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you know, maybe the sugar coating isn't just for the kids. How would you feel if you fatherd a mentally deffecient child? would you want to call him/her retarded? The love for your child shouldn't be any less unless of course you are a bitter angry selfish individual.
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If it's about the parent, well...in all honesty, fuck that, I consider THAT an act of a selfish individual, I mean if you gotta resort to not acknowledging the reality of a problem to make it somehow easier on yourself, rather than your child...that's not right.
From my current perspective, it would be my love of the child that would prompt me to let them understand the situation as fully as possible, so that they could deal with it in whatever manner they need to, and start from a fully informed first step.
"Retarded" has become such an ASSHOLE of a word since it has been used for derogatory means...I wouldn't really want to CALL them retarded, but I would want them to fully understand their condition...Honestly, when I saw these kids over the years, it was a shame, I felt like they'd been mislead - even back then, I always wondered what the deal was going on in the parents head. I couldn't see a reason then, nor can I now.
It always struck me as kind of like lying...I guess everyone had their own ways of viewing the matter, and all I can offer is my CURRENT perspective...but it'd seem to me that being completely honest and open with the child would better prepare them for life...because if they never associate their condition with an insult from the beggining, would they not be less likely to receive a rude awakening from someone who will not only NOT sugar-coat it, but try to degrade them simply by stating fact in an disrespectful manner?
I've yet to see any valid reasons for this strange parental ritual, folks...step right up and enlighten me, if you can...