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Originally posted by Stingy Jack
Meh... As I have already said, my wife got pregnant once before we were ready to have a child. We were careful, used birth control, but it happened. We could not afford to have the baby, and we also could not afford her taking time off from work to carry the baby to term and go through recovery. We both agreed that abortion was the only option, under the circumstances. And we went through with it. She does not regret it, she is not miserable, our lives are not destroyed ... at least, not in the way they would have been had we decided to keep the baby. And this is when we both mature enough to make decisions on our own. You can call us stupid, lazy, or what have you. But, the fact remains that we were careful. We used birth control, and it fucking happened anyway. And don't you sit there and tell me that I should not have sex with my wife if I wasn't ready to have a baby. Do you plan to have a kid every time you have sex with your spouse? Remember, we were protected! So, what's good for some people is not for others. Just because your friend feels she made the wrong choice, and allows herself to dwell in that misery, does not mean that the service is not helpful for others.
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I'm not going to sugar coat my feelings for you. You posted what you think on a public board to I'm going to tell you what I think.
I feel sorry for you and your wife. You killed your baby because you didn't have enough money??? I think that's the most pathetic thing I have ever heard in my life. Justify it all you want. It is what it is.
I too had an unplanned pregnancy. She is now 13 years old. The best thing that ever happened to me. At the time I was still living with my parents and the only way my husband and I could make it was to live in a shitty little apartment that reeked of Indian food all of the time. We ate bologna sandwiches and struggled along dealing with the consequences of our ACCIDENT (broken condom). Because we had no insurance,we paid doctor bills for 3 full years before they were finally paid off. It made us stronger than ever and made us strive for a better life. Nothing in life is easy. What the hell is it with people these days who are afraid of struggle? I guess you should thank God your parents didn't look at you like a burden and kill you before you had a chance!
As you may have noticed, This topic pisses me off more than anything in the world.
And yes everytime my husband and I have sex we take the chance of another baby. A baby we are not capable of killing .