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Originally posted by The_Return
When something upsetting happens in your life, how do you deal with it? Be it something relativly minor, like getting dumped or something, or be it something major, like having loved ones die?
Just wondering.
Btw, I go into denial usually. Pretend it doesnt bother me. Hey, it works, I always stay friends with my ex's, so I guess it works...
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My biggest coping methods for troubling times is taking it head on, soaking in the misery, and just flat-out accepting it and understanding it. I have had way too many of these incidents within the last few years, the hardest being a divorce from my partner of 10 years.
The marriage itself only lasted about 2 years...but it was a tough time getting over that because we really didn't have too many problems compared to most married couples. But, everything happens for a reason and I just literally listened to every possible sad song, read old letters from her, looked at pictures...cried when I needed to, and then BAM...it is now all in the past.
So, anyway...I take the same approach with everything bad in my life. I take it on...and knock it the fuck out! I also have a thing I do called "Black Tuesday," partly because I hate Tuesdays. But, I sit in complete darkness in my room, turn on some mood-heavy music, and I draw whatever comes to mind...not being able to see exactly what I'm drawing until I have finished "coping" and turn the lights back on.
This accomplishes some much needed time alone, and some insight into my feelings. Then I assess my mood and try to change things in my life that may be causing some problems.
Damn...I didn't realize I was rambling so much, sorry.
But, good topic.