Question for the guys...

[ItsAlive75]

Sex is all about connections, and to a lot of people the physical connection is somehow equal to the emotional connection. I can understand that, cuz if you fuck some stranger while you're in a relationship, its gonna be seen as you trying to make a connection with someone new due to a lack of a connection with your partner... when all you wanna do is just get your rocks off.

That's why swinger couples are cool... but they're always so ugly.

[ItsAlive75]

Originally posted by SKOOFx
look ath the phony 50's.

American was all about white picket fences and MORALS..but the truth was..it was all a lie. and ignorant pathetic act.

It wasn't really a lie. It was the cultural and social norms back then, people just didn't know how else to act. They all thought Allen Ginsberg and Jack Kerouac were crazy cuz they made out with dudes and wrote poetry about drugs...

[X¤MurderDoll¤X]

Originally posted by SKOOFx
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i was raised to have a similar mentality.

Sex is Sex.

NOT LOVE

there is a HUGE difference. But wussy ass "moral" americans make up these STUPID ass rules, and people buy into them with their cheesy romantic comedy flicks and valentines day.

I love my gf with all my heart.
But sex is sex.
I tell her that all the time. She doesnt totally agree, and ive never cheated on her; but at the same time i have no fear in teling her how i feel. To me..sex with someone else (with no emotional connection, and just for the "fuck" of it) is equivalent to masterbation.

whats the difference if i watch porn and jerk off to the thought of a different woman?

NOTHING.

I hate how sex and love are made to be the same thing. Its so wrong.

ITS HUMAN NATURE. You cant try to hide it. And you shouldnt feel guilty.

I personally wouldnt be upset if my gf told me she wanted to haev sex with someone else. Id b totally kool with it. If thats how she feels. who am i to restrict her? Id much rather her go ..enjoy life..be happy and do what she wants.

cause at the end of the day, she'll still b at home with me..and in love with me for being her best freind..lover..and companion.

Talk is cheap, but i seriously think thats what i beleive.

Weve got to DEBRAINWASH ourselves from the crap that this country has put into our heads. look ath the phony 50's.

American was all about white picket fences and MORALS..but the truth was..it was all a lie. and ignorant pathetic act.

Exactly. We get eachother totally on this subject.

[Haunted]

Throughout history extra-relationship affairs have always been seen as taboo, especially if, and y'all are going to jump on me, you're a woman. Allow me a chance to justify my assertion.

Harems...filled with wives...one husband. The guards were eunnuchs so that they couldn't have sex with the wives.

Concubines in Asia...same thing. Get caught sleeping with the Crown Prince's brother and it's off with her head.

Europe in the Middle Ages...royal and noble men were barely discreet with their cheating. A woman, however, had better be discreet if she took a lover. However, there were some women who could pull it off...namely Elizabeth1

In certain cultures in Africa, when a girl comes of age, her clit is cut off so that she won't cheat. It doesn't really make a shit if her husband cheats.

My point, I don't hold the same exact conceptions as Dolly, but I do completely respect what she said in this thread.



You guys, we've all got something to say. Let's not bring down the house for the, what?, third time this week.

[ItsAlive75]

Originally posted by Haunted
Throughout history extra-relationship affairs have always been seen as taboo, especially if, and y'all are going to jump on me, you're a woman. Allow me a chance to justify my assertion.

Harems...filled with wives...one husband. The guards were eunnuchs so that they couldn't have sex with the wives.

Concubines in Asia...same thing. Get caught sleeping with the Crown Prince's brother and it's off with her head.

Europe in the Middle Ages...royal and noble men were barely discreet with their cheating. A woman, however, had better be discreet if she took a lover. However, there were some women who could pull it off...namely Elizabeth1

In certain cultures in Africa, when a girl comes of age, her clit is cut off so that she won't cheat. It doesn't really make a shit if her husband cheats.

My point, I don't hold the same exact conceptions as Dolly, but I do completely respect what she said in this thread.

You guys, we've all got something to say. Let's not bring down the house for the, what?, third time this week.

Not to mention the fact that a man who cheats is almost accepted in a certain sense... and women are called whores. It's gotta suck to be a woman, seriously. The cultural standards just aren't in your favor. Those female mantis' sure do have it good though.

[Haunted]

The mantis and the spider are two of my favorite little creatures, and they may weild the vagina over the animal kingdom. But they don't know what it's like to cuddle after copulation. "Afterglow" is a foreign experience.

[Zero]

Originally posted by ItsAlive75
Not to mention the fact that a man who cheats is almost accepted in a certain sense... and women are called whores. It's gotta suck to be a woman, seriously. The cultural standards just aren't in your favor. Those female mantis' sure do have it good though.

its a good point - a good friend of mine got divorced a couple of years back because his wife cheated on him. . . and he told me that everytime someone asked why the split up and he said "infidelity" a) they always assumed it was him and b) when they found out it was his wife cheating they sort of acted like there was something wrong with him, like he wasn't MAN enough to keep his woman . . . its deeply sexist in both directions

[MoonLit Meadow]

I respect everyone's viewpoints concerning this subject...I guess I just can't wrap my head around how it wouldn't bother somebody if their significant other slept with somebody else.

The thought of my boyfriend sleeping with another woman disgusts me. In my opinion, masterbation and having sex with a person are COMPLETELY different. A hand and a...YOU KNOW WHAT are two different things ;) :p

I'm the type of person that gets really skeeved out just thinking about what kind of dieseases are out there. I would never put my BF at risk by sleeping with somebody else, so if he did that to me...it'd be done.

In my opinion, if you sleep with somebody else...you're not completely satisfied with the person you're with. This is JUST my opinion. Please don't scream at me, b/c like I said...I respect everyone else's thoughts...I'm just giving MY thoughts on the matter.:)

I feel that if you're going to make a committment to get married, then you need to be completely committed....otherwise, DON'T GET MARRIED.

I don't understand being in a relationship with somebody, and then having it be okay to sleep with another person. Why even be in a relationship then? If you want to sleep with multiple people, or can't be faithful...then just stay single. I suppose if your partner is okay with it...that's a different story...but if you know they're not, don't cheat on them and then tell them that "sex is sex"...b/c it's not like that for everyone....I guess the boundaries need to be talked about before any heartache is caused.

In the end, I guess whatever works for people works. I know what I wouldn't put up with, so I have my own opinions with regard to this matter...but what other people do is none of my business...it doesn't affect me, so I'm definately not judging.

[Zero]

Originally posted by MoonLit Meadow
I respect everyone's viewpoints concerning this subject...I guess I just can't wrap my head around how it wouldn't bother somebody if their significant other slept with somebody else.

The thought of my boyfriend sleeping with another woman disgusts me. In my opinion, masterbation and having sex with a person are COMPLETELY different. A hand and a...YOU KNOW WHAT are two different things ;) :p

I'm the type of person that gets really skeeved out just thinking about what kind of dieseases are out there. I would never put my BF at risk by sleeping with somebody else, so if he did that to me...it'd be done.

In my opinion, if you sleep with somebody else...you're not completely satisfied with the person you're with. This is JUST my opinion. Please don't scream at me, b/c like I said...I respect everyone else's thoughts...I'm just giving MY thoughts on the matter.:)

I feel that if you're going to make a committment to get married, then you need to be completely committed....otherwise, DON'T GET MARRIED.

I don't understand being in a relationship with somebody, and then having it be okay to sleep with another person. Why even be in a relationship then? If you want to sleep with multiple people, or can't be faithful...then just stay single. I suppose if your partner is okay with it...that's a different story...but if you know they're not, don't cheat on them and then tell them that "sex is sex"...b/c it's not like that for everyone....I guess the boundaries need to be talked about before any heartache is caused.

In the end, I guess whatever works for people works. I know what I wouldn't put up with, so I have my own opinions with regard to this matter...but what other people do is none of my business...it doesn't affect me, so I'm definately not judging.

damn - so i guess there's no point in me propositioning you - shoot, that was my whole reason for hanging around this crummy place

LOL - :D

[MoonLit Meadow]

Originally posted by Zero
damn - so i guess there's no point in me propositioning you - shoot, that was my whole reason for hanging around this crummy place

LOL - :D

LMAO!!!! I guess I forgot to mention that I cheat on the 16th of every month. MUAHAHAHAH. I kid, I kid:p