what is your fantasy of the perfect girl or boy
 

Hi tell me your fantasy mine is a girl with long blonde hair blue eyes nice ass inshape and no implants;)

err let me think##

jenifer lopes

hmmmm...
 

Collin Farell

Jennifer Tilley .... or someone who looks like her....

Xenia Seeberg, you've probably seen her on Lexx. Most beautiful woman I've ever seen. My girlfriend would kick my ass if she knew I just typed that.

Fairuza Balk- love goth chicks, yes I have to open graves to find girls to fall in love with.

I am with you on that ... I went on this goth site one night and it had a lot of pictures of goth girls on it... just like pin-up pictures, but cant find that site for the life of me... But I dated this goth girl and man she was overwhelming... LOL she was really intense....

my idea of a perfect woman is one who can appreciate a nice guy without getting board and wants commitment and a family some day. A women who knows what she wants and doesnt change her mind every other minute. Someone who doesnt take love for granted and wont walk all over you to get to your best friend.

sounds like you have had someone dump on you....

cliche but....My girlfriend

LOL not someONE, but many many someones and for the same reason:

Your TOO nice, theres no conflict in the relationship:rolleyes:

Girl time
 

First of all... Arioch, you're groovin' man. Someone who loves as deeply as you do.

Okay, for the perfect guy not a name but a type: Sexy villains

The perfect girl would look like KD lang, but softer. She'd be my height with piercing eyes. Good hips, sweet tits. ...and pretty feet. I have a foot fettish.

I also have a thing for Rockabilly chicks, with the poodle skirts and the 50s thing going that is too hott

ritualistic...the website with goth chicks you MAY be referring to might be "suicide girls"...personally, 95% of the girls on that site, just aren't "gothy" enough for my liking...

i agree w/ chee
 

i agree with chee, the site you want probabl is suicidegirls...and he's right...most of the girls i would say are more punk than goth...or a mixture of the two...but if you wanna see some hot naked girls than hey no problem.

I have many fantasy girls... :D

my perfect woman, Lucy Liu but with bigger tits....of course if i had Lucy Liu...i'd keep her!

I like all the stuff Arioch said if a girl dont have that then she just dont seem worth it.

Somebody you can laugh with..., somebody who's tolerant, somebody who doesn't run off at the mouth before having all the facts before them (just TRY to find that), somebody that can make you smile, just by smiling....(I get that)... Somebody that makes you feel like you can just be cool being you, somebody that you can talk to, about anything, even stupid or boring shit, yet still find the conversation stimulating enough, simply because the two of you share so many views, and somebody that makes you think of the future, with them in it, and most importantly, you don't have to know exactly WHY you feel the way you do about them, you just know that there's no changing it...
I'm happy to report that I currently have a lady who does all of this for me, and I couldn't be cooler with that....because she isn't a fantasy for me, nor is she perfect, but I realise day after day that she's everything I could ever have aspired to find...

Free Thinker.......... someone who isnt influenced on every decision based on what is "correct" or for fear of being judged by others. If she wants to do something then do it dammit.

Everything is Im pretty flexible, I find different things attractive, from a smile, to beautiful eyes. LOVE EYES.

Doesnt really matter Big, Small, Short, Tall, long hair no hair, those things I can hmmmmm hate to use the words "deal with" but they arent nearly as important to me as someone who can THINK FOR THEMSELVES.;)

i said j-lo

but basically i like curvy tanned brown haired girls or dirty blonde

for real

I agree with that, ive been there and know how it felt. Once was enough for me. It is a truly wonderfull feeling thou...

This is an interesting thread!
Hmmm...
For looks I like androgynous guys, usually slim to medium build, longish or spiky, punky hair, rock n' roll style. Pretty eyes and mouth, I usually like short guys but tall ones are Ok too. They should have some fashion sense and not be afraid to rock the eye-liner billy idol style.
Personality wise they have to be sweet and nice, I am nice and I can't stand nasty guys. I do not put up with crap. (Nor do I dish it out) They should have a good sense of humor but not too sarcastic or mean. Supportive that I am in a band (some guys are weird about that). I like to have my guy in the audience when I play and also they should be supportive of my cartooning. Be morally and emotionally supportive and I give 110% back. He should be creative and have his own stuff going on. He would be smart and like to read a lot too. But perhaps most importantly he'd be able to talk about his feelings when he has a problem instead of bottling up and acting cold, a common problem. I know it sounds cheesy but communication IS most important thing. That would be ideal.

they dumped you for being TOO nice???? what where they looking for an abusive asshole?? i believe you can do better than them Arioch......way better.

I know how you feel my b/f just dumped me for being too nice to him. i thought he was happy with me but i guess i was wrong :(

i dont have a fantasy guy.......why fantasize about someone you will never get with? like brad pitt or justin timeberlake ya their hot but im never gonna be with them so i dont see the point in drooling over them.
ive been throw the ringer with guys many many times (just recently i had a painful break up) :( and i feel im giving up on love. i never really thought about it but now that i am...........i want someone like my ex :(
ya i know im wallowing in selfpity:(

I just want a guy who will shut up, have good sex with me and not call me on the phone. I hate the phone and I don't want to be in any kind of relationship any time soon.

But... if I did meet someone who swept me off my feet or something, he'd have to be a bit aloof and kind of weird. And not want to talk on the phone all day. And I don't want anyone calling me at work or thinking that they need to come visit me at work. And he'd have to be funny and taller than me and able to burp at least half way through the alphabet. He should be able to handle his liquor, smoke pot without being a pot head, and not want kids 'cause I'm not willing to give birth to them. He shouldn't get scared easily and has to know how to handle a gun. He should like outdoorsy stuff more than I do (this way I have a bit more incentive to do outdoorsy stuff) and he HAS to understand what "personal space" is. Oh, and he should have a bit of a crude sense of humor, otherwise we might not get along because he'd probably think I was mean. And he has to be willing to put up all the holiday decorations and should have the sense to know that Christmas lights should be put up BEFORE the snow falls.

And above all else - if something makes me look fat, he'd better fucking tell me.

well, not ALL the holiday decorations, but the ones outside anyway.

OH! And he has to know how to fix cars. And it'd be super cool if he could fix computers, too. And he has to be smart - like able to play Scrabble using words other than bodily functions, 4 letter words or 6th grade reading level words. And he should be able to complete a crossword puzzle and know what juxtaposition and masticate mean (they're my favorite words) and he should understand the "the wise never truly graduate" does NOT mean that smart people are all high school drop outs.

Oh and for those of you being dumped for being "too nice," it's actually more likely that that's just what someone told you. More times than not, the "too nice" comment is about people who have a lack of self confidence. There's nice and then there's pushover. I've dumped guys for the same reason. I don't want someone I can walk all over, there's got to be some driving force.

I don't personally know any of you, so I'm not saying that this is the same case for you. This is just what I know from personal experience. It's not so much the conflict as it is the possibility of conflict. If you don't have any confidence, you're not likely to stand up for what you want. "I dunno, whadda you wanna do" is THE biggest sign of this. If you can't come up with something to do half the time, there's no fun in it.

well, ya it does sound like an excues but ive gotten it from at least 3-4 girls. Im not insecure enough to not know what i want and not go after it. I may be insecure but im not Indecisive. I would make sure the relationship is give and take, that its good on both sides ya know.

My family taught me to treat women like Princesses, and it took me a long time to figure out thats not really what women want.

Arioch, they really should rephrase that to "treat single moms like princesses." Most other women want someone who's a man's man, but sensitive when it's just them, too. At least that's my opinion on the whole thing.

Ignore them and they will seek you.

Just remember - everyday do something "guyish" and blow them off or say something sexist or something along those lines. An apple a day keeps the doctor away, but an asshole remark a day keeps the girls in line.

i would not be attracted to a guy who made up 'guy' excuses to blow me off just to seem confident and not 'too nice'.
Maybe Arioch wasn't 'too nice', maybe these girls were 'too messed up' to appreciate somebody who treated them well. Plus at different times in people's lives they have different needs when it comes to being serious or not. Not everyone is capable of intimacy. There are plenty of people out there like that.
Acting macho and aloof may be good advice if you want someone who likes macho types and being emotionally manipulated. But blowing someone off to seem busy and in demand is a bad head game. I think it's best to be yourself and yes do treat women like princesses and they should treat men like princes. If you aren't being treated well, don't put up with it there are more fish in the sea. Relationships are a give and take and that old quote 'Do unto others' really goes a long way.

which is why this is just my take on the situation.

and in my experience, girls are worse at head games than guys are.

I agree with abbycomix, relationships are all about trust and communication..if you don't communicate with your partner, about things that are bothering you that they do or don't do, you're not going to know that there is anything wrong. Also you have to believe that it may just be them, and not you. You can't always be blaming yourself, because you get dumped..yeah at first you may do that (hell i do it!)..but after awhile you'll realise that you're better off without someone who drags you down. By dragging down, i mean someone who doesn't treat you with respect and someone who isn't a true friend. I use to get the "well you're nice and all" or the "i just want to be friends" line, and I've come to the same conclusion that Billy Crystal came to in "When Harry, Met Sally", that men and women cannot be friends because the sex always gets in the way and it's true! One of three things will happen: 1)the guy likes the girl more than the girl likes him. 2)the girl like the guy more than the guy like her and 3.)they fall in love with each other...unfortunately in my experience 3 is very unlikely to happen. and well if you don't agree with me, girls ask you're guy friends if they want to sleep with you, and I bet most of them will say yes. Trust me they have thought about it.

I checked out the site, this isnt the site I am talking about... this site had an entrance page and it is really goth themed.. I wish I could remember it..

i dont think thats why he dumped me, i think he just used that as an excuse (im far from nice). i believe its because im a difficult person to understand. i find humor in nonhumorous situitations, i'm one of the school bullies, i treat people like shit.............but for my 4 close friends and my two siblings im really nice. i stay up with my friends when their sick, i take my siblings to disneyland every year (a place i hate)............i make fun of people and make their lives at school miserable, i embarrass them infront of out peers but when they usually start to cry or become withdrawn i feel sorry for them....but im still a bitch to them. he broke up with meafter i helped jason (a guy i hate, and he likewise, feels the same for me) with his homework, when earlier that dayi made him look like a jackass in the cafeteria infront of his friends. im nice to people untill they piss me off, then after ive embarrassed them, kicked their ass, w/e.....im nice to them. not ill kiss your ass nice, but ya you can copy my math homework nice

and as far as self confidence goes............ive been told i have to much

This is a easy question LOOK AT MY AVATAR! Are they fak? DUNNO!
Do I care? NO!

LOL:)

OOOPZ I MEAN are they FAKE? dunno
Do I care? NO!
LOL

rikki...
 

Exact opposite in every way, and, chew, right?
Not trying to prove anything here...

There are, of course, exceptions, but...

The vast majority of women, no matter what they might say in a poll or a forum like this, really get turned on by a man who is cocky, arrogant, a little bit distant, presents an aura of danger, and who is confident to the point of thinking he's the hottest thing since sliced bread! If he can look at a super hot woman and either sneer or roll his eyes like he's bored, so much the better. That hot babe will pretty much make it her business to rock his darned world!
Oh sure, they SAY they want the nice guy, the sensitive type who is "not afraid of his feelings", the great communicator. But I tell you what, you let a girl be out with a guy like that, and let a dangerous-looking guy start staring at her, and her "nice guy" will get laid that night...simply because she's fantasizing about the other guy.

You can be a nice guy if you want to, but you'll have far fewer dates than the guy who typically treats a woman like a cross between a trophy and a sex object, and who makes sure she knows he could just as easily take her as leave her.

The trash talker, the game player, the arrogant chauvanist, the very thing it's "popular" for women to say they don't like, is the guy who will take your girlfriend from you and get her to do things to/for him that she wouldn't think of doing to/for you (and yes, I mean in and out of bed). I could tell some stories...but nah, it wouldn't be all that appropriate.

I know what I'm talking about because I have been on both sides. I was the nice guy once, genuinely, no faking. But I found my "success", if you want to call it that, increased dramatically once I stopped being so nice. I've kind of settled in the middle lately, but I'm telling you, you do have to be nice, and sensitive, and all those feminine things, but you also have to have a darker side (and I don't mean a HARMFUL side), if you want your lady to be TOTALLY into you.

As I said, I realize there are exceptions to this, but most of the women who have posted to this thread have been either lying or at least shading the truth! ;)

My fantasy girl hmmmm... she has to have a J-Lo butt, lips like Angelina Jolie, Boobs like Pamela Lee, a body like Jessica Biel.... hmmmmm....wait a minute what kind of fantasy are we talking about????? oh right

I 100% agree with you on all these points. Ive seen it happen to me and 3 other of my "nice" guy friends, while 2 of my other asshole type guy friends have NONSTOP women. I mean NONSTOP!!! its so rediculous, i just wish some of them were more honest about what they wanted, so atleast i could know who to avoid. Instead im forced to avoid them all lol:D