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Phalanx, guess what, if a child finds an interest, they will explore it. Whether they are seven or seventeen. It is best to help guide and keep the child out of the ugly side of things. The fact Nova is trying to find things SUITABLE for her child and show an interest in what she does says a lot about her. You cannot keep a child in a closet.
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That's the line is it? You're "keeping a child in a closet" if you're not encouraging them towards something that they ARE too early in life to really make a fully informed decision about?
I suppose if a kid were to start torturing small animals then the parent shouldn't intervene and just let it run it'd course, eh? Let them explore that interest?
Not saying it's remotely the same thing, but there are certain things that parents, as just that PARENTS shouldn't lead their kid down the garden path about. Things that may not even be "bad", or "wrong" (such as the goth culture), but due to negativity others put on it, could effect your child in a bad way...not to mention cause issues for the family involved.
Maybe a smart idea would be a frank discussion at an age where they can understand judgement and prejudice, and the kind've shit they'll recieve from (and you know this) 75%+ of people out there? the kinds've people who call horror fans sick, and those that wear black at all "freaks"? This here is my main issue...a child of that age shouldn't have to have that shit brought into their life, and if you say that it wouldn't be, or it's not an issue...you're lying to whoever you're trying to convince, and you know it.
The negative perception of goth culture isn't something I personally share, but I'm smart enough (not that it takes more'n a set of eye's and ears) to realise it's out there...and if I had a kid myself that wanted to dress in certain clothers...etc...sure, but no, I wouldn't allow for them to wear the clothes and apparrel out of the house all the time...I wouldn't allow it to become their standard, nor would I push the related music/movie/attitude/poetry...etc upon them until they were ready to explore it themselves...if you think a 7 year old kid saw some photos of goths, and immediately thought "hey now...what music are they into? what's their culture and lifestyle like" and actually thought about anything beyond the visual aspects, then I'd suggest checking into reality. To have a kid of 7 embrace more than just the clothes/apparel at so early an age is just irresponsible, and shows very little regard for the emotional development of a child...their self image will change in their formative years on the basis of where most kids get the majority of their input, other people.
Teach your kid about all that in an unbiased manner, THEN let them explore on their own at a suitable age, while keeping a watchful eye. That? That's the guidance you refer to. Not, aw, they like it, fuck it, better let 'em just have their way...(or, in my opinion, the parents way)
What "trouble" would a child come across if they were allowed to dress in the things they saw in these photos? Not much, right? This person is talking about checking music to suit, and for fucks sake, websites? C'mon if ever that's an invitation...not to mention the inevitable aforementioned negative input. If you seriously think a child is beyond emotional scarring by being told "not to listen to the nasty people", then a lot of things have been sugar coated for you, haven't they?
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You don't have to reply to defend yourself, I know I'm right.
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Kudos on emulation of the legend there, champ;)
I like it.
I think I'll go ahead and cancel my subs. to this thread though...seems it could be leaning towards an argument I have no time for.
Have a good 'un.