Pissed Off
 

I've recently started going through a divorce, and now I've found out that he was unfaithful to me with someone who doesn't shave their armpits and looks a little like a twacked out Chewbacca.
Why is it that usually when someone's unfaithful, it's with a walking garbage heap?
I'm smart, attractive, loyal to the bone (literally and figuratively:p ) and I take care of my family AND myself.
I'm coming out of this marriage with a deeper distrust for men and an undying hatred of methamphetamines.
I'll never get used to dealing with these deep betrayals.

It's just so STUPID.....how can you look at something that was cooked up in some lowlife's bathtub and say, "Hey, I think I'm gonna snort that up my nose, sounds like a good thing to do!"
I honestly think I'm just going to take things really slow and think really hard about everything I do before I do it. I have a tendancy to fly off the handle when something really traumatic happens, but I'm old enough to know that in the long run the things I'm tempted to do will only hurt me. It IS hard though. I want to hurt him as much as he's hurt me.
I won't, because I'm better than he is, but I still REALLY want to.:p

GO BOINK HIS BROTHER.......or Bestfriend if he has no Bro.

Yup. Men are scumbags.

Want me to hook you up with Haunted, hmm? ;)

Fuck it, his loss is the way I see it, move on and don't look back. Your main concern should be you and your kids. A relationship with a drug user will only bring you continuous pain and misery anyway. Also don't give up on men, believe or not there are some good ones out there.

LOL it's funny you said that, Newb.....I was thinking of it just this morning lol

And Haunted IS pretty hot, not to mention smart;)

My main concern is going to be the kids, because they don't need to be around someone who hasn't slept for three days. I don't think he's going to come around that much though, honestly....he's still trying to be a rock star. Someone should have told him to become a star BEFORE getting hooked on hard drugs. Stupid jerk.

If you can make explosives with it, you shouldn't put it into your body.

I wish there was something I could do for you. You are a wonderful, smart, funny and obviously caring woman who deserves someone who will treat you and the children with love and respect.

Given his current path, you can take a little solace in knowing you are the last quality woman he'll ever have - and he's the last scumbag you'll ever have.

Keep your chin up, we're all here for you when you need it. PM me anytime you want.;)

usually people cheat with better looking people.

oh and speed is maybe the only big drug I've never tried, I remember watching this dateline episode when I was younger and they followed around this kid who was totally addicted to crystal meth and it scared the hell out of me haha. My friend got heavily into it, I can honestly say dateline is 100% responisible for making me never want to touch it.

The fact that dirty ass people cook it up in their bath tubs was a big turn off for me.

So let me get this straight....

He found a smart, good looking girl who has tattoos, likes horror movies & stuff like video games...& he LET HER GO?!

Either there's some secret bin where there's an abundance of women like that, or he just became one of the stupidest people to walk the face of the planet, in my humble opinion. That almost qualifies him for the Darwin Awards.

apparantly he also found the missing link so he deserves atleast one award

maybe she does whatever he wants.

oh this is so sad..
so sorry to hear this..
trust me i know what you are going through.
But also trust me...your life will be better off without the loser.

Get some sleep, send the kids to their grans for a while and sort things out. That's what my aunty did. You can get all the stuff that reminds you of him away, think about what to do and most importantly, have some peace and quiet.

Also, tell numbskull and bigfoot what you think of them or you'll bottle it up and take it out on people who you shouldn't. the main concern is the kids though. Whatever you do don't keep them away from their dad because that could seriously affect them. This is just my advice.

I really needed that, Rod. Thank you.

If you only knew how much of a missing link he IS....he looks like he walked straight out of Quest for Fire. I liked him for his personality, and because he was a good actor.

I'm buying a ticket to Hawaii for next week, and I'm going to stay with my best friends and lay on the beach and heal a little bit.

I don't want to keep the kids from their father, but at the same time I will not allow him to take them if he's twacked out. I would be an irresponsible mother to let ANYONE, father or not, leave the house with my kids in that kind of condition.
I think that's basic common sense, and if he can't restrain himself for the boys then he shouldn't have them at all. If he's straight, I have no problem with it. I will not drag my boys into a personal grudge because he hurt me. That would put me on HIS level.

Don't forget that people like to be with other people who share the same life destroying habits as them. I remember an ex breaking up with me for a guy who helped her rob a place she worked at which got her charged with embezzlement and that's it. She tried to come crawling back but I had found somebody far better and I'm sure that you will Olivia... eventually.

is it me or did a whole lot of shit get erased lastnight.

I'm very sorry to hear about you're lastest find. I also understand what you are going through. Taking that trip to Hawaii sounds like a good idea. When I got a divorce, I cried a lot, then I got pissed. I ended up punching a lot of pillows, but it felt good. Even better, if you can blow something up with his face on it is fun too! It does take time to heal, but just remember, it's not you, it's just his stupidity!

I've been punching walls.
Better than hitting somebody and going to jail. I've always had a temper, and considering all the crap that's gone down, I think I've done pretty well.

That's not bad at all. A 3 lb. tub of lightweight spackle and you're all set. :)

LOL no kidding.....that should keep me busy for a bit:p

I've been sitting here doing some deep thinking. I don't believe in "God" as christianity and most other organized religions present it, but I do believe in something more than ourselves, and the basic concept of sin.
This man has committed a deep sin against my spirit.
He knew how much I've been through in my life, and how afraid I am of having feelings for other people. Not only did he convince me I could believe in him, he used my trust to do me evil.
He betrayed me in the worst way he possibly could.

Aw man, sorry to hear all this Miss O. You seem like a pretty cool chick & he sounds like a total fuckin' loser. Hopefully it will turn out to be a blessing in disguise for you though because from the sounds of it, you're better off without him. He's on a one way road to methhead loserville, but at least now he can't take you with him.

It sounds like you've already got the right idea by getting out of town for a while. Remove yourself from the situation, relax on the beach with a good friend, clear your head & figure out where you wanna go from here.

On a positive note, you can probably use his infidelity & meth addiction to take him for everything he's got (which, if he's like most methheads, probably isn't a whole lot) and full custody ofyour kids. And on another positive note, you only have to deal with his loser ass for a little while longer and then you can put him in the rear view mirror and never look back. Keep your chin up. Things will get better. :)

You know, I hadn't even considered the divorce implications of his infidelity.
We DO live in California. And nowhere really takes kindly to a man neglecting and finally deserting his family to do crank and screw Chewbacca.
That makes me feel a little better.:)

Crank & Chewbacca will be his downfall!



;) Glad I could be of service.

Judging from the photos you posted you will have no problem finding a good man who will be kind to you in the future.:)

Don't they host a "Morning Zoo" in Kansas City?

I think I'm going to refrain from looking for another man, and just let one fall in my lap. It seems like that's the way you meet good ones. I just hope he doesn't weigh to much, I have weak knees.:p


Crank and Chewbacca.
Sounds like a REALLY dangerous mixture. Could you imagine a wookie on dope?

It would probably tweak out in the bathroom shaving its entire body........

LOL

Han Solo: "CHEWY! It's been eight freakin hours! Leia had to pee in a cup! What the hell are you DOING???"

Chewbacca:"GGGGGRRREEWWWWWOWWWWOWOWOWOWOOOOOWOOWOW OOWWWGGGROROWOWOROWWOWWWWW!!!!!"

Han Solo: "Never mind."

LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!





You definately know tweakers!:D I have lost some of my best friends because of the shit.I still try to help them out but they usually just rip me off.I still feel bad for them though.I kicked several years ago but they never want to hear me preach.:rolleyes:

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did your bf or husband know that you were a member of horror.com? i bet if you told him, he would be so pissed off he'd chop his dick off for losing you!!

He knew.....he was insanely jealous of my mad love affair with horror.com:p

$500 and I can make things very easy for you!:p (only a joke and probably in bad taste, unless you want.........................)

Heh-heh, glad we could help! ;) :p Seriously though Olivia, you KNOW you deserve better. It sucks and is extremely hard, but at least he finally did something so intolerable that you got him out of your home. Otherwise, you maybe would still be putting up with his crap. I know, I've been there too many times. Stay strong girl, and you know you have a lot of people that care about you. And go fuck some cute young thing just for fun. I'm sure he (the cute young thing) won't mind! :) :D

Divorce sucks, and it is going to take time to heal. Don't let anybody tell you to just get over it, move on, etc. I remember that vividly as being one of the most irritating things while trying to deal with my pain. We all have our own pace with crap like this.

In the short term, you'll probably need to focus on some of the logistics around the division of property, custody, and a range of other legal issues. Make sure your attorney knows about his drug use and infidelity. If you can come up with any evidence of these factors, you will be in a much better position to get what you want. If custody is contested, it will be important to make a case for him being an unfit parent (and from your description, this shouldn't be too difficult).

In the longer term (and it is probably premature to think about this now), it may be helpful to consider some of the lessons you can take from this hell. It sounds like you've already decided that avoiding speed freaks is going to be important, I suspect that you have learned lots more about early warning signs for spotting losers, etc.

Anyway, I am confident that there are more than a few of us who have been through this crap and can provide whatever support and advice we can muster. Above all, take care of yourself and realize that how you are feeling is perfectly normal under the circumstances.

I'm so sorry this happened to you Miss Olivia.

I don't want to scare you, but you should consider getting checked out by a doctor and make sure you're soon to be ex didn't give you anything. I had dated a guy who was an alcoholic and shooting crank and had gotten Hepatitis C, which of course I didn't find out until later. Luckily, I didn't get infected or anything.

Besides, you don't know where Chewbacca has been and if she's been fooling around with any Ewoks or anything.

I'm sorry to hear that. Bad shit often happens to good people and I'm sure that you will get over it. You don't want to be with someone who is unfaithful anyway (assuming that you were faithful). I saw this and it made me think of unaboner bragging in another thread that he is sleeping with his "best friend's" wife. That type of shit really gets me unnerved. I don't understand how someone can be so dirty and low to do something that would hurt someone else that way. Keep your head up!;)

Keep in mind that Unaboner also likes to say stuff simply to get a rize out of people.

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What are his other screen names? He's been here almost as long as I have. ???