[bloodrayne]

Originally posted by urgeok
The one thing a kid HAS to do is obey - and the reaon isnt for a power trip - its for safety ..

get away from that, dont pick that up, stop right there ..
you know - the kind of things that potentially save a kids life ..

i'm also sick of the ADD thing but i'm not blind to the fact that he needs to learn to listen - immediately - or he's going to run in front of a car one day.

i'm just as sick of the parents that say 'ah they're just kids' while they chit chat with each other and their little darlings are fucking around destroying someone elses property, etc ... i also see that all the time.

I agree with this 100%...I just believe that it can be accomplished WITHOUT drugs...People have been raising kids for quite a few years before these drugs were introduced......And I wouldn't excuse bad behavior as 'he's/she's just a kid'...I've seen it and it pisses me off to no end, I would NEVER allow my kids to destroy someone else's property, or to hurt someone (which they would never have any intention of doing anyway, because that's the way they were raised) BUT...I HAVE seen people just shrug their shoulders when their kids do shit like that...It's a complete and total lack of respect, the parents who don't seem to give a shit, obviously have no respect for anyone else or their property, so it would be IMPOSSIBLE for them to teach their kids respect...

I'm saying, being hyper and not paying attention are VERY common among children...You weren't like that when YOU were a child?

My kids DO pay attention when it's a matter of safety, as you have mentioned, because I made DAMN sure those things were made perfectly clear...But, as for trying to teach them things (as in school lessons, or washing dishes, most chores) if they aren't interested, it's difficult to get them to sit and pay attention...(Even adults fall asleep in church, know what I'm sayin'?)...And THAT CAN be attributed to being a kid...

It's about how they are raised and supervised...Not what drug seems to work best...

@Urge...Your son is gonna be fine...Usually kids like him are of above average intelligence, they don't listen in class because the material usually becomes repetitive to them...Kid's wanna learn new things, not rehash all the crap they already know...They need to have their minds stimulated with more than what they are being offered...These kids can become destructive just because they get so frustrated and don't know how to vent, especially at such a young age...Most intelligent kids take things apart to see how they work, that's often viewed as being destructive, but for the child it's a learning process...I'd be willing to bet that your child is very independent, and likes to do things HIS way...You'll see when he's older that he is an intelligent person, who makes up his own mind, forms and sticks to his own opinions, and doesn't follow the crowd...

I applaud you for taking the 'non-medicated' route...All these kids really need is love, PATIENCE, understanding, discipline, and supervision...NOT drugs...