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Originally posted by bloodrayne
As to Hellboy's comment about women who stay with cheaters, beaters, and abusers (physical, mental and verbal...It ALL hurts)...I sometimes tend to blame the women...NO, they didn't ASK for it...BUT, if they stick around and keep coming back for MORE, they ARE asking for it...
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I have been in two abusive relationships (one got physical twice, one was verbally abusive and also a habitual cheat), unlike many women after the abuse started I got out fairly quickly. But having been there, I understand why they stay. They stay not only out of fear, they also stay because they remember the person they fell for in the first place. Usually the person they become is not the person they seemed to be in the beginning. It is just so easy to become wrapped up in someone, to define yourself by that person when you have no confidence in yourself. I spent a lot of time evaluating myself and how I could be "fooled" by these guys and the answer is simple; they seemed strong during a time when I felt weak. Love, or the desire for it, can make you really stupid. And it is a sad thing to have to admit that you have fallen in love with a creep; you don't want to admit it. So some women ignore the warnings in their heads and stick it out, blaming themselves every step of the way for the actions of the person they are with. It is pathetic and sad, but true.