Cheating?

[urgeok]

Originally posted by bloodrayne
But...If you're already in a relationship, how could you possibly BE "interested" in someone else?

i think you could see the potential of what might have been ..

its if you allow yourself to get too wrapped up in it or not that is the problem.


i've met women that i thought were great and if i was single i would love to have a chance to get to know them .. but i wouldnt dwell on it .. it isnt a threat to my relationship ..

[The STE]

Originally posted by bloodrayne
But...If you're already in a relationship, how could you possibly BE "interested" in someone else?

Back in November, when I was going out with my ex, there was this girl in my 2nd and 4th hours that I had started developing feelings for. But, given that I was already in a relationship, I ignored them. They were (and are) there, but I did nothing about them.

Would you consider that cheating?

[urgeok]

Originally posted by bloodrayne
Well..That kinda depends for me...I mean there's looking, and thinking something like "that guy is attractive"....And then there's looking and thinking something like "Oh man!...I want some o' that!".....So, I actually think the 'thinking' part, plays a bigger role than it seems...

i think there is a huge number of guys that equate liking the looks of a girl with wanting to tap it.

I've always been content to enjoy the view.
Even the times between relationships i'd usually rather look ..
you can instinctually tell that some people are a lot more interesting to look at than to be with.

[bloodrayne]

Originally posted by urgeok
i think you could see the potential of what might have been ..

its if you allow yourself to get too wrapped up in it or not that is the problem.


i've met women that i thought were great and if i was single i would love to have a chance to get to know them .. but i wouldnt dwell on it .. it isnt a threat to my relationship ..

But...If you go so far as to 'let someone know' that you're interested in them...What would the point of that be?...If you have no intention of leaving the person you're with, you'd just be leading the other person on...And, I just think that if you really love someone, you CAN'T think of any other 'possibilities'...I think that telling someone you're interested in them would be getting 'wrapped up' in something that shouldn't...

[urgeok]

Originally posted by bloodrayne
But...If you go so far as to 'let someone know' that you're interested in them...What would the point of that be?...If you have no intention of leaving the person you're with, you'd just be leading the other person on...And, I just think that if you really love someone, you CAN'T think of any other 'possibilities'...I think that telling someone you're interested in them would be getting 'wrapped up' in something that shouldn't...

no i wouldnt let them know ..

maybe interested is 2 different things for you and me ..
i'm not talking about sexual tension .. i'm talking more about friendship ... admiring someone for the person they are ...
not some growing desire to bed them ..

[The STE]

oh, yeah, telling someone you're interested wouldn't be right

[bloodrayne]

Originally posted by The STE
Back in November, when I was going out with my ex, there was this girl in my 2nd and 4th hours that I had started developing feelings for. But, given that I was already in a relationship, I ignored them. They were (and are) there, but I did nothing about them.

Would you consider that cheating?

I would take that as a sign that the person you were with, probably wasn't really the person you actually wanted to BE with....If you are in a relationship, and you feel yourself 'developing feelings' for someone else...That's probably a good time to face the fact that you aren't really in love with the person you are with, and that you may just be wasting your time...And theirs...

[The STE]

Originally posted by bloodrayne
I would take that as a sign that the person you were with, probably wasn't really the person you actually wanted to BE with....If you are in a relationship, and you feel yourself 'developing feelings' for someone else...That's probably a good time to face the fact that you aren't really in love with the person you are with, and that you may just be wasting your time...And theirs...

well, you apparenlty would've been right anyways.

I probably should've stayed out of this one, the only experience I can draw from isn't really a good example

[urgeok]

Originally posted by bloodrayne
I would take that as a sign that the person you were with, probably wasn't really the person you actually wanted to BE with....If you are in a relationship, and you feel yourself 'developing feelings' for someone else...That's probably a good time to face the fact that you aren't really in love with the person you are with, and that you may just be wasting your time...And theirs...

didnt you see Dr Zhivago ? :D

[bloodrayne]

Originally posted by urgeok
no i wouldnt let them know ..

maybe interested is 2 different things for you and me ..
i'm not talking about sexual tension .. i'm talking more about friendship ... admiring someone for the person they are ...
not some growing desire to bed them ..

And again...There is the difference in semantics....I view being interested in someone as being interested in a possible relationship with them...