Love?

[hacelikewhoa]

I think that love is real in a sense but I don't believe that it lasts. There are too many people in one sided relationships(myself included) for that to be completely true. I know I have the rest of my life to find this out but from the two people I've loved, they soon fall out. The only love in my life I know will stick is within my family.

[Roderick Usher]

Originally Posted by hacelikewhoa

I think that love is real in a sense but I don't believe that it lasts. There are too many people in one sided relationships(myself included) for that to be completely true. I know I have the rest of my life to find this out but from the two people I've loved, they soon fall out. The only love in my life I know will stick is within my family.

You say love won't last and then you say your love for family will last.

What's the difference?

Love is making another person your family (nothing to do with marriage) in a profound way...it is allowing another to know you in the deep and sometimes humiliating way that your family knows you

It's real. Believe me.

[Spallalala]

Originally Posted by hacelikewhoa

I think that love is real in a sense but I don't believe that it lasts. There are too many people in one sided relationships(myself included) for that to be completely true. I know I have the rest of my life to find this out but from the two people I've loved, they soon fall out. The only love in my life I know will stick is within my family.

Yknow I think you need to start looking into other ways of getting your information. Again personal experiences aren't enough to go on. Look around you and see whats going on and get a different perspective on things.

Love for your partner and love for your family are 2 different things. I mean shit you aint gonna screw your family right? Well I hope you aren't one of those people who like to "keep it in the family".

To me if its a one sided relationship its not even a relationship. You gotta have equality and each person of that relationship should be allowed to follow their own dreams (unless its something outrightly stupid).

Real love again does exist and it doesn't always come easy. Some people don't find it till they are mega old and there is no problem with that.
Don't rush and be patient. Nothing comes easy unless you pay em haha and even then you might catch something.

Most things happen when you least expect it.

[Posher778]

Originally Posted by mikeyjay88

How many of you found love and are completely happy? Im starting to believe love only truelly happens to the lucky ones. People always try to say theirs someone out there for everyone well i think thats complete bs the only people that say that already have love so blah! I think love is fake but thats just me i guess or does anyone else agree with me??

*Sigh*


Come over.

[mikeyjay88]

Originally Posted by Posher778

*Sigh*


Come over.

Haha im gonna pass on that invitation..thanks.

Hace: I agree with you that love can be to one sided at times. I also think love is something that can pass you by at any give moment. Thats why i think i havent found the actual right girl. Im to busy worrying about if that person is suppose to be with my or not and as soon as i feel any kind of feelings for that person i think its love and its not. Its a confusing thing. I hope the best for you in your life, and i also hope you find someone who loves you the way they should.

[missmacabre]

I am with Spalala on this topic. If it's one sided, it's not love. There should definately be equal give and take. When you love someone you would do anything for them, including making sacrifices for the other person's well being. You have to know what's best for your partner, and have similar goals.

For example, I live very frugally and plan out all my spending, because I know my boyfriend is going to have a lot of school debt despite his savings. I would love to spend my money on an apartment but I live at home and make that sacrifice so I can help him out financially down the road. All because I love him, and know what's best for us. Make sense?

[Azazel005]

Such a simple word.

You know one of the first thing's I think of when the discussion of love comes up? Kayaking.

I think of the first time I paddled out into the middle of Hunter River that run through my small country town. Resting the oar across the surface of my Kayak, leaning back and soaking up the sun. I loved that moment and that feeling, and sure I love Kayaking but never as much as a loved that solitary moment. That's not a metaphor by the way.

I remember thinking of the girl I loved, how very likely it would be that I'd marry her and spawn children and gather some altogether mundane trade under my belt and commence carving out a living. The only important thing was finding things that you loved, and enjoying them. Things with the girl I loved, with the children whom were just spark in my imagination, things with my family and things alone with no one. Moments that to rather lamely quote Queens of the Stone Age “Made it beautiful to live”.

I never married that girl, or any other, the feeling stuck with me though.

I know for the most part I have failed in that, I've succeeded at times and just tried to take the most out of everything I can, and at times I have been dragged down by other things and not made any effort.

I love movies, literature, video games, strange places and even altogether mundane places that I just happen to be doing something new and interesting in. I have loved people, and perhaps there is no greater love then to love someone for all their faults, it makes you irreverent and leaves you smiling like an idiot and has people saying things like “Oh all the good ones are taken”. Can it be one sided? I think it can though it's easy to confuse with fascination and it doesn't always end well when it IS one sided. It can still make you feel that way though.

Finding anything you love is important though and looking into the open world thinking “why can't I find the one meant for me?” simply denies you the pleasure of all the other things you love. Don't waste you heart pining use it, use it on other things and more then likely you will cross paths with someone that you can fall in love with and it's always much more powerful when your not staring at the horizon looking for it.

[ChronoGrl]

Originally Posted by Azazel005

Finding anything you love is important though and looking into the open world thinking “why can't I find the one meant for me?” simply denies you the pleasure of all the other things you love. Don't waste you heart pining use it, use it on other things and more then likely you will cross paths with someone that you can fall in love with and it's always much more powerful when your not staring at the horizon looking for it.

It's true. I honestly don't understand the mindset of people who are looking for that one. In my life, I've loved people, I do love people, but there was never a point where I was looking for love.

What's more important is finding that love in your life, be it hobbies, movies, music, going out, staying in, whatever it is... And sometimes someone will wander in... sometimes they won't... But regardless, if you don't have other things in your life that fulfill you, then it doesn't matter whether or not there is that One. You can't sit there and hold out for that One. You can't sit there an pine for that One. You need to look and fulfill yourself. Putting a huge amount of pressure and expectations on Love will do nothing but let you down. And I don't mean that in a pessimistic way; I'm not saying that the One doesn't exist. What I'm saying is that if you build up the concept of that Perfect One, well guess what - You will be disappointed.

Find fulfillment in your life. If you're lonely, go out and meet people, but don't put pressure on them with this concept of the perfect one - it's not fair to you and it's not fair to that person that you're with. It also doesn't leave a lot of room for exploration and experimentation. The fact of the matter is that people are not perfect - You're not and neither are the people that you find... But if you find things in your life that fulfill you, then you won't hold out for that ONE PERSON to complete you.

Complete yourself first.

[Spallalala]

Aww..I must say I loved reading your posts Azazel and Chrono.

[newb]

Originally Posted by Azazel005

Such a simple word.

You know one of the first thing's I think of when the discussion of love comes up? Kayaking.

I think of the first time I paddled out into the middle of Hunter River that run through my small country town. Resting the oar across the surface of my Kayak, leaning back and soaking up the sun. I loved that moment and that feeling, and sure I love Kayaking but never as much as a loved that solitary moment. That's not a metaphor by the way.

I remember thinking of the girl I loved, how very likely it would be that I'd marry her and spawn children and gather some altogether mundane trade under my belt and commence carving out a living. The only important thing was finding things that you loved, and enjoying them. Things with the girl I loved, with the children whom were just spark in my imagination, things with my family and things alone with no one. Moments that to rather lamely quote Queens of the Stone Age “Made it beautiful to live”.

I never married that girl, or any other, the feeling stuck with me though.

I know for the most part I have failed in that, I've succeeded at times and just tried to take the most out of everything I can, and at times I have been dragged down by other things and not made any effort.

I love movies, literature, video games, strange places and even altogether mundane places that I just happen to be doing something new and interesting in. I have loved people, and perhaps there is no greater love then to love someone for all their faults, it makes you irreverent and leaves you smiling like an idiot and has people saying things like “Oh all the good ones are taken”. Can it be one sided? I think it can though it's easy to confuse with fascination and it doesn't always end well when it IS one sided. It can still make you feel that way though.

Finding anything you love is important though and looking into the open world thinking “why can't I find the one meant for me?” simply denies you the pleasure of all the other things you love. Don't waste you heart pining use it, use it on other things and more then likely you will cross paths with someone that you can fall in love with and it's always much more powerful when your not staring at the horizon looking for it.

very nice


I thought this thread was about sex