[bloodrayne]

Originally Posted by jenna26

I debated whether or not I should come in here and reply to this, and finally decided to.

I don't know if anyone remembers me too well, but at one time DJ and I were pretty close friends, or so I thought at the time. His approach to me was a bit different. For one thing, I didn't have IM, it was all through PMs. I was the first to PM him, because I had a question about a statement he made on the board. We talked everyday for months, and it was about REAL life stuff, or that's what I believed at the time. About his family, his work, etc.
By the end of our friendship, it had gotten pretty nasty; I knew he was a liar and a manipulator, I had no idea how sick he really is. I just kept catching him in lie after lie. When I finally cut off contact with him, he PMed another friend of mine trying to get information about me and asking why I wasn't speaking to him. I made the mistake of contacting him again, and being pulled into yet another sad story. Finally I washed my hands of him completely. This is pretty much the reason I stopped posting here. He seemed to have a lot of friends here at the time, so honestly I thought maybe it was just me that brought out his more charming side.....:rolleyes: And I was an adult, I was the one that allowed his manipulations to go on far too long. I was under this delusion that he was basically a decent guy, just a tad misguided. But I stopped coming here, because he made it a miserable place for me to be.

To hear this, I am sickened. I didn't realize how sick, and just all around messed up in the head this guy really is. And I am glad that I pulled myself away. It does make sense, and isn't exactly shocking I suppose, looking back. People really do need to show caution online, because you just never know. Like I said, I knew by the end of our friendship there was something off about the guy, but just being a jerk is different then.....this. I'm just glad the mods put a stop to this. :)

Please don't feel bad...You were one of the 'unmentionables'...If you had ANY idea how long the list of female members who feel the SAME way is, it would blow your mind...Like you, they didn't want to say anything on the forum, so there wasn't much we could do because the people here demand proof (and rightly so)...There was no way that we were going to pressure people to come out with this, not just to satisfy the forum...We lost an unbelievable amount of GOOD female posters because of Trip/DJ...He 'tried out' EVERY girl that joined...Imagine how many females left the forum and decided they couldn't come back...They were ashamed, hurt, embarassed, disgusted, and as difficult as it is for an ADULT (like you, Mona, Asylum Seeker) to deal with this, just IMAGINE the effect on a 13, 14, 15, 16 year-old girl...I'm sure he doesn't realize (or give a shit) the trauma he caused SO many kids here

I'm very sorry that we had to wait until it had escalated through the roof...It isn't something that one can easily accuse someone of without anything to back it up

I'm DEFINITELY NOT blaming the victims...I (and I hope 'WE') understand completely

It's very scary to consider what he's doing (and has most likely done) in REAL LIFE...

If we could get back even HALF of the female members he has run off (and seriously...the list is a mile long), this would be a bustling forum


Now I'm going to try to 'clean up' this thread a bit, in anticipation of its closing