Christmas Blues.

[newb]

I don't mind Christmas. I really enjoy my kids [ not kids anymore..30, 26, 24, 17 ] and we have a good time together.
Not too fond of the music...I can take about 1/2 hour of it. Hate shopping but I deal with it. And all in all most people seem to be in good cheer this time of year, and if their not ...then fuck em....I tend to keep my distance from moody people anyway.

I also am very fond of this seasonal brew :D

[urgeok2]

Originally Posted by newb

....I tend to keep my distance from people anyway.

me too !!!




just kidding .... and dont get me wrong - i'm not moody at all - i just avoid the things i dont like - and only get pissed when i'm forced to do them.
But even then i make the best of the situation..

[stubbornforgey]

[QUOTE=Roderick Usher;766513][QUOTE=stubbornforgey;766457]I blame nobody for my misery as its up to me to move on.

This is probably the bravest thing I've yet read on this forum. I'm really sorry that your circumstances have really sucked lately, but I sincerely aplaud you for being honest and frank and inspiring.

aw shucks.

:o
lol.

seriously though..I too applaud what you posted because there are no truer
words spoken.
Members here have heard almost everything heartbreaking out there and we have supported our fellow posters ..but what inspires me the most are those that stand up and say enough is enough then take back control.
When all is said and done...nobody owns you but yourself.

[mikeyjay88]

I agree that no one owns you but yourself. However when your down and out your parents should be there for you. Mine didnt care about me, i got to live in my car and motels payed for by my grandma who couldnt take me in because she didnt want to "Stir up trouble" with my folks. From 15-18 i had to live like that. Before my parents got divorced my dad beat me my mom yelled at me for every small thing i did. Than my mom remarried to a dickhead who hates me simply because im not his real kid. Seriously leaving L.A. is the worst thing im ever going to have to do. Thats why i hate my parents. I really didnt care to share this but i guess i must just so you all know its not just teenage angst, they didnt just tell me no all the time, im not just a spoiled brat. I have good reason to feel the way i do.

[Vodstok]

Originally Posted by mikeyjay88

I agree that no one owns you but yourself. However when your down and out your parents should be there for you. Mine didnt care about me, i got to live in my car and motels payed for by my grandma who couldnt take me in because she didnt want to "Stir up trouble" with my folks. From 15-18 i had to live like that. Before my parents got divorced my dad beat me my mom yelled at me for every small thing i did. Than my mom remarried to a dickhead who hates me simply because im not his real kid. Seriously leaving L.A. is the worst thing im ever going to have to do. Thats why i hate my parents. I really didnt care to share this but i guess i must just so you all know its not just teenage angst, they didnt just tell me no all the time, im not just a spoiled brat. I have good reason to feel the way i do.

I wrote off my family too, and I am much happier for it.

For the record, i love the holidays. I remember what I always liked about this time of year and that is it. Plus, its kinda hard to be down when you have a new dog, especially when its not because the previous one died.

Oh, and for the record, rod's post didnt judge anyone. Any judgement derived from it comes from the reader alone. so there :p

[mikeyjay88]

Originally Posted by Vodstok

I wrote off my family too, and I am much happier for it.

For the record, i love the holidays. I remember what I always liked about this time of year and that is it. Plus, its kinda hard to be down when you have a new dog, especially when its not because the previous one died.

Oh, and for the record, rod's post didnt judge anyone. Any judgement derived from it comes from the reader alone. so there :p

I didnt think rod judged anyone. I just think that what he said was true in some cases and not in others.

[ferretchucker]

Wow. Quite a few issues have been raised in this thread!

I think it's a lot easier to say you hate someone than it is to actually hate them. Currently, I don't hate anybody. There are many people I dislike, but I'd never wish anything bad upon them and they don't deserve it. But I do think in some circumstances hate is...acceptable.

I love Winter, especially December. My parents have always put in a great effort to give me and my siblings the best possible Christmas.

- We put up lights.
Not to try and outdo everybody. It's a pleasant reminder to us and those around us that Christmas is here and it's a time for love.

-We listen to the music and watch the films.
Pretty much the same reason as above.

-We try our best to make others happy.
And unfortunately, it seems the way to do that at Christmas is with material objects. But we do smile at people, invite friends and family around for dinner and games and all sorts.


My birthday is also in December, so that has always been something to look forward to. I have a party, I meet friends and keep the good spirit in my heart and though I don't force it on others, I wish that they accept it because there is no greater thing a person can do for themselves than be happy.

Then there's new years eve and day. Once again, a time to talk to those you may not pay enough attention to during the year. You get to see them, talk to them and have a fun time to them.

One thing I dislike about the way that Christmas is celebrated these days is that so many people forget what it was all about. Christmas is a time to remember the birth of Jesus. Now, I'm not a Christian. I was brought up in an environment where christianity was the main religion but I myself am an agnostic. But still. There was a man named Jesus, and whether or not you believe he was the son of God, he did do good. He made peoples lives that little bit better, even if it was just through giving them faith. And he did get crucified, for doing these good deeds (though that's a whole other holiday).

Now, it has been discovered that many facts about his birth a probably wrong. He was most likely born several years BC, there were only 10 months then (July and August were invented in honour of Julius and Augustus). It was several hundred years after these events took place that December 25th was chosen, but whether it was the day it happened, it did happen. Whether the whole nativity story is wrong, the man who did a lot of good was Born, and we celebrate it on that day. I don't think enough people remember that.

But, I'd like to not finish this post on a down, so, just remember, even if you're upset at holiday times, or you're angry, remember the way Stubbs chooses to live. Keep your problems from bringing down those around you. Sure, vent to others, it's good to get things out, but just please try to give out as much goodness as you can. A person who gives out goodness gets it back tenfold.

[urgeok2]

Originally Posted by ferretchucker

I think it's a lot easier to say you hate someone than it is to actually hate them. .

and it's easier to make that statement after people have said how they feel ... if you havent experienced what they've experienced.

[Vodstok]

Originally Posted by urgeok2

and it's easier to make that statement after people have said how they feel ... if you havent experienced what they've experienced.

Very true. Plus, hating some people is easy and doesnt require much work, its just a natural reaction.

I am much much happier with my life now that family isnt part of it. Thinking back on my fond memories of my childhood this time of year, i realize what i liked best had NOTHING to do with them.

i love the lights, the general happiness the decorations bring out, i especially love how excited Lily gets about everything. Vicarious thrills are the best sometimes.

[stubbornforgey]

Originally Posted by urgeok2

and it's easier to make that statement after people have said how they feel ... if you havent experienced what they've experienced.

this is so true.