Monogamy Unrealistic?

[MoonLit Meadow]

Originally posted by hellboy
I dont work that way. Shit I lived with a drug addict for a year until I realized that I loved her so much that I couldnt be with her and watch her kill herself. She was beautiful and had a heart of gold. Just no will to quit crack, even after our daughter was born, which really bothered me, because she quit for the 9 months she was pregnant. If I quit smoking for 9 months, I damn sure wouldnt go back. She was sinking fast and taking me and the kids with her. Then I found out it was her oldest daughters father who was supplying her with the shit. Then I went crazy. Because once the money runs out, she would've resorted to other methods of pay. That would have killed me, or put me away for a long time.

Wow, unreal :(
I'm sorry that you had to go through that, but also happy for you that it's over now. You've obviously been able to pick up the pieces and make a better life for you and your daughter. That's very admirable. :)

[MoonLit Meadow]

Originally posted by hellboy
It took me a while, but I'm pretty much ok. I have to be, My daughter has spent a lot of time with her mom lately. My ex's family insist that she has been clean for quite a while, I hope so. I'm getting along well, tho, thanks for the support.;)

Not a problem. I'm sure it's not easy, but you didn't give up like so many others do. So hell yeah I'm gonna commend ya! ;)

[jenna26]

Originally posted by hellboy
If it were just me, I'm not sure I would've been so strong. But when there's a defenseless child involved.....well, nuff said.:)

I don't have children, but I imagine they really would be the most powerful motivator to get out of a bad situation. But it does take a lot of strength to pull yourself away from someone you love when they are self-destructing and taking you with them. MM is right, it is admirable you were able to do so for your daughter and for yourself. Good for you. :)

[nine9]

I think if you are leaning toward being unfaithful it is a big sign of something wrong in the relationship. So either fix it, or jump ship and do whatever you damn well please with a good conscience.

[MoonLit Meadow]

Originally posted by nine9
I think if you are leaning toward being unfaithful it is a big sign of something wrong in the relationship. So either fix it, or jump ship and do whatever you damn well please with a good conscience.

I definately agree with this nine. Once you start to entertain thoughts of being unfaithful, it's definately time to re-examine your current relationship.
Of course it's only normal to find somebody attractive, etc...but once you start thinking of actually pursuing them...that's when it turns ugly, and it's definately time to figure out what should be done with regard to your present situation.

[MisterSadistro]

I just want to have sex with many uninteresting people and never call them again :D
CK

[meetthecreeper]

Originally posted by hellboy
Does anyone recall when Michaeal Douglas (Basic Instinct, Fatal Attraction) was institutionalized for his addiction to sex? This caused infidelity in his marriage which in turn resulted in divorce. Not being able to commit to one person sexually has been determined, in some cases, is a legitimate medical sickness.

Addiction to sex??? Legit medical sickness???

Yea right so is attention deficit disorder.

Why is it that everytime someone does something that they know to be wrong they turn around and blame it on some sickness or an addiction. Thats all bullshit.

Somebody help the Creeper, he's a sex addict. What a bunch of BS.

Yes I like to have sex, everyday at least 3 times a day and if my woman cant provide me with that, thats why we were given opposable thumbs.:eek:

[nine9]

Originally posted by hellboy
There's a medical term for it, MTC. It escapes me at the moment but it affects at 3 dozen individuals a year. ADD is a medical sickness and shouldnt be taken lightly. If you've had any psychological training in your life, you wouldnt consider it bullshit. Everyones brain works differently.

There are alot worse things I could imagine having other than this one lol :p

[nine9]

Originally posted by hellboy
In my opinion, this sex addiction affect a lot more than 3 dozen people a yyear, look at all these jerks who are married and still take a night or 2 to visit the streets.:rolleyes: I wouldnt want the damn sickness. Cuz the sicknesses that follow are far worse.

Yes I've seen Oprah once or twice. I'm just making light of the whole sordid thing. ;)

[meetthecreeper]

Originally posted by hellboy
There's a medical term for it, MTC. It escapes me at the moment but it affects at 3 dozen individuals a year. ADD is a medical sickness and shouldnt be taken lightly. If you've had any psychological training in your life, you wouldnt consider it bullshit. Everyones brain works differently.

I will not deny that mental illness exists and that it usually goes untreated. Mostly because of the stigma that goes with it.

But I think nowdays doctors are way too quick in putting a label on something and handing out drugs to people like kids in a candy store.

My mother inlaw is a public school teacher in Shitcago. I cant tell you how many times I have had to listen to her drone on about how all her kids in her class have ADD and should be put on Ritalin.

Sounds to me like kids being kids. Let them be kids instead of mindless zombies.

Nymphomania??? I have heard of but not sure of its validity.

And as for everyones brain being different, after my father abandoned me and later died in a car accident my life became quite difficult. Some therpist my mother took me to told me I had bi-polar manic depression. Not that my alcoholic stepfather using me as a punching bag on a daily basis would have anything to do with it. Funny how in my teen years, after I beat his fuckin ass and he left, I really felt better about myself. After I came to terms with my father abandoning me as a child I was even better still. and yet no medication.

Maybe I should blame the alcoholism. There is always an excuse for someones behavior but it doesnt necessarily make it right.

I take back what I said about it being BS.

It just saddens me that most people in this world make excuses for their behavior and we accept it.