[Leprucky Cougar]

newb: lol

Well I agree that as of late Valentine's Day has been commericialized...but just because the advertising industry has done so...doesn't mean that you personally have to give a "bah humbug" to the holiday as well. Don't let that aspect rain on your parade to "spread the love." And I agree with those of you whom hinted at the fact, that there shouldn't be just one day to showcase your love for a signifcant other: you should do that all of the time. But for the sake of those (mostly women, but some men too) that want at least one moment in their intimate lives something special--out of the ordinary from their partner to show affection---and for those that aren't married to have an anniversary the moment shouldn't be taken away.

Now, this isn't an insult to those that are single, for I am too. It's not a day to poke fun at those who are---and its not meant to assume that the only ones obliged or allowed to celebrate are those who are "couples in love."-though that's probably a universal assumption. Any body here every make and give out valentines to each other's classmates when in school? Well then--you had "valentines"--no (5-10 year olds) were dating anyone (at least I think) yet they still would partake in the event. The thing was they had valentines b/c there was some form of a special bond they had--and it didn't neccessarily have to be a relationship.

The thing is guys: We shouldn't continue to endorse the negativity or false portrayal of what Valentine's Day should be or is about. At the same time, it doesn't mean that together, we can't slowly remind those about the true purpose and intent and shade away from the ignorant minds of such advertisers may have for it. Because if you think about it: Valentine's Day isn't the only thing commericalized or commodified. Almost everything is (especially recently) so if we wanna argue about that, we might as well with lots of other things in the world.


Now that the theory issues are over....

For any straight guys on hdc that plan doing something for the lady of your life: if there is ever a time we women say: "Sweetheart, I don't really care about Valentines Day anymore, and I don't really want anything..." (or some similar version of that) DO NOT, I REPEAT DO NOT believe us. Even if we say this we still want something. Regardless of how big or small that something is. 9/10 we're only saying that because 1.) we wanna hear & see a reaction from u 2.) we're not feeling to well and we don't really mean what we're saying 3.) we're just testing you to see if you'll pass the test and get something anyway.
There is never a time that most women don't appreciate a gift from their men on V.Day---some are so crazed they prepare for the day. If you're married, not reccommended (but expected and appreciated) to top what you did on V.Day for your anniversary. And maybe, just maybe they'll returrn the favor in a physical way. :D

Though there may be a slim bunch of women who truly don't care, a vast majority of us do...so don't go for that line. Word to the Wise :)