What Urge said, word for word.

And remember, I am but just a PM away.

More importantly, i'm coming to seeee youuuu.

Awesome advice
Thank You all for that from the bottom of my heart, and I will absorb it all...
and use it (yes, urge)

My kids are definitely what kept me waking up in the morning on more than a few occasions these past months.
And so I don't have an education or a great career to fall back on, I will make it alright in this world...I have no doubt something will come along that will be fun and hopefully fulfilling.


I think I will be much better off actually without someone constantly telling what a nothing I am, but I am so used to him and I truly loved him at one time and if I scrape off the pain, probably still do.
He will be in for a big surprise if he thinks he will be better off, that man doesn't even know how to fold his socks. And all the women he thinks he's going to play with, lmao, he is going to be really shocked.
.. yeah baby drive your little young arm candy around in your fucking MERCEDES-LMAO.
Anyway...


Vod: lmao
I am NEVER going down that road.
My men(yes, plural) will know nothing of me except my body (and that will be done safely-don't worry)
Never again will a man have my heart, mind or soul- that's some precious items I am locking away.

I can be happy with no one and Rayne knows exactly what I'm saying here.:cool:

I'm gonna have to agree with urgeok 100% as well [ great advice urge ]




even the alcohol part.....sure I may come across as a beer-guzzling fool...but alcohol IS a depressant. It has no effect on me because I'm an old fuck and have been around the block enough to have pretty much full control.

Novak sis

I wish there was something ..me or anyone in here can do or say
to make the hurt go away..
I truly wish that I could be there in person to give you a hug..
anything ..
but all I can offer you now is

We love you and we are here xxxes

I suggest you rent Hideous Kinky with Kate Winslet. Also, you have my number. I'm mostly around. As a writer, the chance of me being busy is ridiculously small. The chance of me having my phone off for no good reason are slightly higher, but the chance of me being busy is small until the job picks up.

Wish you all the best novakru. Love is so enlightening, yet so terrible. If you are unhappy I think leaving is the best thing. There are too many vulnerable, dependent women in the world; so many good women trapped in their unhappiness when they deserve the world. If anything good comes of this I think it would be strength, definitely.

I'm not gonna try and give you any great advice, it's all been said before. And I think Urge has some really good ideas. They can actually help in other areas of life too. I'm a list maker (to simplify the concept) myself, and it really does help. But I will tell you this, I was in a one-sided relationship for 12 years and since I got out, I feel so much stronger and better about myself it's incredible. From what I understand, he initiated the split, but you know what, he may be doing you the biggest favor of your life. He may live to regret it once he realizes that he lost a great woman, but you can move on and be a better stronger person.

And you can PM me too, any time you want. You WILL get through this, trust me. :)

I'm very sorry to hear about your grandma too. She's at peace, remember that. That's what helps when I think of my parents.

And keep the cat with you. You'll probably end up spoiling it and it'll get fatter. :D

Thank you:)

Yeah, I was unhappy for awhile.
I think our vacation this year back in August really made me see how fucked up everything was in our life...and so, I told him what I felt and he said, well, I am unhappy to-so lets make other arrangements.
It was shocking to think he could let go so easy, with no working on it... no.. let's get some help.
I never felt lower in my life... because he thought that I was that unimportant.
I think that what happened truly is that he saw how I stopped adoring him and he just couldn't take it...that if he actually had to WORK on the relationship it would be easier to just find a new person to put him back on that pedestal.
So basically, his ego has ruined this marriage with children.

All he had to do was give me real love...I am a completely loyal person and that's not too much to ask IMHO.


I am ok though, I lose my mind several times a day but I will be fine.
And I think Mona is totally right, it will make me so much better, because I have been a lost soul long enough.