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11-24-2006, 07:46 AM
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What scares you the most as a parent?
As you know, I had my first child almost a year ago (YAY!), and I tell you, it has been a year of the most extreme emotions ever. There's the love, and admiration, and immense feelings of accomplishment-even over a poopy diaper.
I got to thinking though; I don't think I've ever been this paranoid in my entire life. I worry about everything: fire, strangers, bugs (we have some Godzilla spiders), suffocation. Now my biggest fear is leaving her. I think I'm more afraid now of dying because I don't want to leave her here alone. I went to school to become a police officer, but now I don't think I will carry on with that dream. I may go into psychology, but I don't have the same desire to save other people no matter what happens to me. Especially the a**holes I live around, why would I want to die for them? I never feared death or pain or anything, and I still don't when it pertains to me, but then I think about what Lily would go through and that scares the hell out of me. So...all you parents out there, what scares you?
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11-24-2006, 08:02 AM
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i just said in another thread a short while ago - that the thought of dying never bothered me until i had my kid .. so now that bothers me enough to make me a much more careful person.
i'm afraid of screwing up... i never liked my parents - i'd be devastated if my kid ever felt that way about me. i'm afraid of making a bad call or decision that will have a negative impact later on in his life. i'm afraid of the possibility that i may have already done that without knowing i'm afraid that he'll ever get hurt. mentally or physically i'm afraid that he'll grow up to be a bad person (it's in the back of your mind - stirred into conciousness whenever you see another bad kid) mostly i fear not being around to help him and watch him grow up..
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11-24-2006, 02:22 PM
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I lost a child to a drunken driver just over a month ago
I have lived my worse fair and have never quite recovered :( :(
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11-24-2006, 02:48 PM
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Sorry to hear that Stubs..... :(
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11-24-2006, 04:59 PM
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Leaving them IS tough...to this day...my wife and I have never used a babysitter other than our immediate family (in-laws, and my parents) that's it...over protective, probably...but they (14 and 7)are the most important things out there.
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11-24-2006, 06:19 PM
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Yes, exactly. I was emotionally abused by my step grandfather from the ages of 7-14ish. I won't get into that, but it has made me the person I am today and not all for the better. I have all of those wonderful self esteem issues, and I think I’m completely hideous. All thanks to that jackass. My family is quite a dysfunctional one, and my entire life I said that I was going to raise a child the right way, in my eyes. I wanted to be married first and have a man who would stay in the family (I didn't have that). I also wanted to do everything I could to make sure my child knew how important she is, special, beautiful, smart, extraordinary. I guess I want for my Lily what all good parents do. But I am rather afraid of screwing up. I can't study for this; I have to use my best judgment, but what if I don't have the best judgment? I suppose wanting to do my best is a start. My sympathies Miss Stubborn:(
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11-24-2006, 06:49 PM
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she was an 11 yr old beauty who had emerald eyes. She wanted to go the shop with her friends and i said no..but she kept going on and on and on..so eventually i gave in. As they were leaving the store a drunk driver ran up onto the footpath..crashing into them ..critically injuring her friends but killing her instantly.. Being a parent was never supposed to be easy..as much as i wrapped my children in cottonball and bubble wrap.. as much as laid rules down ..made sure they were healthy..had a happy home..had good food...showered them with so much love..overprotected them..that i trusted no human..no animal..nothing.. they bitched and moaned cos i never allowed them past my gate past 4 pm..and any sleep overs had to be arranged to be held at my house. See i,too was sexually abused and by a trusted family member..and i promised myself that this shall never happen to my children...or should my children come to me with any complaint..i will investigate thoroughly ..cos i as a child was only believed by one person when i told. I did everything possible to reassure myself that my children will never have to suffer and yet.. i couldn't forsee what was going to happen by giving in so easily to something so innocent. 'weep' :( :o i have never forgiven myself for that one day.:(
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11-25-2006, 08:19 AM
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Young guy (17 or 18) who rides motorcycles with us some went missing this am...got a call that they found him off a curvy road that we ride and it wasn't good at all(he's dead).
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11-25-2006, 08:29 AM
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its like - what are we supposed to do ?
we spend all or time protecting them, raising them to be sensible and careful, then out of the blue some irresponsible drunk driving cocksucker takes your child or family away in the blink of an eye. but ... they didnt mean it .. it was just a mistake ! oh, well, thats ok then ..it was just my and their lives you destroyed .. no biggie..
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