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Originally posted by cheebacheeba
I sympathise...but I've got not a great deal worth saying more than, as a mother, make sure you act in the best interests of your child...and if it takes measures like these, so be it.

That is all I'm worried about. How to take better care of my daughter. That is why I decided to quit smoking.

talking for five minutes can resolve more than an hours yelling, remember this, and if you remain calm, and he doesn't, just walk away.

You know, I didn't yell, I actually haven't yelled at all this time. I have been through it so many times I am kinda like an emotionless blob, well I was pretty pissed about certain things but, I got passed it. He is the one who was yelling. Blaming others for his actions. I can't deal with his crap anymore. So I'm not.

Take some time away, to yourself and perhaps while you're gone, his sense of priority well develope a little

I am doing that but, I doubt he will change. He has a son and he never sees him unless a family member picks him up and brings him to him. He hasn't even tried.

a lot of times, in anger, people can say things specifically intent to hurt bad, and those things can not only make the situation worse, but also be hard to take back, sometimes impossible. The situation gets worse, and sometimes the little people are caught in the middle, not a nice place to be

I have held my tounge on saying things to hurt him. I don't want it to hang over my head. I was once the little person caught in the middle so I know exactly what you mean. The main reason that I have been with him for the past year of unhappiness is because I didn't want my daughter to grow up without her father and I wanted her to have a happy normal life but, to be with him would make that not happen.
Thank you for your comments B.