And now, back to topic.

Amen, brother! :p

@Pink

It sounds like that guy is a real asshole, and I can relate--I've dated a lot of them. I wouldn't have this situation put you off of men entirely because there are a lot of non-asshole, i.e. nice guys out there. You just have to sift through the crappy ones. Also, being an asshole is not limited to men, it's definitely not a gender thing.

Violence--really bad in any situation! You just end up being the one to get screwed and a few minutes of pleasure you may get from punch your ex's face in is not worth jail time and losing your children. Get a dartboard and put a picture of his face on it or a punching bag. Something that is not illegal.

Betrayal hurts when it's coming from those closest to you, but the only thing you can do is move on from it, learning life's lessons along the way. One thing I have learned is that if you break up, there is no getting back together because you broke up in the beginning for a reason. Getting back together just screws things up worse and it doesn't give you an opportunity to find someone who is right for you.

Sorry to hear about this, I know it is hard to control emotions at times, I don't want to lecture you I know things are hard enough at the moment. I hope you can find a way to deal with this anger you posess soon.

The only advice I can offer is live well and cut him completley out of your life. I know it's hard when you have kids, but you can sort somthing out where perhaps your folks will have the kids when he comes to pick them up etc... So you just don't have to deal with it anymore.

Tak care.

I am really glad Nova told everyone what it feels like,it seems like noone around me understands.I am hurt but i'm also moving on and making a better life.Its getting better everyday.He told me he wants nothing to do with our four beautiful children and i'm ok with that.Hes losing it all for a fucking whore.Thanks for being here for me,its really all i got right now.I luv ya guys!!Nova i'll be pming you soon!:)

Pink - what were you eventually charged with?
Is there a chance you can get yor EX or the woman to drop the charages?

How did u get into his bedroom? Had you keys?

Best of luck in court - I'd definally invest in a decent lawyer.

I'm not sure of the exact charges yet,i have not been served with them yet.As far as the bedroom,he lives with his mom and i knocked and then walked in like always.I caught the two of them on the couch the minute i stepped through the door.I have actually realized that i am finally over the whole thing.I'm focusing on the future and saying fuck the past.

Just when I thought you couldn't make the douchebag sound any more pathetic...

well, arguably - he's the fucking whore.

anyone who would abandon 4 children ... who's worse - him or the person he messed around with ?

I agree - I always find it weird that women blame the other 'home wrecking' female most of the time. Its obvious that the married/in a relationship man is WAY more to blame..

But... he's a man...:confused: :eek:

Isnt it always the woman's fault? Imean, there was lillith, and she wouldnt listen... then Eve.. I mean come on... Its always the chicks dude. :rolleyes:














I usually leave these things assuming everyone is smart enough to know I'm kidding, but I'm not taking a chance with this one, I am kidding... :)

LOL@Vodstok's Disclaimer :-)

Hey, I am usually the type that just lets things fall where they may, let those who get it laugh and those who dont can get as pissed as they want, but given the subject matter here and that this was an otherwise pretty serious thread, i figured a little ass-covering was in order. :)

LOL@Vodstok's Disclaimer's Disclaimer :) :) :)

:D I can keep this up all day :)



I wrote the second disclaimer because i didnt want anyone thinking i had gone soft, but that my sense of humor has some limits due to sensitivity. I'm not a pure asshole :)

I agree...naturally this is how any woman would think or think to act in this situation. However, knowing that he was the one that messed up should motivate you in knowing he's not worth yout time and you deserve better. While you acknowledge his lost, beat him up with kindness. Make him be the one begging and pleading leaving countless voicemails and emails on your cellphone. Make him beg and plead for your forgiveness. You need your time to emotionally heal, but don't let it get to the point where you depreciate yourself. As time moves on, your heart will too. Optimism is key. Think positive and stay positive. Mr Right Now isn't neccessarily Mr. Right forever.