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Freak 12-12-2011 08:38 PM

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Originally Posted by The Villain (Post 913110)
Yeah i've made mistakes like that before during break ups so im not gonna do that now. Went out and hung out with a friend and now im watching a movie. I'm just gonna focus on myself and every day things will get a little better.

At least you dont still have to see her every day. Be thankful for that.

Ferox13 12-13-2011 04:58 AM

LOL@'sexy-things'

The Villain 12-13-2011 02:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Freak (Post 913126)
At least you dont still have to see her every day. Be thankful for that.

Yeah thats true. I'm guessing you have to see your ex everyday? That really sucks. I went through that with my last ex who is the mother of my child. So i have to still see her all the time but we actually get along now. Just dealt with a lot of drama from the most recent ex today so that was really bad but i'm feeling really good about things and ready to move on with my life.

Fearonsarms 12-13-2011 04:04 PM

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Originally Posted by The Villain (Post 913216)
Yeah thats true. I'm guessing you have to see your ex everyday? That really sucks. I went through that with my last ex who is the mother of my child. So i have to still see her all the time but we actually get along now. Just dealt with a lot of drama from the most recent ex today so that was really bad but i'm feeling really good about things and ready to move on with my life.

Maybe you should make use of the chainsaw?

Elvis_Christ 12-13-2011 05:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Fearonsarms (Post 913229)
Maybe you should make use of the chainsaw?

Far too loud. Need a nice hammer or something.

Freak 12-13-2011 07:17 PM

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Originally Posted by The Villain (Post 913216)
Yeah thats true. I'm guessing you have to see your ex everyday? That really sucks. I went through that with my last ex who is the mother of my child. So i have to still see her all the time but we actually get along now. Just dealt with a lot of drama from the most recent ex today so that was really bad but i'm feeling really good about things and ready to move on with my life.

Yeah have to see her at work. Don't ever get involved with a co-worker. It always ends badly.

The Villain 12-13-2011 07:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Fearonsarms (Post 913229)
Maybe you should make use of the chainsaw?

That'll work nicely

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Originally Posted by Freak (Post 913251)
Yeah have to see her at work. Don't ever get involved with a co-worker. It always ends badly.

Yup made that mistake before

ManchestrMorgue 12-14-2011 12:49 AM

Sorry to hear about this mate. It is tough to lose someone (for whatever reason you lose them). Even if you know that things aren't right, you are used to having them in your life and it takes some adjustment to feel OK without them.

It is a process of grief really, and that takes time. Not that you can't do things to make that go more smoothly/easily.

But a breakup usually means that things haven't been going well (for at least one of you) for some time (unless of course there was a really big single thing that led to the breakup). Sometimes it is best that the breakup occurs when it does than for both of you to try and pretend that things are fine. It certainly doesn't become any easier if the breakup occurs later rather than sooner. People can try to "sort things out", get counselling, etc - but for that to work both parties need to be really invested in making it work, otherwise it is unlikely to be successful.

Moving on can be difficult and painful. But it is not likely to be as difficult and painful forever as it is now. Give yourself some time to work through it, and do some things that you enjoy with people that you enjoy being with. In time you will be ready to move on, and who knows - perhaps a wonderful relationship is around the corner somewhere, yet to be imagined.

Anyway, good luck with it all.

The Villain 12-14-2011 02:34 PM

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Originally Posted by ManchestrMorgue (Post 913265)
Sorry to hear about this mate. It is tough to lose someone (for whatever reason you lose them). Even if you know that things aren't right, you are used to having them in your life and it takes some adjustment to feel OK without them.

It is a process of grief really, and that takes time. Not that you can't do things to make that go more smoothly/easily.

But a breakup usually means that things haven't been going well (for at least one of you) for some time (unless of course there was a really big single thing that led to the breakup). Sometimes it is best that the breakup occurs when it does than for both of you to try and pretend that things are fine. It certainly doesn't become any easier if the breakup occurs later rather than sooner. People can try to "sort things out", get counselling, etc - but for that to work both parties need to be really invested in making it work, otherwise it is unlikely to be successful.

Moving on can be difficult and painful. But it is not likely to be as difficult and painful forever as it is now. Give yourself some time to work through it, and do some things that you enjoy with people that you enjoy being with. In time you will be ready to move on, and who knows - perhaps a wonderful relationship is around the corner somewhere, yet to be imagined.

Anyway, good luck with it all.

Its been hard but i'm doing better. Thanks for the support and advice.

Tangleduponblue 12-15-2011 10:59 PM

Enjoy being single, take it as an opprotunity to learn more about your looking for in a woman. After all, how can you hope to better know or figure it out unless you try different types?

Avoid psychadelic drugs (only half joking).

If she has facebook, twitter, or any of that stuff, avoid checking her profiles and consider de-friending her on said sites.


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