ManchestrMorgue |
12-14-2011 12:49 AM |
Sorry to hear about this mate. It is tough to lose someone (for whatever reason you lose them). Even if you know that things aren't right, you are used to having them in your life and it takes some adjustment to feel OK without them.
It is a process of grief really, and that takes time. Not that you can't do things to make that go more smoothly/easily.
But a breakup usually means that things haven't been going well (for at least one of you) for some time (unless of course there was a really big single thing that led to the breakup). Sometimes it is best that the breakup occurs when it does than for both of you to try and pretend that things are fine. It certainly doesn't become any easier if the breakup occurs later rather than sooner. People can try to "sort things out", get counselling, etc - but for that to work both parties need to be really invested in making it work, otherwise it is unlikely to be successful.
Moving on can be difficult and painful. But it is not likely to be as difficult and painful forever as it is now. Give yourself some time to work through it, and do some things that you enjoy with people that you enjoy being with. In time you will be ready to move on, and who knows - perhaps a wonderful relationship is around the corner somewhere, yet to be imagined.
Anyway, good luck with it all.
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