Fucking vows...
 

So like I said a little bit ago, the chick and I are getting married on the beginning of our 14th year together.

No big ceremony or anything, there's us and 6 people and it's just like a brief civil service and some dinner/drinks after.

The gameplan is, we'll have a "big" wedding as a re-wedding type deal 5 years after the first one. By then we should have a little 4 year old wondering around that's able to come and join in with us. He/She isn't the only reason to do that, but a cool kind've benefit and something I hope at least part of them will remember.
The other reasons - more money and preparation time.

So yeah anyways...vows...
I know that the "script" covers it, I'd just like to make them kind've personal to our lives and put some time in.
The difficulty is, while I know everything like how I feel about her and us, I also want to keep it fairly concise and not fall into soppy territory.
Having difficulty.

Also, what's the deal, am I supposed to remember them word for word?
Are cue-cards considered kind've gauche?

By the way, it's this Sunday March 11th.

I don't think it would matter if you use cue-cards to remember everything. It's your wedding after all and it'll be better than fumbling and forgetting words.

All the best with it all tho man. Didn't realise it was happening so soon!

Yeah, it's kind of snuck up on me too...we're both working at the moment so that always destroys life/time.

Yeah I'll probably just keep it relatively short, a few important points...after all, I can always write better ones for the 5 year thing eh.

Yeah man you can. But yeah it'll be all good on the day. You jumping into a tuxedo for the service or will it be more casual?

Suit but not a tux as such.
The girl is actually tailoring her own.
It's relatively casual, but like no t-shirts kinda thing.
Needs to be casual enough to go drinking in after.

Here's what you gonna say. It's real easy, so you don't need any cue-cards.

"Dear Spallalala. Thank you for coming to my party. You're the best friend in the world. Cheers!" *burp in her face*

It doesn't really matter what you're saying as long as you do armpit farts during.



And that's pretty much it.

I know what women want. Mel Gibson didn't have a clue. :cool:

Congrats for Sunday!

I seriously would not get too worked up about the vows. If you like, write something that is meaningful for both of you.

But honestly, what is said on the day means little compared to what you live for the rest of your lives. The best vows are the love and kindness that you show each other day to day.

But thinking back to my wedding... doesn't the celebrant say the vows and you repeat them? Or is that not always or even usually the case?

Congratulations Cheeba. Best wishes for Sunday.:)

I was thinking the same thing as Manchester. My daughter got married this past summer, and the person performing the ceremony read the vows and had the bride and groom repeat them. I also don't think it would be gauche to have the vows written out and just read them. You could put it on a scroll.

Where do you find a scroll these days?

The internet.. of course.

Thanks for the kind words folks.
Been so busy with all the prep shit, we've decided to just stick with the defaults for this time.
Next time (planned 5 year "re-wedding") we'll be better prepared, make a bit more of an occasion of it, and we should have River to join us by then so I might ask him/her to write at least one for me.

Well, currently in my last 48 hours of being unwed.
Really though, after this long it feels like nothing's about to change at all.

Good luck for sunday I really hope you both enjoy yourselves and it all works out great for you :)I like the idea of this being a small affair and making more of a fuss later when better prepared makes a lot of sense if it is right for you both. Take care :)

I've not been with my lady as long as you've been with yours(12 years). You are correct, nothing does change. I felt no more in love with her than the day before our wedding, I just loved her enough to recognize what she had wanted since she was a little girl. She had always wanted a wedding so I gave it to her and pretended it was what I had always wanted as well. If it makes her happy then I am happy.

Congrats though, Cheeb. I hope you have nothing less than marital bliss!

Oh yea, congrats Cheebs.

How does it feel?

s'all good.
Have had a tiring couple of days.
Nothing much out of the ordinary.
Felt pretty weird actually *doing* the wedding bit, but whatevs.

I can imagine.

And next day everything was back to normal? Work and all?

congrats Cheebs.

from someone who's been doing the married thing for 31 years, I will just say....keep a sense of humor and plenty of beer on hand :D

Had the brother and mother here until yesterday (wed 14th) so it was a bit "busy" but still cool to see them for a few days.
Everything is winding down now, I took the week off work though.

Thanks man.

Not beer, but...other sense-of-humour enablers for sure ;)
Yeah, we're past most of the bullshit - I think keepijng the humour and not sweating every argument, putting up with eachothers shit is all it's about.

Congratulations, Cheebs!!! Shouldn't you be on your honeymoon? ;)