Cant argue with that. I have always said to the lady I am with, what you see is what you get. I say what I think, I do what I want and I make no promises.

Its a pretty tall order for a woman or a man to ask someone to love them forever. Forever is a long fukin time. I cant say what will happen tomorrow or a week or a year from now.

If I met Uma Thurman in a grocery store and she told me she loved me and wanted to be with me it may be a hard thing to resist. I love my lady for over 7 years now and have been true to her all that time. Its been a difficult road at times considering my past track record but it can be done.

Marroe, if I caught her with someone else she is in no way off the hook.

Urgeok, speaking from exp. just the sight of you kissing another woman in front of your wife would make her insanely jealous. 3ways or more are not like in the movies. Someone is left out and someone always ends up hurt. Fun maybe if it was a casual thingbut otherwise not so much.

i'd be perfecty happy to be just the cameraman ...
i'll need a tripod for 'hands free' operation though

There is also a time and place for monogamy.


I was having a drink with one of my friends the other day and she was wistfully saying she got married too young and now she will always be thinking "hmm,I wonder what a threesome would have been like".....Do not let this happen to YOU.


When you are young-don't even bother getting TIED down-get out there-have fun-use a condom......and don't fall for that"I'm ready for a SERIOUS relationship"-It will never happen until you get settled emotionally and financially (for BOTH sexes) And THEN look for that special someone.:cool:

None, they can never prove a thing....do I seem stupid to you? :p Kidding, kidding. To be honest, I've barely dated in three years. I have too many men friends I think. Plus, I came thisclose to marrying the wrong man. Scared me off of them for awhile...lol.

I see what you are saying, but I still think people hold back a little in the beginning and for good reason. I mean, I'm honest about myself and never pretend to be a different kind of person to please any man (trust that).

But for instance, I have a friend that cheated on a couple of exes of hers. Does she tell her next boyfriend up front, "oh yeah, I have a history of cheating, so you might want to prepare for that?" LOL No, she doesn't do that. And I have never had a guy tell me that upfront. You always find shit like that out the hard way.

There are experiences you have had and things about yourself you just don't share with someone right away. Or maybe I am just guarded and bitter...ha ha....

But it would be better if everyone just put the bad shit out there along with the good and said...this is me, take me or leave me. But most people are just not like that. At least, in my experience.

I don't see what's so hard...

If you're with someone don't fuck anybody else.


As far as what Hudson said about it I guess that's just her view, if everything is cool in her house she doesn't care what goes on outside of it. I don't feel that way, I also don't as she said worry about my girl cheating all the time, not because I don't care but because I trust her.



I'm not quite sure if she realized what she did, she just gave a traveling musician who most likely has his fare share of groupies the green light.

Exactly. It's not that hard. Seriously, just thinking of all the diseases I could get is enough to keep me from sleeping around. It skeeves me out.

And I also agree with the "giving him the green light" part. That's what annoyed me so much about it...she's basically giving him an excuse to screw around on her. The only other thing I could think of...is that maybe she's cheating on him...so if she let's him do what he wants, she can continue to do what she wants....in which case...WHY BE MARRIED??? I don't understand the whole "open marriage" idea. If you want to sleep around or date multiple people...don't get married in the first place.

BAH!!!!:p

It is hard for some people. Because some people don't view sex and relationships in the same way you do. Some people have a harder time resisting when tempted. I agree with you, I don't sleep around, not only because I just don't get any pleasure from casual sex, but because sex can be outright dangerous. And condoms break.

I don't see the point in being married either in that situation, but if it works for them and she really is being honest with how she feels about it, then that is between them. I don't understand it, but then again I don't have to. It does always bug me though when people just seem to accept this kind of behavior as an inevitability. And adultery, in my opinion, is not excused by that "what they don't know won't hurt 'em" bullshit.

In case anyone couldn't tell this is a touchy subject for me....LOL

I don't recall him being institutionalized to be honest....but I *HAVE* heard of him being a sex addict ;)

I also agree that alot of people stray because of the situations they put themselves in...it's not easy to stray when you're at home every night....then again there's the Internet...hmm...but that's a whole other discussion...kinda ;)

And it's true. Once you find the right person, you won't "see" anyone else. I don't mean see in the literal sense, but more of an abstract...simply said, you just don't notice anyone else in that "way" because you're satisfied...and when you're satisfied, there's no need to look. :)

HA! I didn't know that. What a dirty bastard! ;) lmao.

HA! I agree with you HB. Not sure why some men/women are just never satisfied. I mean seriously...catherine zeta jones is gorgeous...why would anyone feel the need to stray? Not saying beauty is everything...I don't want to be mistaken. Obviously there are more qualities to look for in a life-long partner than just outer beauty. But I mean, if somebody's beautiful inside and out...why f that up?
Good, trustworthy people aren't very easy to find. So when you do, better not let them go b/c you *think* you can do better...or b/c you can't control yourself. If you have to end it, do it in a respectful manner....don't cheat.

Wow, unreal :(
I'm sorry that you had to go through that, but also happy for you that it's over now. You've obviously been able to pick up the pieces and make a better life for you and your daughter. That's very admirable. :)

Not a problem. I'm sure it's not easy, but you didn't give up like so many others do. So hell yeah I'm gonna commend ya! ;)

I don't have children, but I imagine they really would be the most powerful motivator to get out of a bad situation. But it does take a lot of strength to pull yourself away from someone you love when they are self-destructing and taking you with them. MM is right, it is admirable you were able to do so for your daughter and for yourself. Good for you. :)

I think if you are leaning toward being unfaithful it is a big sign of something wrong in the relationship. So either fix it, or jump ship and do whatever you damn well please with a good conscience.

I definately agree with this nine. Once you start to entertain thoughts of being unfaithful, it's definately time to re-examine your current relationship.
Of course it's only normal to find somebody attractive, etc...but once you start thinking of actually pursuing them...that's when it turns ugly, and it's definately time to figure out what should be done with regard to your present situation.

I just want to have sex with many uninteresting people and never call them again :D
CK

Addiction to sex??? Legit medical sickness???

Yea right so is attention deficit disorder.

Why is it that everytime someone does something that they know to be wrong they turn around and blame it on some sickness or an addiction. Thats all bullshit.

Somebody help the Creeper, he's a sex addict. What a bunch of BS.

Yes I like to have sex, everyday at least 3 times a day and if my woman cant provide me with that, thats why we were given opposable thumbs.:eek:

There are alot worse things I could imagine having other than this one lol :p

Yes I've seen Oprah once or twice. I'm just making light of the whole sordid thing. ;)

I will not deny that mental illness exists and that it usually goes untreated. Mostly because of the stigma that goes with it.

But I think nowdays doctors are way too quick in putting a label on something and handing out drugs to people like kids in a candy store.

My mother inlaw is a public school teacher in Shitcago. I cant tell you how many times I have had to listen to her drone on about how all her kids in her class have ADD and should be put on Ritalin.

Sounds to me like kids being kids. Let them be kids instead of mindless zombies.

Nymphomania??? I have heard of but not sure of its validity.

And as for everyones brain being different, after my father abandoned me and later died in a car accident my life became quite difficult. Some therpist my mother took me to told me I had bi-polar manic depression. Not that my alcoholic stepfather using me as a punching bag on a daily basis would have anything to do with it. Funny how in my teen years, after I beat his fuckin ass and he left, I really felt better about myself. After I came to terms with my father abandoning me as a child I was even better still. and yet no medication.

Maybe I should blame the alcoholism. There is always an excuse for someones behavior but it doesnt necessarily make it right.

I take back what I said about it being BS.

It just saddens me that most people in this world make excuses for their behavior and we accept it.

Agreed, I knew we were cut from the same piece of stone.

Ever notice on television that every other commercial is one for a drug for some ailment or another?? Its getting ridiculous IMO. Plus I am starting to think its become fashionable to have a mental illness.

Dont get me wrong I am not trying to take away from those that really do, but I think people are becoming hypocondriacs( I know I botched that spelling)

Anyways I suppose what is really crazy is going to work 60 hours a week after which at retirement they give you some worthless watch and then you suffer the indignity of trying to make it to the toilet on time.

Ain't that the truth:mad:

Yeah thats right. I couldnt remember the exact quote but I thought it to be more than true.

I have told people that when they die they should put on thier tombstone, "I wish I spent more time at work."