My boyfriend REPLACED me with HIS 16-year OLD textmate

[Empress_Of_Drac]

Now, everything seems to END. I caught HIM. So SAD but VERY real...so painfully TRUE. I wish I was ONLY DREAMING. The SAD thing is THE girl HE replaced ME became one of my textmates since she's also one of the MEMBERS of our INDIE clan. She's the VERY person who TOLD me that HE is her BOYFRIEND...yeah boyfriend in TEXT(and they are just 1 week in their FRIGGIN' relationship). I was FRIGGIN' dumbfounded. I've BEEN very FAITHFUL to HIM in our almost 11 mos. of relationship. So LOYAL and FAITHFUL that sometimes I don't even bother to LOOK if there's any GOOD Looking MALES in my surroundings. It hit me HARD right DOWN my FACE. It's LIKE am being lambasted by a HARD baseball bat. The INTENSITY is too STRONG I hallucinated that I passed out. It's TOO painful to KNOW that the MAN you LOVE has replaced you that EASILY...so easy...and the worst thing IS...he replaced ME with a 16-year old girl...barely a high school STUDENT who he just happened to KNOW only in TEXT. It's TOO painful...too HARD to ACCEPT that AFTER all the HARDSHIPS and SACRIFICES I did it just came down to THIS.

The girl became a FRIEND of MINE in TEXT. She EVEN greeted ME in HER GMs(general messages) for the WHOLE CLAN. In HER FRIGGIN' greetings she always greet somebody and she CALLED him "DEAR"...and for ALL I know the GUY that she's been calling "DEAR" is MY EMPEROR. It's too PAINFUL that I just came to REALIZE all this FRIGGIN' stuff NOW. As she BECAME my textmate FRIEND I shared to HER the pains I went THROUGH in my CURRENT relationship BUT FOR all I KNOW she's been the GIRL in that FRIGGIN' third PARTY. It's TOO painful! I've BEEN crying for almost three WEEKS now. And it just DOWNED to me WHY HE seems to pick quarrels with ME and why it's TOO hard for ME to PLEASE him. He's BEEN playing at MY back for A WEEK. I AM BETRAYED.

[Zero]

Originally posted by Empress_Of_Drac
Now, everything seems to END. I caught HIM. So SAD but VERY real...so painfully TRUE.

EoD - it sounds trite but its true: you are better off without him and its his loss. Besides anyone who wants to spend time with a 16year old (and who is not himself a 16 year old) - has a screw loose!

[Posher778]

summon pumpkinhead on his sorry ass.

[Yellow Jacket]

He's an asshole! Just forget about him! I know it's hard, but over time, you'll find Mr. Right and you can then see your ex depressed, trying to win you back, knowing he did the wrong thing. But, by then, you shouldn't care because no matter how sweet he is the second time around, you know what he did to you before and he'll just do it again. Hope you feel better!

[Empress_Of_Drac]

It's TOO painful since my LOVE for HIM is STILL here. It doesn't vanish to the fact that HE's BETRAYING ME. Am stupid and a FOOL.

[Yellow Jacket]

Originally posted by Empress_Of_Drac
It's TOO painful since my LOVE for HIM is STILL here. It doesn't vanish to the fact that HE's BETRAYING ME. Am stupid and a FOOL.

True, and I'm not trying to tell you to just forget about him like that (though that's how it came out. Sorry.). I'm just saying try to do other things than just cry over him. I've been in this position before too (I'm a guy, but it still does have the same effect) and I'll admit it. It hurt for the longest of time. I never thought that I'd get over it. Sometimes I still think about her. But, overtime, I've grown out of her and my love for her and have moved on. Sure, the pain will stay with you forever, but it'll just lessen and lessen overtime.

[VampiricClown]

And every girl that I tell "I Hate Males", they act all weird towards me. This is one reason I have no male friends. I don't want to be caught up in all of their stupid "cheating" antics.

Empress, My apologies for your guy. People who do that kind of thing in relationships are dumb. One of my girlfriends dumped me for an ex boyfriend that is "illegal" for her to be with. And another dumped me because I'm NOT a pervert. :confused: Those were the only two exceptions, but all of my other relationships....I was cheated on.

I'm sorry to say, but the pain you're feeling for him, won't go away. Even the love you feel for him is going to be around for awhile no matter what you or him either one, do. It will decrease overtime as YJ said, but it will never completley heal. :(

The best thing you can do right now, is find friends to talk to about it. I'm here if you need to talk, just IM me. And I'm sure some of the other's here would be willing to talk to you about it.

You may also try finding something else to do to keep your mind busy.

[Despare]

11 mos. in is a better time to find out than 2 years...
Not that it makes it any easier.

[stubbornforgey]

Originally posted by Empress_Of_Drac
Now, everything seems to END. I caught HIM. So SAD but VERY real...so painfully TRUE. I wish I was ONLY DREAMING. The SAD thing is THE girl HE replaced ME became one of my textmates since she's also one of the MEMBERS of our INDIE clan. She's the VERY person who TOLD me that HE is her BOYFRIEND...yeah boyfriend in TEXT(and they are just 1 week in their FRIGGIN' relationship). I was FRIGGIN' dumbfounded. I've BEEN very FAITHFUL to HIM in our almost 11 mos. of relationship. So LOYAL and FAITHFUL that sometimes I don't even bother to LOOK if there's any GOOD Looking MALES in my surroundings. It hit me HARD right DOWN my FACE. It's LIKE am being lambasted by a HARD baseball bat. The INTENSITY is too STRONG I hallucinated that I passed out. It's TOO painful to KNOW that the MAN you LOVE has replaced you that EASILY...so easy...and the worst thing IS...he replaced ME with a 16-year old girl...barely a high school STUDENT who he just happened to KNOW only in TEXT. It's TOO painful...too HARD to ACCEPT that AFTER all the HARDSHIPS and SACRIFICES I did it just came down to THIS.

The girl became a FRIEND of MINE in TEXT. She EVEN greeted ME in HER GMs(general messages) for the WHOLE CLAN. In HER FRIGGIN' greetings she always greet somebody and she CALLED him "DEAR"...and for ALL I know the GUY that she's been calling "DEAR" is MY EMPEROR. It's too PAINFUL that I just came to REALIZE all this FRIGGIN' stuff NOW. As she BECAME my textmate FRIEND I shared to HER the pains I went THROUGH in my CURRENT relationship BUT FOR all I KNOW she's been the GIRL in that FRIGGIN' third PARTY. It's TOO painful! I've BEEN crying for almost three WEEKS now. And it just DOWNED to me WHY HE seems to pick quarrels with ME and why it's TOO hard for ME to PLEASE him. He's BEEN playing at MY back for A WEEK. I AM BETRAYED.

I almost cried when i read this..
I have been there and yes it hurts like a fucker..
When you think that after all the years
you have gotten over the pain ..but it keeps resurfacing .
My 1st husband left me for my bestfreind.
The dumbest thing about all of this ..she lived miles away and moved to aux..so i invited her to live with us (1st mistake) till she settled..
Asked him to get her a job at his company (2nd mistake).
The fun we shared..the secrets we shared..
3rd mistake ..was being too fuckin vulnerable.
I have never healed , despite my happy life now..ithe betrayal has wounded me so much..to date..i have enver befreinded another female in r/l.
When one tries to get close..i simply chase them away.
When one asks questions about my husband..I tell them to mind thier own fucking business.
Your better off ..
don't let that little slut know how hard your taking it as it gives her more power over you..shes loving every minute of your pain.
Start looking at other men..start looking for somebody else once you start to heal.
G.L and keep your head up girl.

[Empress_Of_Drac]

Originally posted by stubbornforgey
I almost cried when i read this..
I have been there and yes it hurts like a fucker..
When you think that after all the years
you have gotten over the pain ..but it keeps resurfacing .
My 1st husband left me for my bestfreind.
The dumbest thing about all of this ..she lived miles away and moved to aux..so i invited her to live with us (1st mistake) till she settled..
Asked him to get her a job at his company (2nd mistake).
The fun we shared..the secrets we shared..
3rd mistake ..was being too fuckin vulnerable.
I have never healed , despite my happy life now..ithe betrayal has wounded me so much..to date..i have enver befreinded another female in r/l.
When one tries to get close..i simply chase them away.
When one asks questions about my husband..I tell them to mind thier own fucking business.
Your better off ..
don't let that little slut know how hard your taking it as it gives her more power over you..shes loving every minute of your pain.
Start looking at other men..start looking for somebody else once you start to heal.
G.L and keep your head up girl.

When I woke UP this MORNIN I felt LIKE I don't feel Anything BUT when I read all YOUR replies it seems LIKE I wanted to burst OUT crying AGAIN. Yeah, I hold my HEAD high. I even TRIED to congratulate THEM. Can YOU believe THAT? I tried to REACH to all THE clan MEMBERS that I'M no LOSER...that it's the TWO of them and NOT me. The PAIN is still HERE...too MUCH pain I don't KNOW if I can work NOW in the office without CRYING before my monitor. Pack that sheet!