[stubbornforgey]

My 12 yr old daughter is going through
the usual youngun pmsing stage right
now and there is nothing either of us can do to snap her out of it.
However..my children are very much a mirror of me , personality wise , self esteem etc..hrmmm..untill recently.
My 10 yr old is tall..skinny ..people have openly commented that she would suit being a model..(like fuck too is my answer),oh and very lazy.
My 12 yr old is tall..she has dark olive complexion..ebony eyes and chubby.
For some ungodly reason she has totally lost her self esteem.It was because of her
i went back to the gym as she begged me to help her lose weight.
She is beautiful..she is not fat ..as she mildly puts it..she won't listen when we tell her that its only puppy fat and it may go when she starts her cycle.
We constantly tell her she is not fat ..and it doesn't matter anyway..your still a beautiful child and we love you very much for who you are etc.
She has even put herself on a strict diet..to my total disgust.
We never make comparisons to her and her sister..as far as we are concerned..they are both equally beautiful.
Last night ..her and her sister had an arguement and her sister called her fatso..to a slap across the mouth from me .My 12 year old cried and cried..very heartbroken sobs..my husband and i laid with her untill she finally cried herself to sleep.
My child even exercises to a point that i have to tell her to stop and rest...
What more can we do..we have tried everything to restore her self esteem.
Its sad when i drop her off at school and she walks in with slumped shoulders.
Shes very fit..very active in sports..
I hate going clothes shopping cos i see the look on her face when she sees clothes that she would love to wear but
she knows she can't fit.
Don't answer if its a smart ass comment..we are talking about my child here..please (insert teary eyed mother).