[Haunted]

We all make our own beds, so to speak. I don't think that it's something that you should agonize over. She chose this person over you. You can't make her decisions for her.

However it is very very sad that she is in the situation that she is. The more she allows him to hurt her both phyically and emotionally, the harder it will be for her to extricate herself from the situation. Also, she's creating a pattern for herself... the "cycle of abuse" pattern. In other words, she's going to start associating love, attention, and affection with abuse, pain, and torment.

This in not your fault, nor is there anything you can do about it. She's got to find the courage to get away, far away, from him, get a restraining order, and get some counseling. Her friend is the link she needs. That's the only way that you can help her. Tell her friend to get her out of there.

Were I you, I wouldn't become involved. Old feelings might get stirred up. It would get ugly for both of you really fast, plus you don't need Mr. Clinically Antisocial breathing down your neck. You can't afford to get involved, and I think it would do more harm than good for both of you.

I just hope with all my heart, no matter what a bitch she was to you, that she gets help and gets out before he kills her. No woman deserves that kind of shit.

I'm going to PM you.