[stubbornforgey]

Thats a shit load of money.When its all added up you could have bought or had a deposit for your own place.
What you need to do here is stay cool. calm and collective. Remember, you have other family members who are also stressing out over this.
One of you need to take the initiative and start looking at what to do.
Somebody has to stay strong for the sake of the family.
Cracking up now will only add to the already voliatile situation.

Be the man and start looking at your other options.
Then freak out when you have resolved something.