Controversy Discussion: An Issue About Roommates

[alkytrio666]

Hey all.
As I was reading the paper this morning I stumbled across a heated debate in the advice columns about an issue I've been hearing more and more about in the last few years. A mother had written in and was concerned about her son; he was going to college, living in the dorms and had gotten assigned a gay roommate. The mother was upset because she felt this was equivilent to a boy and a girl rooming together, but the advice column journalist had strongly disagreed, feeling the mother's worry was nothing but prejudice, similar to feeling discomfort about a kid rooming with a person of a different race.

In this case, the son asked for and was assigned a new roommate.

I thought it was an interesting topic and was curious to see where you guys stood.

[bwind22]

I had a gay roommate for a while but she was a girl, not a guy and we were sharing a house, not a room.

[Posher778]

Errrm. That's just silly. Even if it 'was' like a boy and a girl rooming together, is his mother naive enough to think her son wouldn't be bringing home girls every night in a drnken stupor?

[alkytrio666]

Errrm. That's just silly. Even if it 'was' like a boy and a girl rooming together, is his mother naive enough to think her son wouldn't be bringing home girls every night in a drnken stupor?
Yes but, to play the devil's advocate, isn't there a colossal difference between taking someone home whom you've met and established a mutual sexual attraction with and living with a complete stranger who is attracted to your sex? There are no unisex dormitories in the United States.

[Kleptron]

This reminds me of the urban legend about the college kid who went to the doctor because his ass was sore. His dorm roommate had been chloraphorming(sp?) him and giving him butt sex.

[novakru]

Unless the momma had that "feeling" about her son's sexual preference ...I say it is akin to prejudice.
We live in a society of many versions, get the fuck over it unless you're perfect...and I don't mean THINK you're perfect.

[Elvis_Christ]

This is a load of shit fueled by homophobia. That woman is a bigot plain and simple.

It is quite possible to live with someone and not try shit on to get into their pants. She's making out like all homosexual people are sex crazed rapists.

...and as far as the unisex dorm thing goes its not a issue of that. Just because he's gay it doesn't make him a woman does it?

[alkytrio666]

This is a load of shit fueled by homophobia. That woman is a bigot plain and simple.

It is quite possible to live with someone and not try shit on to get into their pants. She's making out like all homosexual people are sex crazed rapists.

...and as far as the unisex dorm thing goes its not a issue of that. Just because he's gay it doesn't make him a woman does it?
No, not at all, but then another question poses itself- why aren't boys allowed to room with girls? Does it have anything to do with gender organization or are they avoiding grouping possible sexual distractions/problems/etc? If it's the latter, how is this different?

(Again, purely devil's advocate)

[novakru]

No, not at all, but then another question poses itself- why aren't boys allowed to room with girls?

because boys have a hard on every 4 minutes

[zwoti]

because boys have a hard on every 4 minutes


you say that as if it's a bad thing http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v292/zwoti/5.gif

[cheebacheeba]

Well at least he wasn't shacked up with one o' those n!g93rs
hahaha
I don't agree with the statement, just wanted to say it...and in my head so that you know, I was sayin' it in JK Simmons voice.

From the perspective of myself, if I were the straight guy parent that I'll most likely stay, I'd personally wanna talk to the "son" first, ask if he'd shared my observation about the person in question, ask is he's cool with that.
If he wasn't, even for the reason "I don't feel comfortable around gay guys" I'd then be cool with a room change - fact is, it's not just the occasional walk-by or hang-out, it's living together, huge difference.

Hell, I'm not ashamed to admit, while I'm pretty much neutral about gay guys, (though I may not understand why a man OR woman finds males attractive) I don't feel entirely 100% comfortable around 'em; no negativity there, just generally speaking that's how it turns out, I've known gay guys, but have never really gone past general acquaintance. Gay chicks, well the ones that don't outrightly hate males I usually get on pretty well with, see their attraction I can share and understand (bulldykes aside), that and they tend to be a bit more towards guys to talk to.

If he was cool with it, I'd talk to the gay dude with him...ask if he was cool with it also, and if so, whatever the fuck - I imagine respect based ground rules on the basis of each respective flatmates sexual encounters/"me" time, would be established early, and if it doesn't work out for one reason or another, I'd encourage both/either of 'em to go ahead and do what they're right with.
If it's a college/uni, neither would need any extra pressure that would come from being around someone they're not comfortable around.

But yeah, on the parental side - not really the parents choice.
But for me, a parental responsibility will be to ensure my child is able to live within their comfort zone, and that they make the decision where/what that is - I will act accordingly.

[novakru]

you say that as if it's a bad thing http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v292/zwoti/5.gif

no I'm not;)

[Ferox13]

No, not at all, but then another question poses itself- why aren't boys allowed to room with girls? Does it have anything to do with gender organization or are they avoiding grouping possible sexual distractions/problems/etc? If it's the latter, how is this different?

(Again, purely devil's advocate)

I agree with this in that if they do it to avoid grouping possible sexual distractions (be that right or wrong) then it is similar to having a boy/girl share a room. Whos is to say the so is straight (or more likely up for a bit of collage days experimentation :-)

[hacelikewhoa]

Plain old ignorance. Mommy's afraid of her son turning.

[zwoti]

no I'm not;)

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v292/zwoti/_ninjafap__by_unt.gif