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Originally Posted by Sculpt
As a Twentieth Century Western man, I suppose it's rather normal for me to accept women being 'tomboys' - enjoying things men do, joining men in most all activities, expecting to be treated with respect and fairly, and being assertive.
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I can tell you from experience that that is very true! My theory - and it's only a theory - is that some woman feel threatened by another woman who is able to be "one of the guys", and see it as an unfair advantage (although believe me, being a tomboy is NOT the way to get a date!).
I also suspect that maybe, even if it's subconsiously, that is what bothers some of you guys who have a problem with feminine men, as you talked about in your post. I had a male friend once who was very effeminate. I didn't have the boundaries with him that I would normally have in the company of a man. We even shared a bed on a few occasions.
And I experienced on several occasions that men threatened or harrased him when we were walking down the street together - but more often than not, they seemed to be in a rage because I was by his side, and it seemed very important for them to point out to me that they were real men and he was not.