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Originally Posted by trippin_the_rif
I dont wanna get what went on before started again, she's taken enough shit for it and its gone and ppl have moved on. I'm aware of what you're going thru. We used to talk, remember? All we can do as adults is guide them. They're gonna do what they want when they're not around us. Thet's the way life goes. I have accepted that there fore I chose to raise my daughter completely differently from the way I was raised/ Times have changed and they will continue to change.
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i know times have changed and i'm not strict by any means but i see her parents letting this behaviour continue and she's spiraling and it's hard to watch. now she's trying drugs and smoking and i think she's having sex or close to it and it's gotten to a point where i can't talk to my sister about it because they "don't want to treat her like a prisoner". but you know what? like i said i'm not strict but as a parent sometimes you can't be the friend and you have to be the parent. your number one job is to do everything in your power to keep them safe and give them the morals to do what's right when they are alone. maybe they won't follow them and maybe they'll screw up but at least you did everthing you could. it;s all very sad when parents are scared to be parents like my sister. there's somewhere between too strict and too loose .... somewhere in the middle where kids can be safe and still like you. sorry to go on, this topic is just really a part of my life right now.