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Opinions on an issue everyone.....

My ex friend that i used to hook up with imed me today and said shit to me...that Im a lying piece of shit and that I am a prick...and that I am obsessed with myself and told me that I desire pitty from other people....which is all untrue....Yes I had feelings for her in the begining and we hooked up and one thing led to another and we slept together....I regreted it...I told her in the begining that I didnt want a girlfriend and that I didnt want her to have feelings for me and she said okay and still continued to want to get with me....I later backed out because I didn't want it anymore....Then 2 weeks later I met someone and I fell for her....we hooked up for a week or two then we started to go out....Now she is all pissed cause I said I didnt wanna go out with anyone but now I am....I just didnt want to tell her I didnt have feelings for her and be mean about it....I like when people like me...I dont like when people hate me so I tried doing it the nice way. Was I wrong...am I obsessed and a liar and a prick....am I a big joke like she said I am? I need some opinions from close friends I have on here....aka Rayne, Jay, MassacreMan, Kristin (fluff), Vod, Kpro, and others.....Tell me whats wrong with me and just help me out.... I need the thoughts of others to help me.....

Thank you all....

Jon

Sounds like you tried ta let her down easy, and it backfired on ya?

You meant well.

Go with the flow.

thanks man...I just hate how everything is turned against me....

Yeah, you know, this chick tried to "let me down easy" not long ago, and I appreciate the fact that she didn't want to hurt my feelings by saying something that might've been painful, but I think I would have preferred something more direct. Maybe that girl feels she might've wanted you to just lay the truth on her. I dunno. Life is a creative problem solving thing, and every situation's different, so the best a person can do is take a good guess, do whatever seems right and see what happens...

i thought this was gonna be about ur film school dealio!!

neway, ur a very sweet guy jon, u know that. as for her, shes just hurt ya know? i can see where shes comin from and u let her down easy which is nice but i think in the end u just gotta be honest

i had to drop italian boy noodles on sunday and i just told him 'i dont think i can see yuo anymore.... your a great guy but its just not a good fit.... your very good, im very zany... i dont see this going anywhere'

he DID ask 'did u meet someone else' and while i had, i was tihnking this shit even before i had met him. neway, im glad i told him the truth than to try and tell him 'oh well i dont want to date anyone' when really i do

know what i mean? shes just hurt is all and im sure in a while u can talk with her, apologize, kinda tell her u like her or whatever but just not relationship wise. im sure itll be fine!

and if its not, well shes not worth it then if she doesnt understand. theres how many people in this world, lifes too short to waste trying to please a dificult one. ur not gonna get along with everyone!

I agree, you tried to let he r down easy. its not your fault you found someone you actually like and want to be with. Shit happens, and just because you arent ready one week doesnt mean you wont be the next week.


Hows this for some argument ammo?

I went 7 years with no gf, only a couple of dates that went nowhere. I had NOTHING at all for 7 years. i wasnt interested in most of the girls i met. I had basically resigned myself to being single and occasionally messing around with people i met, but being up front that i wasnt going to get involved with anyone.

Then whithin a week or two of declaring that, i met Bree. Did things change?

Well., its over 2 years later and we're married now. Shit happens. People change. She'll get over it.

Sounds like you were up front with the pissed chick from the beginning. Thats all you can do.

Your only 18....you should be playing the field for a bit anyway. And stop trying to please everybody....I've learnt from experience....that doesn't work. The nice guys always get shit on. And unless your into scat.....that sucks.

yeah I totally agree with all of you....but it's funny you say play the field newb because im only 18 but i have slept with over a dozen girls....14 to be exact....If i keep playing the field...I'll be in the 20's and I don't want that ya know....being a man whore isn't always a good thing.


As for letting her down easy without being front....I know it's better to be honest but I never liked honest towards me so I tried doing the thing I thought best for myself....

as for fluff...ur amazing and nice too....I luv u never change....I'll be seeing you soon :) In about 2 years if your still around :)...

anyway thanks for everyones support...if you have any more comments feel free to add them...

thanks

Jon

can you say... STD?

Maybe I read something wrong in your first post.

But it sounds like you used this poor girl, that for some reason liked you. But I guess its her fault because she should have known better.

I mean if you're 18 and you slept with 14 girls, thats a sign you're not really good with relationships and you're a dirty whore

That was pretty harsh.

that is a damndable lie. Okay, if you're going out with one person in particular, sure, but other than that, LIES!

Maybe the dirty whore was uncalled for but it seems like everyone is seeing one side

Well a lot of teens do have casual sex, it's a hormonal thing I guess? Most of the time it's a stage, and most people grow out of it to realize that there is much more to people than a fuck. But in any case, she should have just accepted the fact that he didn't want to be with her in any other way. He didn't make her have sex with him I'm sure. That there was her bad for not actually being with him before she did it.

yeah but I told her in the begining i didnt want a relationship...and It wasnt like 14 i was just saying that....i will count correctly.....7 people....I got with about 14...like hooking up and doing other sexual things....but I slept with 7...and i am not a dirty whore and I don't have an STD....I used condoms with all the girls and I get checked out all the time...

I didnt use her...We had something going but after a few weeks I just got turned off....If I used her would I have hung with her all the time and would I let her meet my friends and stuff and take her to dinner? No I would have fucked her, borrowed money, had her take me places, and chilled with her only a little bit before sex and a few minutes after and then kicked her out....It was never like that...we were close friends so I hardly think I used her.

and I'm 2 of them

i read up to,.....something. that doest matter, :o . man, am i sleepy..

That why I said it was her fault, she should have known better.

But I know he just wanted something out of it. Something wasn't clear. He could have said "I don't want a girlfriend"

But he knew what was going to happen. I
think he lead her on, got what he wanted and then went on too the next victim

Yeah two but then the one time in the middle of nowhere in the Mexican outhouse you can't forget that time sam

silly rabbit, Mexicans don't have outhouses, they just go out in the cornfield

So you lied about 14 women? I just read you're last post, so that post might no make any sense.

Fuck it, You're a liar. and no one should believe you

fuck you man....I didn't lead her on...Do you seriously think I would come on here for opinions if I lead someone on....I told her I didn't want a girlfriend and she said she was fine with that...and said can we still hook up....I agreed....what guy in their right mind would turn that down....So then one thing lead to another and it happened....We still chilled and shit for a few more weeks and only had sex once....not like I said see ya the next day and never spoke to her again...

opps I'm sorry lover....my mistake!

yeah thats right dont believe me...fuck you man I said I just threw a number out there....i got with aka hooked up with 14 really slept with 7....Sorry I needed to clarify that....just stop adding your two cents cause they aren't wanted anymore...you rarly know me and this thread was ment for people who truely know me....plus ur a dick on this forum anyway

Silly rabbit, mexicans don't have cornfields they have Tomato fields

No way. I'm not becoming number 15. keep me out of you're wild sex antics

Haahaha! I agree. "I'm 18 and slept with 14 girls" You wanna fuckin' medal? That's nothing to brag about. It sounds like a case of treating people like shit and getting what you deserved. I bet you've probably fucked most of her friends. You're just a womanising prick by the sound of it and that shit backfires on assholes like you all the time.

yup

hey said the wrong number im not a womanizer....shit happened and now things are okay between us...and Im staying single for awhile and just sorting shit out....no more girls right now....it was 7 girls and it was no ones friends or nothing....i am not a prick or a womanizer i was in love with 4 of those girls...each i was with for more then 6 months so dont preach to me on that....the other 3 were ones that just happened.....so dont treat me like shit when I am nothing but sweet to girls and I am a nice guy.

I don't know you, I was just going by what it sounds like (it's different now though). Maybe you're the best person in the history of the world, I don't know.

lol im not the best guy in the world trust me....but im just no pig or womanizer...i always have ppls backs and Im always the "shoulder to cry on" or the ear to lend when someone needs to speak....Im here for anyone....Im not a womanizer like they claim....It was just an honest mistake....

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I think that in some way you should had let her know clearly that you didn't have any true feelings for her and just wanted too be friends. It's hard too say that too a friend whit out sounding mean. Just imagine it "Ummm look I have no feeling towards you whats so ever and I just wanna be friends". Read it a couple of times and analyze it. I once had a same what sort of trouble but I was on the receving end. But hey she told me straight and fair and it still hurts even today tho I have a gf whom I love. I guess what I'm triying too say too you or anyone who is reading this post is that. Theres no way in saying: "In saying I just wanna be friends and nothing more." So chin up and try having a serious talk whit her.

My 2 cents...


We know who and what we are, far better than anyone else does...Our perception of ourselves is much more important than what others think of us (That means...Who gives a damn what other people think?)...I'm going to be myself no matter what...I will only change something, about myself, if I don't like it...




If someone says something about me...I consider it this way...

A)...If it's true...I would have to agree with them...Of it's something that I don't think is good...Then I can change it...Of it's something that I don't mind being, then I just say, "Yeah...What's your point?"

B)...If it ISN'T true...Then I just consider the fact that the person saying it must not know anything about me, so their opinion doesn't matter to me AT ALL...and because it isn't true, it doesn't bother me in the least...So, it really just doesn't even register...

Either way...Because I know who and what I am...ANYTHING that anyone else says or thinks about me, cannot affect me...

I only really care about how 5 people in this entire world may be affected by anything that I may say or do...I am one of those 5 people...People who may talk shit about me, are NOT one of those 5 people...So...As I said...I REALLY couldn't care less...

That's the way to be :cool:

I on the other hand, care too much what other people think. (not on the internet though)

thank you rayne ur opinion means alot to me....no one except u and a few know me a little at least....thanks for the advice....if someone dont know me and make a wrong statement then oh well think what ya want i know the truth....thank you

why are you fighting over a blanket? There'e more next to the sofa stupid dog, get them and make your bed.:(