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Divorce sucks, and it is going to take time to heal. Don't let anybody tell you to just get over it, move on, etc. I remember that vividly as being one of the most irritating things while trying to deal with my pain. We all have our own pace with crap like this.
In the short term, you'll probably need to focus on some of the logistics around the division of property, custody, and a range of other legal issues. Make sure your attorney knows about his drug use and infidelity. If you can come up with any evidence of these factors, you will be in a much better position to get what you want. If custody is contested, it will be important to make a case for him being an unfit parent (and from your description, this shouldn't be too difficult).
In the longer term (and it is probably premature to think about this now), it may be helpful to consider some of the lessons you can take from this hell. It sounds like you've already decided that avoiding speed freaks is going to be important, I suspect that you have learned lots more about early warning signs for spotting losers, etc.
Anyway, I am confident that there are more than a few of us who have been through this crap and can provide whatever support and advice we can muster. Above all, take care of yourself and realize that how you are feeling is perfectly normal under the circumstances.
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