[Leprucky Cougar]

Originally Posted by Dante'sInferno

I forgive,depending on what the person did.If they did something horrible it would take me a hell of alot longer to forgive.But,that was how I use to feel.Because,if you hold a grudge chances are your just hurting yourself.Chances are they probably forgot about it and if they didn't why hurt yourself?They are the ones living with what they did to you.Like I said why let it,destroy you,making you into a detached,un-emotional,shell of yourself?That's what I learned.That's why I forgive.Because chances are you did nothing wrong,they were the ones who did it,so they should have to deal with it.Not you.Besides,like I said earlier,you shouldn't let it consume you and destroy you.Because then you would go into a Downward Spiral.


Now onto the forgetting,I don't forget because,you need to learn from these things,and try to avoid it next time,so it doesn't happen to you again.




Sorry,I hope I made sense.

You did. I agree. Holding grudges makes one slowly grow bitter--and if they don't realize it or if someone doesn't help them realize and get out of it--like u said they end up in that downward spiral; unfortunately some people grow extremely bitter and stubborn, refuse the help and wind up in a place far worse then that downward spiral. Everyone has a right to their own healing pace though. Some are faster than others.