[bloodrayne]

As for the comments that Cheeba made:

Anger is much easier to express than sorrow or fear.....

We do not control our emotions, they control US...

Sorrow and fear are considered 'weak' emotions...Anger and Rage are very strong emotions.........To allow ourselves to be controlled by 'weak emotions' causes us to feel VERY weak and helpless....We can allow ourselves to be controlled by stronger emotions, far more easily

Often we will express anger in a situation where we feel sorrow or fear, often exchanging the weaker emotions for the stronger one....We can simply accept it more easily, and we do it automatically, without even realizing that we're doing it

For example: When my mother told me that my uncle died, I should have cried, I should have been sad, or even a little afraid because he was only 38 (early deaths remind us that we can check out at ANY time)...BUT...I was pissed off...I was EXTREMELY pissed off...Demanding to know how it happened, and who was responsible, as well as many other things......Many might consider this an odd reaction, or simply a reaction that was not what they would have expected...But, it's just the way I'm made...It's how I deal with things...

I have a feeling that Cheeba is a lot like this...Some people can't allow themselves to feel 'weak' or admit that they hurt...Because weakness disgusts them...It may also cause them to lash out at someone else that they feel is weak, when they should be strong...

I have a recent personal example of THIS, too:

I went to that 'Astrology' thing with my mother...The girl who was doing the presentation claimed that she was psychic, and could see and communicate with ghosts...When a little boy asked if she could see his dad, who recently died, she said "Well, there is a man behind you, he says that he is very proud of you, and that you have taken on your new responsibilities well"...When the boy's mother asked her what the 'ghost' looked like, she was very hesitant and you could tell that she was grasping for anything, starting off with 'white male...':rolleyes:...It was disgusting...The girl was nervous as hell during the ENTIRE presentation, she felt to me like a very 'weak' person...Seri said that she thought the girl seemed 'afraid' of me somehow...Dustin said that he could actually FEEL that the girl did not like me and was avoiding making eye contact with me, even when I was asking her questions, he said that the tension was almost visible......There were many times when she simply should have said "I don't really know', instead of trying to make shit up...It pissed me off that she was so fake, and could not admit it when she was unsure........Anyway, her weakness made me angry, it made me feel vicious...It reminded me of 'blood in the water' to a shark, or the 'smell of fear' to a predator.....I felt like destroying her, ripping her apart...Publicly humiliating her...Exposing her as a fraud....And I think she knew it...


Anyway...You can try to decipher where I was going with all of that in relation to how Cheeba responded to this situation....Fortunately for all of you, I am out of time again :p...lol


@ Heather...I'm truly sorry for what you're going through...I disagree with the way you chose to handle it (in that, it isn't something that I would do myself, or that I would want to see anyone else do), BUT I also am incapable of understanding what you have to do to deal with things, as I have never walked in your shoes, so I am not permitted to judge you for it.....I believe that there are better ways to cope, but it's obvious that you felt this was the route you had to take, perhaps you feel that 'other options' are unavailable to you, or most likely you were not thinking rationally enough to consider anything else, which would make the most sense, considering you obviously weren't in the best 'emotional state' or experiencing the most 'mental clarity' at the time, or it probably wouldn't have happened in the first place...

I love you, regardless