Bitchiness

[ferretchucker]

I realized the other day that I am a total bitch. Not even the occasional bitch, at least half of my conversations are bitching about something or other. I just find that those conversations tend to move forward quickly and most people can take part. As of yet it hasn't got me into trouble, but it's only a matter of time.

Now, if I have a real problem with someone I will do one of two things depending on how much I usually like them.
1 Ignore them and move on
2 Tell them the problem in the hopes that they can work on it


But there are certain things, little things, that just nag me. The kidn of thing that I wouldn't go to them about as it's big enough to start an argument if take the wrong way but not big enough for that to be worth it. So, instead I talk about them behind their backs to get it off my chest. I could keep it to myself but I don't. As I said, I enjoy the bitchy topics.

Is anybody else like this? I know EVERYBODY has the occasional bitch and moan but does anybody else seem to do it a lot. As I said, I don't mean anything spiteful in doing it, but if I have a complaint that's relatively small, I'll discuss it with someone else. Do you get what I mean?

[novakru]

Most of us do not have the proper outlets in these crazy times to vent the pent up insanity we all live day to day, we are just expected to absorb it all like cattle and plaster a giant smile on masking the roiling shitfest going on beneath...so, we bitch and it is a very interesting and topical and way to let a little pressure out.
All those stupid reality shows with nothing but bitchy ppl getting into fights with other bitchy ppl...wouldn't be so popular.
If we were not meant to...nobody would pay attention to it or even respond.
Even if you respond to bitching by being bitchy...same difference.

Saying something behind a back is safe...and non confrontational but eventually it will come back to you when you least expect it, just be there with your giant smile and fake apology:D

Bitch on baby.

[missmacabre]

On "bitchin and moaning":
I used to complain constantly about the littlest things. I found it very therapeutic, until my boyfriend pointed out that it made it seem like I didn't want help with my problems, just attention.

So now if something's realllly bugging me I post it on twitter. If I want the subject to "accidentally" get around to the offending person I will tweet about it for them to see, but when I see them in person I will be nice and bring up the subject politely. That way I seem nice but they know I was clearly upset by it. It's passive aggressive of me, and really kinda lame, but it works.


On "being a bitch":

I can be a bitch on purpose really well. I am witty and can usually make people look and feel horrible just because I want to. Other times I am the shittiest person sometimes completely by accident.

Like on Wednesday when a girl who is in my class and I finished our test at the same time and left the room. She immediately clung to me and was telling me about herself, trying to make friends. She was a bit of an over-sharer and told me about her Dad being in jail, how she has ptsd, how her dad was an alcoholic and killed her dog right in front of her, how her dad tried to poison her mom for insurance money. Then she told me all about her love of the Twilight series, and about every single book she read throughout her entire childhood. Finally I told her I had to leave, and walked away to see a friend. The first thing out of my mouth was "omg I just spent an hour with the most annoying person in the woooorld, thank god I saw you and escaped." Turns out the girl had followed me, and was standing less than a foot behind me. I was mortified, and felt so bad cause she clearly just needs friends. :(

[ferretchucker]

Like on Wednesday when a girl who is in my class and I finished our test at the same time and left the room. She immediately clung to me and was telling me about herself, trying to make friends. She was a bit of an over-sharer and told me about her Dad being in jail, how she has ptsd, how her dad was an alcoholic and killed her dog right in front of her, how her dad tried to poison her mom for insurance money. Then she told me all about her love of the Twilight series, and about every single book she read throughout her entire childhood. Finally I told her I had to leave, and walked away to see a friend. The first thing out of my mouth was "omg I just spent an hour with the most annoying person in the woooorld, thank god I saw you and escaped." Turns out the girl had followed me, and was standing less than a foot behind me. I was mortified, and felt so bad cause she clearly just needs friends. :(

Ouch. How did she take it?

[missmacabre]

Ouch. How did she take it?

That's the thing... I don't know. She was just putting headphones in her ears. So I have no idea if she heard, and she's too shy to say anything if she had. To make it worse we are in a group for a project and it's going to be so so awkward lol Stress Management class is going to kill me.

If she did hear, then fuck it, she likes Twilight.

[friday13thfan]

That's the thing... I don't know. She was just putting headphones in her ears. So I have no idea if she heard, and she's too shy to say anything if she had. To make it worse we are in a group for a project and it's going to be so so awkward lol Stress Management class is going to kill me.

If she did hear, then fuck it, she likes Twilight.

Awkward in Stress Management Class? Should that class be the least stressful of all?

[friday13thfan]

Also looking back on myself. When I first joined this board I was a little bitch, granted I was only 13 (I am 19 very near 20 now). I look back at my old post and go "what the hell was I thinking".

[missmacabre]

Awkward in Stress Management Class? Should that class be the least stressful of all?

So far it is a huge fail in ridding me of unwanted stress. Started the class late so I missed day 1, was sick day 2, teacher was sick day 3 and 4, day 5 I went to class and found out what we had assigned. Day 6 I had an assignment due, Journals we were supposed to write 3 times a day starting the first day of class (which I missed). Day 7 I missed for an appt. Day 8 and 9 I went to. Day 10 I had a test (which I stressed about and studied way too much. Ended up with perfect on it though). Somewhere in there I was assigned to a group of people I don't know for a project on shiatsu massage. :rolleyes: Fun class.

[friday13thfan]

Sounds like the total opposite. Should be called "Super Stressful What the Hell is going on" Class.

[X¤MurderDoll¤X]

drop out of that class and stop thinking of stress as a bad thing, mm. :)

[missmacabre]

drop out of that class and stop thinking of stress as a bad thing, mm. :)

I understand that there is good stress and bad stress. I am just really bad at controlling my bad stress so I end up completely shutting down in stead of fixing what is wrong. What I have learned so far has been very motivating. ie: general adaptation syndrome. You get stressed and it is bad, you adapt to stress, and then your body can't take it anymore and you get sick and eventually die from the stress put on your body. I don't want that to happen, so I am more motivated to move out asap.

[X¤MurderDoll¤X]

I understand that there is good stress and bad stress. I am just really bad at controlling my bad stress so I end up completely shutting down in stead of fixing what is wrong. What I have learned so far has been very motivating. ie: general adaptation syndrome. You get stressed and it is bad, you adapt to stress, and then your body can't take it anymore and you get sick and eventually die from the stress put on your body. I don't want that to happen, so I am more motivated to move out asap.

I giggled about idea that telling people their stress will kill them if they don't get rid of it as a way to reduce stress in people though. stress won't kill you, what kind of credentials do these instructors have?

[Freak]

I'm an asshole and I really like being an asshole.I hurt people's feelings on purpose.I dont know why but I do.

[Ferox13]

Best way to deal with being a 'bitch' is to bitch about it on the internets..

[cheebacheeba]

My chick and I...when we're talking about our friends, literally 90+% of it is focused on the shit they do that annoys us/pisses us off.
Same with family.
Yknow why?
Because people are fucking annoying, doesn't matter if they're your friends, the human race finds ways to just fuck eachother off...most are just self centred and inconsiderate of others, without even realising it - Hell, I'm probably guilty of this myself to an extent, but on the other end there's the real oxygen theives that you just HAVE to think would be better put off the Earth.
With friends, with family, just be honest and straightforward, don't sugarcoat things - Any REAL issues will either sort themselves out, or not, in which case it's pretty much up to you to deem it worthy or unworthy of continued exposure.

[missmacabre]

I giggled about idea that telling people their stress will kill them if they don't get rid of it as a way to reduce stress in people though. stress won't kill you, what kind of credentials do these instructors have?

I honestly think her only credential is that she has a really soothing voice and smiles a lot. :D

[ChronoGrl]

Like on Wednesday when a girl who is in my class and I finished our test at the same time and left the room. She immediately clung to me and was telling me about herself, trying to make friends. She was a bit of an over-sharer and told me about her Dad being in jail, how she has ptsd, how her dad was an alcoholic and killed her dog right in front of her, how her dad tried to poison her mom for insurance money. Then she told me all about her love of the Twilight series, and about every single book she read throughout her entire childhood. Finally I told her I had to leave, and walked away to see a friend. The first thing out of my mouth was "omg I just spent an hour with the most annoying person in the woooorld, thank god I saw you and escaped." Turns out the girl had followed me, and was standing less than a foot behind me. I was mortified, and felt so bad cause she clearly just needs friends. :(

Over-sharers bother me. Don't feel bad; they need to learn how to socialize properly. I don't think you were being bitchy at all.

[X¤MurderDoll¤X]

I honestly think her only credential is that she has a really soothing voice and smiles a lot. :D

smiles are good. :)

[ferretchucker]

Over-sharers bother me. Don't feel bad; they need to learn how to socialize properly. I don't think you were being bitchy at all.

They are annoying. Almost as annoying as the time my uncle went mental and drove his car into a supermarket. It was because he was on drugs which he bought from my cousin. Nobody died in the crash but it pushed my grandmother over the edge to the point she actually murdered her pet dog and went to prison because of it. I go to visit her sometimes but she just smears shit all over the window.




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