what is your fantasy of the perfect girl or boy

[ds_spoon]

i said j-lo

but basically i like curvy tanned brown haired girls or dirty blonde

[Arioch]

like all the stuff Arioch said if a girl dont have that then she just dont seem worth it.

for real

Somebody you can laugh with..., somebody who's tolerant, somebody who doesn't run off at the mouth before having all the facts before them (just TRY to find that), somebody that can make you smile, just by smiling....(I get that)... Somebody that makes you feel like you can just be cool being you, somebody that you can talk to, about anything, even stupid or boring shit, yet still find the conversation stimulating enough, simply because the two of you share so many views, and somebody that makes you think of the future, with them in it, and most importantly, you don't have to know exactly WHY you feel the way you do about them, you just know that there's no changing it...

I agree with that, ive been there and know how it felt. Once was enough for me. It is a truly wonderfull feeling thou...

[abbycomix]

This is an interesting thread!
Hmmm...
For looks I like androgynous guys, usually slim to medium build, longish or spiky, punky hair, rock n' roll style. Pretty eyes and mouth, I usually like short guys but tall ones are Ok too. They should have some fashion sense and not be afraid to rock the eye-liner billy idol style.
Personality wise they have to be sweet and nice, I am nice and I can't stand nasty guys. I do not put up with crap. (Nor do I dish it out) They should have a good sense of humor but not too sarcastic or mean. Supportive that I am in a band (some guys are weird about that). I like to have my guy in the audience when I play and also they should be supportive of my cartooning. Be morally and emotionally supportive and I give 110% back. He should be creative and have his own stuff going on. He would be smart and like to read a lot too. But perhaps most importantly he'd be able to talk about his feelings when he has a problem instead of bottling up and acting cold, a common problem. I know it sounds cheesy but communication IS most important thing. That would be ideal.

[teenagezombie]

Originally posted by Arioch
Your TOO nice, theres no conflict in the relationship:rolleyes:

they dumped you for being TOO nice???? what where they looking for an abusive asshole?? i believe you can do better than them Arioch......way better.

I know how you feel my b/f just dumped me for being too nice to him. i thought he was happy with me but i guess i was wrong :(

i dont have a fantasy guy.......why fantasize about someone you will never get with? like brad pitt or justin timeberlake ya their hot but im never gonna be with them so i dont see the point in drooling over them.
ive been throw the ringer with guys many many times (just recently i had a painful break up) :( and i feel im giving up on love. i never really thought about it but now that i am...........i want someone like my ex :(
ya i know im wallowing in selfpity:(

[rikki]

I just want a guy who will shut up, have good sex with me and not call me on the phone. I hate the phone and I don't want to be in any kind of relationship any time soon.

But... if I did meet someone who swept me off my feet or something, he'd have to be a bit aloof and kind of weird. And not want to talk on the phone all day. And I don't want anyone calling me at work or thinking that they need to come visit me at work. And he'd have to be funny and taller than me and able to burp at least half way through the alphabet. He should be able to handle his liquor, smoke pot without being a pot head, and not want kids 'cause I'm not willing to give birth to them. He shouldn't get scared easily and has to know how to handle a gun. He should like outdoorsy stuff more than I do (this way I have a bit more incentive to do outdoorsy stuff) and he HAS to understand what "personal space" is. Oh, and he should have a bit of a crude sense of humor, otherwise we might not get along because he'd probably think I was mean. And he has to be willing to put up all the holiday decorations and should have the sense to know that Christmas lights should be put up BEFORE the snow falls.

And above all else - if something makes me look fat, he'd better fucking tell me.

[rikki]

well, not ALL the holiday decorations, but the ones outside anyway.

OH! And he has to know how to fix cars. And it'd be super cool if he could fix computers, too. And he has to be smart - like able to play Scrabble using words other than bodily functions, 4 letter words or 6th grade reading level words. And he should be able to complete a crossword puzzle and know what juxtaposition and masticate mean (they're my favorite words) and he should understand the "the wise never truly graduate" does NOT mean that smart people are all high school drop outs.

[rikki]

Oh and for those of you being dumped for being "too nice," it's actually more likely that that's just what someone told you. More times than not, the "too nice" comment is about people who have a lack of self confidence. There's nice and then there's pushover. I've dumped guys for the same reason. I don't want someone I can walk all over, there's got to be some driving force.

I don't personally know any of you, so I'm not saying that this is the same case for you. This is just what I know from personal experience. It's not so much the conflict as it is the possibility of conflict. If you don't have any confidence, you're not likely to stand up for what you want. "I dunno, whadda you wanna do" is THE biggest sign of this. If you can't come up with something to do half the time, there's no fun in it.

[Arioch]

I don't personally know any of you, so I'm not saying that this is the same case for you. This is just what I know from personal experience. It's not so much the conflict as it is the possibility of conflict. If you don't have any confidence, you're not likely to stand up for what you want. "I dunno, whadda you wanna do" is THE biggest sign of this. If you can't come up with something to do half the time, there's no fun in it.

well, ya it does sound like an excues but ive gotten it from at least 3-4 girls. Im not insecure enough to not know what i want and not go after it. I may be insecure but im not Indecisive. I would make sure the relationship is give and take, that its good on both sides ya know.

My family taught me to treat women like Princesses, and it took me a long time to figure out thats not really what women want.

[rikki]

Arioch, they really should rephrase that to "treat single moms like princesses." Most other women want someone who's a man's man, but sensitive when it's just them, too. At least that's my opinion on the whole thing.

Ignore them and they will seek you.

Just remember - everyday do something "guyish" and blow them off or say something sexist or something along those lines. An apple a day keeps the doctor away, but an asshole remark a day keeps the girls in line.

[abbycomix]

i would not be attracted to a guy who made up 'guy' excuses to blow me off just to seem confident and not 'too nice'.
Maybe Arioch wasn't 'too nice', maybe these girls were 'too messed up' to appreciate somebody who treated them well. Plus at different times in people's lives they have different needs when it comes to being serious or not. Not everyone is capable of intimacy. There are plenty of people out there like that.
Acting macho and aloof may be good advice if you want someone who likes macho types and being emotionally manipulated. But blowing someone off to seem busy and in demand is a bad head game. I think it's best to be yourself and yes do treat women like princesses and they should treat men like princes. If you aren't being treated well, don't put up with it there are more fish in the sea. Relationships are a give and take and that old quote 'Do unto others' really goes a long way.