. Man are confusing to me too. they can do what they want but we cant. well that is just my opionion.

how old are you again?

[wood_elf_pansy]

Originally posted by monalisa
Sorry, didn't mean to take over wolf_elf_pansy's thread. But Trishia, this proves you are not alone! Hang in there girl!

It's all good. I'm hanging in.

There aren't any spelling Nazis out here are there?

I'm a wanna be spelling nazi... :)

[Soloman Kane]

Sorry that this is happening. Second I hope everything works out for you but it doesn't sound like it's going to anytime soon. Whatever you do don't go rushing into any other relationships right away. It might be a good idea to take some time & think about what to do with your life. I feel for you because it sound like this man was part of your whole world. Anyhow I'am sorry for what your going through.. :(

[wood_elf_pansy]

Originally posted by Soloman Kane
Sorry that this is happening. Second I hope everything works out for you but it doesn't sound like it's going to anytime soon. Whatever you do don't go rushing into any other relationships right away. It might be a good idea to take some time & think about what to do with your life. I feel for you because it sound like this man was part of your whole world. Anyhow I'am sorry for what your going through.. :(

I don't want to get into ANY relationship at all. I want to worry about what is important, my daughter. I want to give Adam time to realize what he had and get shit done to get it back. I don't want for us to be done for good. He is my world no matter how bad it got. Things will, hopefully, get better and we will eventually get back together. We have broken up many times and got back together everytime obviously. He is my highschool sweetheart and I DO want to spend the rest of my life with him. I just can't be with him right now because of his drinking. It isn't good for my daughter, or mine and his relationship.
When he quit drinking for a while we were really happy. At least I thought we were. Then he thought that he could control his assness when he was drinking and got a six pack, the next day he got a beer at a restaraunt and that night he got a six pack, the next day and the next day, six packs then it started working its way up to 12pks and now he's been drinking rum. He gets mean when he is drinking and my daughter doesn't deserve to live her life in fear of her father like I did. I don't deserve it either. Until he straightens his shit out, we are going to spend time apart. I am pretty sure he will find someone else before I do.