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novakru
02-10-2010, 03:16 PM
After numerous emails from my ex bullying me because he thinks that because the judge threw out both our claims against each other in domestic court that he could continue to break me down...this is the last email I will send to him unless it concerns the children:




I am fine with this weekends exchange. I believe that it is 'mutually agreeable' at this time.

Yes, "A new day is upon us". I have discovered a new found sense of freedom and an emotional awakening had occurred within my soul. I am no longer in fear of repeated physical and emotional abuse from you.

Sweetheart, I have no desire to seek emotional retribution against you. Do not confuse my newly found peace within as anger. For the first time in my life, I feel free. I choose for no one (even you, Baby) to treat me like a doormat or slave. I think that the self esteem that you so systematically and expertly stole from me over the 13 years of our relationship is starting to return. And never forget, that the consequences of your actions are the only reason that the children know anything "unpleasant". The only thing that is "obvious" is that my days under your thumb are over. You are now addressing the NEW and IMPROVED Nova (...and I am spiritually growing everyday).

The notion that you feel that you have a say about me in the children's lives as being "for their benefit" is ridiculous. You have threatened me time after time with DSS. I was so afraid that they would believe your bull crap and I would lose the kids. Well; now DSS are my allies. They have found me to be a fit mother and that I maintain a wholesome, loving and developmentally stable environment for my beautiful children.

Greg, please do not be intimidated by my self esteem. You are probably surprised by my "talking back" or "not being a good wifey"; but since you have been doing this useless crap in court, I have recently deduced that , well... your full of shit, and always have been. Sorry Honey, the truth might hurt a bit for you. It damn sure has set me free!!!! Besides, "court action on your behalf would be selfish and unwarranted" has not stopped you in the recent past, why would I worry about it now? It would seem that "the best interests of the children" has already been established. Seriously, do you think that Warren can change what multiple DSS investigators, counselors and other professionals have already established? I suspect that Warren may be at a loss. He is not your dog either, stop using him as a threat.

You do not allow me to win these little battles. The support and guidance that I have received from God, the State, my legal and professional council, my family, my friends, and my children has awakened my soul, as I already stated. This confidence that has been discovered (or rediscovered as it were) has given me the ability to see your BS for what it is. That is why I win; certainly not because you allow it. And if I were you; while your listening to friends, family, and attorney; please disregard the little other voices in your mind... They don't serve you well. NC will never give you the children; and I have that on the confidence of every professional advocate that I now have council with.

Please stop sending emails where you threaten me with lawyers, loosing the kids, questioning my attitude,
or any other petty attempt to bait me into saying something that could be used as evidence. I know that I don't have the education that you have- but that does not make me any less smart.

Any further communication about anything outside of visitation exchanges and day to day matters involving the kids will be forwarded to my attorney and considered harassment.

Ciao

A new day is upon us

Happy Valentines Day (to me)

Nova




OK:
what do the chicks that have ever been stomped on think of this??

Angra
02-10-2010, 03:25 PM
What does all this have to do with me?

newb
02-10-2010, 05:54 PM
haha...very nice Nova. You really put the asshole in his place. ;)

ManchestrMorgue
02-10-2010, 08:29 PM
Good for you.

Hope things keep getting better for you.

Elvis_Christ
02-10-2010, 09:33 PM
Hope this gives the situation some closure! All the best for the future sounds like its looking up :)

missmacabre
02-11-2010, 06:35 AM
Having had many talks with you about these matters, it makes me really happy to see that you refuse to let anyone walk all over you. It's really nice to see that you've regained your confidence, and managed to be civil to such a jerk. You're right not to give him the time of day anymore.

crabapple
02-11-2010, 06:39 AM
Yes, I agree. Great work, Nova. Well written and well communicated.

Despare
02-11-2010, 06:54 AM
Hope this gives the situation some closure! All the best for the future sounds like its looking up :)

Couldn't have said it better. It's great that you're finally putting one great big foot down and ending all the crap. :)

novakru
02-11-2010, 07:42 AM
Couldn't have said it better. It's great that you're finally putting one great big foot down and ending all the crap. :)

It was probably very shocking for him to see me acting like I have some self-confidence.
And yes, the big foot coming down was long due...
people will treat you the way you allow them to treat you

Caenxavier
02-12-2010, 12:30 PM
Hell yeah!

Lets grab a drink!

cheebacheeba
02-14-2010, 03:45 AM
First of all - If you said that after putting some thought into it, and it's of true nature to what you're feeling and you felt as though you've lifted a weight or accomplished what you set out to, this is good.
Though I have to say I did wonder about the relevance of it being posted in here...if I am to be totally honest etc, I would say that maybe at least part of you felt a bit insecure in the things you were saying as you felt the need for outside observation and/or validation - But you probably don't need either...just indicates to me that yeah I guess you've been in a bit of a cycle and you're still a bit uncertain about where, and as who you stand at this time.
But yknow, here's to trying to move on and hopefully one day knowing fully in yourself that you've completed that journey.

roshiq
02-14-2010, 04:13 AM
What does all this have to do with me?

Nothing! May be cause of your user title but you should stop thinking all "fuck you" titled things have something to do with you. Have some self-esteem.;):D:D

novakru
02-14-2010, 11:54 AM
Validation?
Yes, definitely.

I am still not completely sure of myself, still working through certain emotions and still wonder what might be the right thing to do.

Even though the writing was very cathartic and whilst writing felt so RIGHT, I still have many moments of not knowing how I feel about this and that or how I am supposed to respond and react.
It will take time for me, I am healing but getting better everyday.