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Originally posted by barbra
you know, being a girl, having conversations with girls, you would be surprised at how many rape victums you actually know. My grandfather fucked me. Really, I don't like to talk about it at all, I really don't want to think about it. For the longest time I was scared of anything with a penis, but I grew, I learned and I forgave. I really wasn't going to write about any of this, because its none of your business but you guys are just like the bleeding hearts. Instead of understanding the perpitrator, you are only seeing the victum. It goes both ways. I understand the victum didn't do anything to be in the position they are in and the criminal made the choice to do what they did but both lives are ruined, both people changed by the events that took place. I know one girl who enjoyed her experiance, or at least says she did and uses sex to cope. Im sure there are a number of offenders who learned from what they did and try to live a healthy life post rape. Not everyone is evil and vile. People have remorse. Remorse is a powerful thing and so is forgivness. Acting out on the people that did you wrong puts you in the same class as the criminals only you are able to feel better because you have 'justification'. Its all bullshit and when you take sides then you are in the same class as the people that opose you just like you share the same veiw with the people who agree. Its all relitive.
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I personally don't believe in vigilante justice. It isn't justice and too many mistakes could be made. And yes, two lives are ruined. But you hit on the difference, the victim isn't given a choice. The offender has the control. They could have gotten help before they went too far. They could have stopped. But they didn't. The victims are the ones that need to be protected. Not the offenders. I am of the mind that once a person pays his debt to society, in most cases, then that person should be allowed to live his life. But because they chose to commit that crime, they have to deal with the consquences. And if it is a henious crime, and forcing yourself on a child is a henious crime, then we need a way to make sure that person doesn't have the opportunity to hurt someone else. And that isn't happening.
But this is a touchy subject for me. Because you are right, I think many, even most, girls have been through this. I am one of them and the one that did it to me didn't deal with any consquences because he had me too scared to do a damn thing about it. He was a predator, pure and simple. I spent over a year of my life, every day, in fear of this man and still do at times. And I will never forgive that, I can't. Maybe you are a bigger person then I am. But I just can't.