[Haunted]

IA, you know I adore you, but she specifically asked for no smart-ass answers. If you were trying to make her giggle a little you should have said so. Again, I love you to pieces, but that was innapropriate.

Stubborn, I so went through what your daughter is going through. You're absolutely right. When she starts her menses, she's going to loose weight an possibly pretty quickly. I know I did. It's all the hormone imbalance we have to deal with as women. In all honesty, a bit of her weight could be water as she grows closer to her cycles.

This is my advice to you... WATCH HER!! She is a prime candidate for developing an eating disorder. She looks in the mirror and sees someone much bigger than she actually is. Her self-esteem is WAY lower than it should be.

I'm really glad you took the upper hand with your other daughter. Maybe you should talk to her about being more supportive of her sister. You gotta keep her from making her sis feel worse about herself. Sounds like you're doing pretty well in that department.

Becareful of any counselors (Yeah, it's me saying this). They might try to put her on antidepressants. She's too young for that shit. If she looses the weight and still remains depressed and down... then you might think about it. Keep it a last resort, and this is from a gal that has been on Lithium since I was 13.