Shouldn't all this be in the "Ask IA75" thread......he really is pretty good at advice.



I think he has a degree.

I'm sorry to hear about this wood_elf_pansy (I'd call you pansy for short, but it doesn't sound too good in your part)! I hope you feel better and that things will work out for you!

Yah, thought about that before, but I just am not wired that way I guess. The affection thing is cool, I love affection. But I'm not into muff-munchin' unless it's my muff getting munched. ;)

I have a question??

Did you not know that your husband was an alcoholic before you married him and had children with him??

Did you think about the shit your child is going to go thru having an alcoholic for a parent?

You made your bed now you have to sleep in it.

My advice is to leave his ass and never look back. You will be better off and so will your daughter.

Alcoholics do not ever stop being alcoholics. They may not be drinking but they are still alcoholics just the same. I know maybe 1 person in the world who is willing to deal with an alcoholic drunk or sober and make it work and it sure as fuck aint me and I am willing to take alot of shit.

you know that was an asshole way to write it, but it was all true. I have left him and im not going back. i have refrets but without him i would necer have had my reason to live, my daughter. thank you all for your support and your comments that were rather... idk. whatever but thanks

trish

IA??hahahahahahaha

aw he rocks...
yeah ask his advice ..he will set you straight.

Just saying what I really think instead of giving you a line of bullshit.

Of course I hope and pray to the Gods for you and your daughter that the best comes of it.

You shouldnt have regrets. Whats done is done. The only thing that should matter in your life is your daughter and her well being.

Forget this was ever a thread...
 

I don't plan on asking advice from anyone else. I am done asking for advice. When I do that people always end up making me feel like I should leave the love of my life. But, in the end, I know we will always get back together. Yeah, he may be an alcoholic but, that is a disease. Would people leave there spouses because they had Alzheimer's? I don't think they would. The more I thought about it the more I wanted to stay with him to help him get better. We were doing ok mostly other than the fact that we were both on edge because of things that had been happening lately. He was drinking but, that didn't have as much to do with it as I made it seem. Yeah, it had A LOT to do with it but, not all of it. There was his job and us not having anytime with each other. Amoung many others. Well, we talked about everything and WE are both going to go to AA meetings and we are going to move so that where we live doesn't stress me out. A lot has to be done to get us to where we will be so much better off but, it can't get done if we are being stupid and seperate. I didn't marry him to get divorced. I want to be with him for the rest of my life. I want him to be in his daughters life full-time not just when it is convenient. You know?
Forget that I even posted this stupid thread. I just get so confused and worked up. When I get scared I run and I have been trying to keep myself from doing that.

Thank you all for your comments.
Trishia

Sigh'
why are you jumping on us for offering open and honest opinions?
Isn't that what we are here for.
Its just letting you know that we care about your situation...it may not be what you want to hear but its the truth.

Your man has to admit that he has a problem..
you can move house...attend as many AA meetings as you wish.. but nothing will eventuate until then.
Also ..stop making empty threats..
thats not a cure its a cause as well..
he knows that he has 2 things he can surely depend on..his booze and his woman..so he has nothing to lose.
Loving him is understandable..but not good enough at this point.
If he see's that he doesn't have that safe boundry..then maybe he will take steps to improve his situation.
We discipline our children when they step out of line..he wants to act like a child...then treat him like so.
Last point...a fatherless child is better than a child living in a house full of disrespute..
I sympathise with you both..and despite what i have posted..i wish the 3 of you well.

think again before posting trip my freind..
despite what you may think..not everyone falls for that ..gonna hate me now cos of my opinion bullshit'
What would you prefer..or pansy..
a thread that has no replies ..which states clearly to the person that no one gives a fuck.
Nobody in here is jumping on her...but if she is gonna reply with 'what a fuck thing to say' ..then of course a reaction is forthcoming.
For xrist sakes...
Who the hell is pouncing on her?
stop looking for contraversy when none is apparent...but if thats the reaction we can expect then granted...this will be the last time i 'personally' will offer up anything to any of this nicks threads.
Finally...go flash a dick..!!!!!!!