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If you two have been friends for a long time, I'd say tell her how you feel. But say it in such a way that she knows you'll still be friends even if the "in love" thing doesen't happen. I have a friend that I've been friends with for about 23 years, and one night, when neither of us was going out with anyone, we decided to satisfy our curiouslity. It never lead to a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, actually I think we both knew that beforehand but we were curious. We are still friends and that was about 15 years ago. Actually I think it enhanced our friendship to get that out of the way. And on the other hand, some of the best relationships I've had started out as friendship. So I'd say go for it. Just don't be all freaky and clingy about it.
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Everybody here has given you stellar advice, Posher. Here's my thought, and it's very similar only put differently.
Posher: You know (insert name) I feel so close to you that I could be more than friends with you. Lady: I like our friendship the way it is. Posher: I feel so close to you that I could do that too. No problem. Take a few deep breaths, and the next time you hang out, act like the conversation never took place. Don't let her feel awkward. That's the key. |
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We get what you're saying, but in other news, fannyface is 33 today! Doesn't that cheer you up!? ;) :D :p |
DONT TELL HER.
this is how freindships get ruined. bottom line, if she felt the same, something would have happened..or will happen. Ignore your feelings, just be kool chill you, and if she ever feels the same way. Something will happen, dont try to make it happen. It never will. I know it easier said than done, but based on personal experience, and statstics(checking out other posts of this nature) , its just better to let things happen naturally. I dont know how old you are, but this seems like a "teen issue". Those relationships just dont work. And if they do, its only a matter of time before your "feelings" for her, get in the way of the original freinship that began it all. She will feel weird. She will want out. You will be heart broken. And you will have lost a freind. Relationships happen on their own. Those are the ones that are long lasting. The ones where you didnt even plan on a relationship, you just hung out..got close...bam..started with a kiss..and both parties say " hey...lets try something" ...they both nod..they kiss..and go back to BEING FREINDS.. the only difference is....there is booty....some xtra emoptional "open-ness"(like..i love you)...and thats it... a freind who naturally became more....a freind who somehow became very close to you and visa versa.. dont chase it...you will never catch it. |
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Stop being so depressed, guys... go out and get yourselves some women. I heard if you "don't use it, you lose it".
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Just be your casual self with this girl..
the thing is ..she obviously must like you too if she has been in a long standing freindship with her..however..the others are right..it could get awkward. From the one experience I have ever had.. we were mates..we became very good mates and eventually ..after many years as mates ..we are now married and we are still the best of mates...but all situations differ. However ..as VC said..don't leave it for too long as she might find somebody and then your whole jealousy mode will kick in. Like in that Lobo song.. I loved you too much to ever start liking you..so don't expect me..to be your freind' 'stubborn lowers her head' G.L on this anyway. :D |
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