[stubbornforgey]

This is probably classed as the best thread in here for me.
If we as parents in here can read your blog and learn something from it.
A similiar case over here..but with my nephew.
He has 2 beautiful children (boy and girl)..however he and his wife are seperated,,
she has them weekedays..he has them weekends and holidays,
However he is also a socialiser who spends most of his time picking up girls..
When its his turn for his children..he leaves them either with his dad..or tries to pawn them off to me (i always refuse) or other family members.
Its worse when he gets into a stable relationship as he never picks the kids up ..AT ALL..
and we always get this from him..MY KIDS MEAN THE WORLD TO ME..I love my children..he goes to places with his new girlfriends where his kids would absolutely adore..like the movies..fun parks..etc.without them.
He opted to spend a months pay on a diamond ring for his girlfriend..even though the mother to his children asked him if he could help her buy the kids school uniforms and pay thier fees..he makes me sick!!!
As for blaming movies/comp games etc for our childrens behaviour..
I mean..look at it this way...many parents nowdays ..the 1st thing they do for a bit of a peace and quiet is to dump thier children in front of the t.v..so much that the kid has grown an attatchment to one programme or t.v character.
Nothing good on t.v now ..so what else does the parent do..??
go out and buy the latest game console..and buy the kid the games he saw while watching t.v.
Hey..the kid gets bored with that..why not go out and buy him a computer cos his mates has one and this way they are able to chat..play games..even get recruited into online clans.
Under the guise of..we must buy our kids this comp to help with thier homework..!!!

Relationships:
While i was reading miss O's thread..i felt as if I was reading about myself and
my situtation last year.Dedicating my life to my husband..etc.
When things started to go wrong..i automatically assumed it was me or the children so in order to keep the peace..we adjusted our behaviours and were forever apologising if we got him in a bad mood..
all the while he would be happily chatting to his B/F2 clan..laughing carrying on like that.
Then i thought ..ok..this is his passion..i should learn the game etc ..in which i did and became pretty good with the admin side of things...but still no improvement..to make a long story short..
We decided to part ..and we did on good terms..we were the best of buddies untill one fateful txt ..that told me that all the while i was admin..for a almost 2 years he had been having an affair with the only female member in his clan...and one part while at a lan..they were fucking not 10 meters away from admin ..where i was based..!!!!!
However..with the help of a silly egyptian..i was able to hurt/wound and heal..most of all ..move on.I couldnt be any happier or more in love for the 1st time.
Whats happened to the world ppl ask...nothing..
the world doesn't change..its the ppl!!!!!!!!!!