[ferretchucker]

Get some sleep, send the kids to their grans for a while and sort things out. That's what my aunty did. You can get all the stuff that reminds you of him away, think about what to do and most importantly, have some peace and quiet.

Also, tell numbskull and bigfoot what you think of them or you'll bottle it up and take it out on people who you shouldn't. the main concern is the kids though. Whatever you do don't keep them away from their dad because that could seriously affect them. This is just my advice.