Monalisa passed away on 11/29/09

[The3rd]

Kathy known as Monalisa on this board passed away on 11/29/09.

She was a very special person that I had the privilege of knowing for more than 15 years. She always had a child like way of experiencing everything and it was one of the qualities I liked most. She was a very trusting, sensitive and caring person who loved and was loved by many. She will be missed.

If anyone wants more information please feel free to e-mail me.

[_____V_____]

Oh no...shocking news! How did it happen?!

RIP Kathy.

[Rayne]

I've always wondered how we would feel when one of our members died...I mean, it is inevitable, we will all die someday..I've thought about who would inform us, or whether anyone would inform us at all...I've thought that most likely when one of us died, we would never even know...I mean, how many of you have asked someone to contact HDC to inform us of your death?...I would imagine when I die, you guys will find out rather quickly, because so many of my family members are here, but what about the majority of you guys, how would we find out?

As it turns out, this being our very first 'death', my feelings are...skepticism...Complete and utter skepticism...Right or wrong, good or bad, that's just where my head is...Who would Kathy have asked to inform us of her death?...Would she have even considered such a thing, and if so, what would cause her to consider it?

I'm gonna need an obit from a Minnesota paper.

Perhaps I've just been on the internet for far too long.

[Ferox13]

I had a good mate who was big in the hacker/cracker scene - when he died (he always had health problems) - one of the first people I though of contacting who I knew wouldn't know were the ppl on IRC channel their group used.

It was kinda weird. I dropped in for a good while after to say hello after that.

[cheebacheeba]

I knew I hadn't seen her around for some time...damn, her and I never had anything but cool towards eachother.
One of our longest time, and IMO nicest members always someone I enjoyed speaking with.
:(

If anyone wants more information please feel free to e-mail me.
I won't press for extra information...but I wanted to say that whoever you are, it's good of you to do this - I appreciate it can't be easy.
I wish you the best in moving forward too.

- B.

[Angra]

I knew I hadn't seen her around for some time...damn, her and I never had anything but cool towards eachother.
One of our longest time, and IMO nicest members always someone I enjoyed speaking with.
:(


I won't press for extra information...but I wanted to say that whoever you are, it's good of you to do this - I appreciate it can't be easy.
I wish you the best in moving forward too.

- B.



I'm with cheeb. So sad.

Rest in peace, sweetheart. :(

[nightmare_of _death]

such sad news RIP Kathy

[illdojo]

Absolutely terrible. What a good soul she was. Mona was always playing mediator. Trying to stop members from arguing. She will be missed.

R.I.P. :(

[VampiricClown]

A sad day for HDC, indeed. :(

You will be missed.

Rest in peace.

:(

[Doc Faustus]

Kathy known as Monalisa on this board passed away on 11/29/09.

She was a very special person that I had the privilege of knowing for more than 15 years. She always had a child like way of experiencing everything and it was one of the qualities I liked most. She was a very trusting, sensitive and caring person who loved and was loved by many. She will be missed.

If anyone wants more information please feel free to e-mail me.

Thanks for letting us know, if you hadn't, I don't know when we would have found out. She was a good contributor, a decent person and will be missed. My condolences to whoever you are.

[ferretchucker]

Very, very sad news to hear. I first want to thank you for letting us know, I'm not sure who you are but thank you.

I always got along well with Mona, hence her involvement in so many of my stories, and this has taken me completely by surprise. I only hope her last moments were dignified, as I'm sure she would have liked them to be. She was an adamant horror fan as well as a good person.

[The Mothman]

This is quite shocking. I wish I had gotten to know her a little better.
RIP Kathy.

[bwind22]

Oh no, that's terrible news! Kathy's the only person from HDC that I've ever actually spoken with over the phone. (Since we're MN residents, we had planned to attend a convention once, but it never panned out.)

Very, very sad news... RIP Kathy.

If anyone knows her last name, I'm sure I can find a obit in our local paper and post it here.

[The3rd]

Kathy (Monalisa) suffered with depression. She also did not have the ability to handle the daily stress and anxiety that many of us do not even think about. Many nights she could not sleep because she could not stop thinking about all the things in her life and the lives of others. She internalized a lot of stress and would often get an upset stomach, for this she would take over the counter antacid products. She started to drink more and more around 2002/2003.

She had a hysterectomy because of other medical problems around 2004/2005 after this her depression and anxiety worsened so she drank more. She sought help with the depression and anxiety from the medical community and they tried different drugs, none seemed to help much. She was drinking more and more daily when her mother passed away around 2006. They were very close and the loss deeply affected her. By this time she was drinking about a liter a day of Blackberry Brandy. The loss of our dog BenGee deepened her depression, he was 17 years old and she loved him more than anything. Her father passed away in 2008, this worsened the depression and drinking…..

Drinking such large quantities of alcohol also causes other physical pain for this she would take over the counter pain medication, Tylenol, Aleve, Aspirin and others…She had many stomach problems because of everything and was taking Prilosec (from the doctors) and Zantac. The doctors prescribed more and different drugs, Seroquel is one I remember that was used to try and help. They also prescribed sleeping aids and they had their own problems. Ambien was one that caused many bad problems.

She keep her drinking and other problems from her doctors and almost all who knew her as I have found, she was a private person in this respect. Her brother and I tried to get her help for drinking but she would not. I had no legal means to force this as we were not married. Her drinking was a source for much stress in our relationship and because of my forceful instance that she get treatment she moved out in 2008. We talked almost daily after and tried to do things together but plans often got cancelled for one reason or another.

On 11/20/09 she called me and asked if I could take care of her dog Solo because she had to go into the hospital for a low potassium condition. When she came by to drop off Solo I noticed Kathy was yellow, puffy looking and really sick. She was admitted into the ICU cardiac part of the hospital. They were very concerned about the low potassium. She also had liver and kidney failure with a stomach infection. She seemed to improve thru the week but got worse over Thanksgiving. She passed away on 11/29/09.

Coming to this board was one of the things that I remembered that made her happy.

[newb]

Kathy (Monalisa) suffered with depression. She also did not have the ability to handle the daily stress and anxiety that many of us do not even think about. Many nights she could not sleep because she could not stop thinking about all the things in her life and the lives of others. She internalized a lot of stress and would often get an upset stomach, for this she would take over the counter antacid products. She started to drink more and more around 2002/2003.

She had a hysterectomy because of other medical problems around 2004/2005 after this her depression and anxiety worsened so she drank more. She sought help with the depression and anxiety from the medical community and they tried different drugs, none seemed to help much. She was drinking more and more daily when her mother passed away around 2006. They were very close and the loss deeply affected her. By this time she was drinking about a liter a day of Blackberry Brandy. The loss of our dog BenGee deepened her depression, he was 17 years old and she loved him more than anything. Her father passed away in 2008, this worsened the depression and drinking…..

Drinking such large quantities of alcohol also causes other physical pain for this she would take over the counter pain medication, Tylenol, Aleve, Aspirin and others…She had many stomach problems because of everything and was taking Prilosec (from the doctors) and Zantac. The doctors prescribed more and different drugs, Seroquel is one I remember that was used to try and help. They also prescribed sleeping aids and they had their own problems. Ambien was one that caused many bad problems.

She keep her drinking and other problems from her doctors and almost all who knew her as I have found, she was a private person in this respect. Her brother and I tried to get her help for drinking but she would not. I had no legal means to force this as we were not married. Her drinking was a source for much stress in our relationship and because of my forceful instance that she get treatment she moved out in 2008. We talked almost daily after and tried to do things together but plans often got cancelled for one reason or another.

On 11/20/09 she called me and asked if I could take care of her dog Solo because she had to go into the hospital for a low potassium condition. When she came by to drop off Solo I noticed Kathy was yellow, puffy looking and really sick. She was admitted into the ICU cardiac part of the hospital. They were very concerned about the low potassium. She also had liver and kidney failure with a stomach infection. She seemed to improve thru the week but got worse over Thanksgiving. She passed away on 11/29/09.

Coming to this board was one of the things that I remembered that made her happy.

damn.....sorry for your loss.

[Elvis_Christ]

Terrible news. All the best to friends and family.

[hitman3005]

I am very sorry for your loss.

[bwind22]

Thanks for the info & updates The3rd. So sorry for your loss. Do you know Kathy's last name? Or can you link us to the obit please? I'm sure there are people who would want to send cards or flowers if they knew where to send them.

[VampiricClown]

I just checked my inbox, and had a message from her that I meant to reply to...Never put off til tomorrow, what you can do today.

http://i20.photobucket.com/albums/b207/firebrand700/Flower.jpg

[fortunato]

Oh my. This is unbelievable. Shocking. Awful.

Condolences to you, her friends and family.

Rest in peace.

[Rayne]

Well, I guess that's it then...Very sad.

Thanks for the info.

[The Flayed One]

This is indeed a huge potential loss to the board.

Unfortunately, I feel it is my moderator duty to close this thread until one of the mods receives confirmation. Please bear with us all at this troublesome time and keep a watch for updates.

[Angra]

Thanks Flayed. :)

[ferretchucker]

Yep, thanks Flayed.

It's strange, I still don't think I've quite taken it in. I'm so used to seeing the avatar/sig combination around here, it's like all the rest.

I'm glad that her last post was a humorous one.

[The_Return]

Very sad news...don't even know what to say here other than Rest in Peace.

[The Flayed One]

You're all welcome.

Again, I'm here to moderate, not dictate. I made a standard call that is normal protocol on other message boards I attend. It was not accepted well here, therefore I repealed the closing of the thread. This is OUR message board, not mine. I'm here to serve the board the best I can.

[The3rd]

Mona Lisa was Kathy Sullivan her Obituary should be in the local papers here Sunday, the link to the web site is http://www.legacy.com/obituaries/twincities/

Visitation will be at the South Shore Trinity Lutheran Church 2480 South Shore Blvd, White Bear Lake, MN 55110 visitation will be at 10AM on 12/10/2009. This is where her mother (Donna) and fathers (Rolland) service was.

Sullivan, Donna M. - Sullivan, Donna M. Age 76 Of White Bear Lake Preceded in death by parents, George and Bessie Sutter; and son-in-law. Survived by husband of ...
Published in the Pioneer Press from 11/30/2005 - 12/1/2005

Sullivan, Rolland - Sullivan, Rolland Beloved Father, Grandfather, Brother Age 82 Of White Bear Lake. Preceded in death by wife, Donna; parents, Joseph and Anna; sister, Margaret Iverson; brother-in-law, ...
Published in the Pioneer Press on 10/8/2008

Kathy’s passing caught all who knew her off guard as I have found. She kept her depression/drinking and medical condition that resulted from all her friends I have talked with in recent days. She became distant from some friends and often did not follow thru with plans to do things with one reason or another. I could not talk with her about this after she moved out as she would become angry, hang up and not talk to me for a while. She led her brother and I to believe that she was cutting back and doing fine. In hind sight I should have let her friends know more about this and tried to get them involved but being selfish I was afraid she would cut me from her life entirely. It is a fine line knowing vary personal things like this about a person you love, should you share it with her friends to try and help her or should you keep them to yourself? I have only now let her friends know what was going on in the hope that it will help another.

Kathy would want us all to reach out to the people in our lives we love give them a hug and let them know they an important part of our lives.

Her closest friend Solo will stay with me the rest of his days. I will post a little more about her life as I can.

[ferretchucker]

Her closest friend Solo will stay with me the rest of his days. I will post a little more about her life as I can.

Is that her new dog?

Once again, thank you very much for letting us know. All too often members disappear without a word and I sometimes wonder if something may have happened. I know we all appreciate you telling us the news, even if it is sad news.

[bwind22]

RIP Kathy. Very sad indeed.

[crabapple]

I'm very sorry to hear this.

[GorePhobia]

This is some of the worst news I have heard in a really long time. I talked to Kathy a handful of times over the phone and she always seemed happy. This is so shocking and my condolences go out to all of her loved ones. I am really at a loss for words.

Rest in Peace, Kathy. You will truly be missed.

[The3rd]

While I knew Kathy enjoyed coming here I did not know she had so many good friends here. I had not come here before her death as I respected her personal privacy and only share her life because of the respect you all have shown for her in your posts.

Kathy’s life that I knew and like to remember ….

Kathy worked and was a trusted employee at Fair Isaac for more than 10 years. She had nothing to do with credit reports but worked at the internal help desk and later in the UNIX environment with data transfers and other behind the scenes things that keep a company running, she was often on call before being laid off. She had many good friends from work that loved and respected her.

Kathy loved to cook for herself and others, she had a gigantic collection of cook books that she used for reference in making food from scratch. A friend of hers gave her an eastern spice collection that that she enjoyed with many different recipes. She wore out a food processor often making Pesto from Basil we grew under florescent lights. Once a batch of beef jerky she came up with tasted odd and burnt to us, a friend came over and loved it so much he ate the whole batch and often asked about more. Her yearly favorite was pumpkin seeds she would make fresh with different spices while she carved the pumpkins faces. Kathy enjoyed decorating for the holidays.

Kathy was a music and film buff with a wide range of tastes. She loved horror films and Winnie the Pooh, the later because he was always cheerful and loveable. Her most watched horror movie was The Devil’s Rejects, it’ main actor Bill Moseley in long hair was her favorite. One of her happiest moments in the past few years was meeting Bill Moseley in person and spending time talking with him, she was as shy and giddy as a school girl on a first date with her crush. Before I got to know Kathy well she traveled to many Grateful Dead concerts with friends to watch the band perform. Kathy had taken up playing a hammer dulcimer during the past year, something she always wanted to do.

Kathy was pro 2nd amendment and loved to target shoot, she was familiar with many exotic types of guns. She was a very good shot and found it extremely relaxing. A good friend of hers once handed her a Desert Eagle magnum at the range to try, she fired one shot and to his surprise asked if she could fire the rest. She kept a Glock 9mm at it’s ready in her home for whatever may come along. She believed people should have the right to do as they pleased as long as it did not harm others or infringe on their rights. She did not like government or others intrusions into people’s private lives.

Kathy and I traveled to island of Saint John several times where we have many colorful friends. One of them known to locals as Mean Jean became her good friend and they talked or e-mail many times over the years. She loved the fresh sea food, swimming in the ocean and relaxing with our island friends. She often day dreamed about leaving everything behind and moving there to work as a bartender or chef.

Kathy loved her family members and talked often with many on the phone, from Hawaii to the submarine cowboy out west she loved to hear from them. She always shared her mothers and fathers yearly news letter with me looking forward to spending thanksgiving and Christmas at her brother home with her mother, father, sister in law, their two kids and me. She derived great pleasure Christmas shopping for them and others, spending her time to find the perfect gift. Kathy had an older sister whom she loved and talked with but did not share much with me. The only time I met Kathy’s sister and her close friend was on the drive to and from Elysian Minnesota for her mother’s burial.

Kathy loved and had large and small animals of all types during her life. She found joy in caring for them and seeing to their unique needs. I never knew a Chinchilla needed a bath in volcanic ash as part of its care before I met her. Cleo was a dog from her younger years that she often brought up with much fondness in conversions. Another dog before my time that I believe was named Gypsy was buried in a pet cemetery and Kathy would visit her grave and light a candle each year. Solo is Kathy’s dog, he is a 3 year old Bichon Frise. They are an extremely smart, merry and cheerful dog. She left him with me when she entered the hospital, he is loved and will be cared for as she would have wished.

[ferretchucker]

Sounds like she was a great person, which makes this all the more hard for us to take in. This is what I found from the Obituary

"
Kathleen A. Sullivan

Beloved Sister And Aunt Age 47 Preceded in death by Parents, Donna and Rolland. Survived by Brother David (Karol), Sister Barbara (Ron), Nephew Justin and Niece Kelsey. Special Friend Riley. Memorial Service Thursday December 10, 2009 11:00 AM SOUTH SHORE TRINITY LUTHERAN CHURCH 2480 South Shore Blvd. White Bear Lake. Visitation 1 hour before Service at Church. 651-429-6172"

[bwind22]

The obit was in today's St. Paul paper.



http://www.legacy.com/obituaries/twincities/obituary.aspx?n=kathleen-a-sullivan&pid=136939741


Thanks The3rd for sharing info and details. RIP Kathy. Far too young to go.

[Angra]

While I knew Kathy enjoyed coming here I did not know she had so many good friends here. I had not come here before her death as I respected her personal privacy and only share her life because of the respect you all have shown for her in your posts.

Kathy’s life that I knew and like to remember ….

Kathy worked and was a trusted employee at Fair Isaac for more than 10 years. She had nothing to do with credit reports but worked at the internal help desk and later in the UNIX environment with data transfers and other behind the scenes things that keep a company running, she was often on call before being laid off. She had many good friends from work that loved and respected her.

Kathy loved to cook for herself and others, she had a gigantic collection of cook books that she used for reference in making food from scratch. A friend of hers gave her an eastern spice collection that that she enjoyed with many different recipes. She wore out a food processor often making Pesto from Basil we grew under florescent lights. Once a batch of beef jerky she came up with tasted odd and burnt to us, a friend came over and loved it so much he ate the whole batch and often asked about more. Her yearly favorite was pumpkin seeds she would make fresh with different spices while she carved the pumpkins faces. Kathy enjoyed decorating for the holidays.

Kathy was a music and film buff with a wide range of tastes. She loved horror films and Winnie the Pooh, the later because he was always cheerful and loveable. Her most watched horror movie was The Devil’s Rejects, it’ main actor Bill Moseley in long hair was her favorite. One of her happiest moments in the past few years was meeting Bill Moseley in person and spending time talking with him, she was as shy and giddy as a school girl on a first date with her crush. Before I got to know Kathy well she traveled to many Grateful Dead concerts with friends to watch the band perform. Kathy had taken up playing a hammer dulcimer during the past year, something she always wanted to do.

Kathy was pro 2nd amendment and loved to target shoot, she was familiar with many exotic types of guns. She was a very good shot and found it extremely relaxing. A good friend of hers once handed her a Desert Eagle magnum at the range to try, she fired one shot and to his surprise asked if she could fire the rest. She kept a Glock 9mm at it’s ready in her home for whatever may come along. She believed people should have the right to do as they pleased as long as it did not harm others or infringe on their rights. She did not like government or others intrusions into people’s private lives.

Kathy and I traveled to island of Saint John several times where we have many colorful friends. One of them known to locals as Mean Jean became her good friend and they talked or e-mail many times over the years. She loved the fresh sea food, swimming in the ocean and relaxing with our island friends. She often day dreamed about leaving everything behind and moving there to work as a bartender or chef.

Kathy loved her family members and talked often with many on the phone, from Hawaii to the submarine cowboy out west she loved to hear from them. She always shared her mothers and fathers yearly news letter with me looking forward to spending thanksgiving and Christmas at her brother home with her mother, father, sister in law, their two kids and me. She derived great pleasure Christmas shopping for them and others, spending her time to find the perfect gift. Kathy had an older sister whom she loved and talked with but did not share much with me. The only time I met Kathy’s sister and her close friend was on the drive to and from Elysian Minnesota for her mother’s burial.

Kathy loved and had large and small animals of all types during her life. She found joy in caring for them and seeing to their unique needs. I never knew a Chinchilla needed a bath in volcanic ash as part of its care before I met her. Cleo was a dog from her younger years that she often brought up with much fondness in conversions. Another dog before my time that I believe was named Gypsy was buried in a pet cemetery and Kathy would visit her grave and light a candle each year. Solo is Kathy’s dog, he is a 3 year old Bichon Frise. They are an extremely smart, merry and cheerful dog. She left him with me when she entered the hospital, he is loved and will be cared for as she would have wished.

Thanks man. Thank you for the enlightenment.

I'm very sorry for your loss.

[Zero]

Deeply saddened by this news. Rest in Peace dear Mona Lisa

[newb]

Thanks for sharing, Riley.

and take care of Solo.

[DraculaInDallas]

This is terrible news....I really need to pop in here more often. Monalisa/Kathy was a great gal, truly caring....she sent me a PM months ago when she noticed my signature changed to "Finally found my Ingrid Pitt look alike".
She wanted to know all of the details and when I told her that I had gotten married she was truly happy and excited for me. She and newb were the only two who knew about it. She always had a kind word in her PM's........

I will miss her :(

@ Riley, thanks for the info....you take damn good care of Solo!!! :)

[Posher778]

RIP Kathy, it was always fun talking about Zelda on MSN with you, and other cheesy things.

[Disease]

Sorry to hear this news, twhile I was great buds with monalisa she was a good contributor to the forum and it is a sad loss for H.D.C.

[Clean, Shaven]

I didn't know her. I'm mostly a lurker. I feel like I've missed out.

[ferretchucker]

You did miss out on knowing her. She was unhappy at times, but for the most part she was a very friendly person with few bad words to say about anybody.

[cheebacheeba]

I was looking through my thread subs etc, and this came up.
Geez...as an oldskooler, it really takes you back and hits with how tightly knit we all were back then...and so many names here talking about this "family" tragedy...it was so long ago now, and some, most, have moved on.
This place is largely had a whole new membership come in since, those that stay kinda become the parents, or like, weird uncles at least...and things are good now too. Still do kind of very fondly think back to these times, and even when something like this smashed the place, we came together.
Just, yeah...I don't know. Don't know why I'm even posting this.
Don't know who will ever read what, but I hope each and every old name I see here is doing well, wherever they are.
Gah. This was so long ago.

[hammerfan]

I was looking through my thread subs etc, and this came up.
Geez...as an oldskooler, it really takes you back and hits with how tightly knit we all were back then...and so many names here talking about this "family" tragedy...it was so long ago now, and some, most, have moved on.
This place is largely had a whole new membership come in since, those that stay kinda become the parents, or like, weird uncles at least...and things are good now too. Still do kind of very fondly think back to these times, and even when something like this smashed the place, we came together.
Just, yeah...I don't know. Don't know why I'm even posting this.
Don't know who will ever read what, but I hope each and every old name I see here is doing well, wherever they are.
Gah. This was so long ago.

I know exactly how you feel.

[Despare]

I was looking through my thread subs etc, and this came up.
Geez...as an oldskooler, it really takes you back and hits with how tightly knit we all were back then...and so many names here talking about this "family" tragedy...it was so long ago now, and some, most, have moved on.
This place is largely had a whole new membership come in since, those that stay kinda become the parents, or like, weird uncles at least...and things are good now too. Still do kind of very fondly think back to these times, and even when something like this smashed the place, we came together.
Just, yeah...I don't know. Don't know why I'm even posting this.
Don't know who will ever read what, but I hope each and every old name I see here is doing well, wherever they are.
Gah. This was so long ago.

You're not kidding....