Just read through the thread...I remember you PMing me about this a month or so back...

Its not weird to know that he was having an affair. But with whom was he having...now that is really weird. Maybe he lost his marbles (and his nuts) in-between, or maybe his brains rolled out of his ears. Either way, good riddance.

IMO, someone who did such a thing never deserved you in the first place. Maybe, just maybe...someday he will eventually realise what he lost. And until then it will be too late...

Look at it from the positive side. The children are spared from the hateful, queasy atmosphere at home between both of you, and you yourself can breathe much easier with him not around. He can go get solace from Chyna all he wants.

You, my lovely, are free. And Life stands in front of you with its arms open...

Go out, chill out with friends, roam with your kids, have a blast with em...and enjoy life to the fullest. And wait. For the man who will waltz into your life and sweep you off your feet. Till then, buy The Bridges of Madison County and read it. Better still, watch it and let Eastwood & Streep overwhelm you.

Drop me a line whenever you feel like talking. I m always here. For you.

You guys have been really great through all this, and I can't thank you enough for the support I've gotten here.

My ex husband came over a few days ago and has decided he wants to work things out, it seems like he figured out Chewbacca had nothing on me.
I don't want to work things out with him, but it makes me feel better that he's trying.
Does that make me a bad person?
Probably.;)

Be bad all you want.

Remember, you got a right to be bad.:D

Does that make you a bad person? Absolutely not!!! It's great that he wants to work things out and now realizes the mistake he made, but that's his shit to deal with. It's great cuz now he's probably kicking himself in the ass for being such a tard, but you don't need to fall into his self-pity bullshit. Let him suffer.

If in the long run you guys decide to work it out, make sure he understands that it's under YOUR terms, he's the one that fucked up. And if you never want to work things out, that is certainly your right and DO NOT feel bad about it. Be very careful so he doesn't play on your emotions and the love you once (and maybe still do) had for him. Be strong and do what is best for you and your kids. And being with a strung out junkie, if that's what he's become, is not healthy for you or your kids. Maybe he needs to go into a drug treatment program. Depends on how you feel about that. The main thing is to be strong and do NOT let him talk you into anything or make you feel bad about anything.

Please feel free to PM me any time you want. I'll be glad to help any way I can, even if you just need to vent and want me to just keep quiet ( I can actually do that believe it or not ). Take care, and don't hesitate to reach out to the people you know care about you! :)

Fuck that Miss O! Don't let him come crawling back after what he's put you through. And stay away from the reasoning that taking him back 'would be better for the kids' too. If he's a methhead, it wouldn't be better for anyone but him.

Protect yourself. He may only have realized that he needs your home and his "girlfriend" can't help him in that department. Check to see if he has really cleaned up. He may only be pretending to get his act together. I'm not trying to sound pessimistic; rather, it seems wise, based on what has already happened, not to buy into his line right off the bat.

Not to sound paranoid or anything, but when you said "fuck that", I hope you weren't referring to my advice but were referring to his trying to come weasling back into her life. Sorry, but your response came in right after my post, so I had to ask. :)

Yeah, you are paranoid. haha.

I was saying "fuck that" to the fact that this dude cheats on her & seems to opt for his meth addiction over his family and then tries to come crawling back. Fuck that & fuck him, but certainly not fuck you. :)

I know I dont know you very well Miss Olivia but just wanna send some hugs your way and pass some on to your little ones. I wish you all the best and happiness in life. Dont let him win, rise up and come out of this stronger.
Dont forget to smile for your children and for yourself. :)

I know it would be wrong to let him come back after everything he's put us through. It always seems like people wait until you're at your weakest to put the emotional headlock on you....but I'm a little too stubborn to cave in so easily. I want him to go to counseling for our kids, because they need a father who is straight and clean....not some strung out asshole who's going through an early mid-life crisis lol
As far as him ditching Chewy, I would be lying if I said it didn't give me some bitter satisfaction. I know it's not all her fault, but in the end you get what you give. There is no sympathy in my heart for either of them right now, and I must admit I'm enjoying the tables turning so neatly.
You get what you fucking give, and it's usually gained momentum by the time it comes back around. I just have to be careful to keep myself off of their level.