Bullies

[Leprucky Cougar]

With the thread that bloody_ribcut made on Fights and some of the responses on there, it has me thinking about bullies. Were any of you ever bullied? Do you know why you were picked on so much? Or were any of you ever bullies to someone else? If so, for what reason? For those who were bullied--did you ever overcome your fear and stand up against your bully, or did they continue to pick on you? For those who bullied, did you ever stop, or did it take a few years of maturity to sink in that what you did to others was wrong?

Now let the discussion begin. :)

[urgeok2]

i wasnt bullied - and i wasnt a bully.

well, i guess my parents were bullies - i dealt with it by leaving when i was 17.

[Leprucky Cougar]

well, i guess my parents were bullies - i dealt with it by leaving when i was 17.

Hahaha, sounds like the plan for many adolescents these days...

[roseyred]

I wasnt bullied in highschool or gradeschool. I was the popular girl who stuck up for the bullied really. Now though im bullied constantly for getting knocked up by a loser whos in prison now. Im also teased for not being able to drink anymore im called the boring bitch really thats what they call me lol. Real classy huh?. I dont care though because i just block that kind of stuff out of my life and pretty soon im going to have a baby to take care of and love so it doesnt matter anymore to me.

[Freak]

I got bullied alot in school.Mainly casue I was fat and I didn't wear all the name brand clothes like the popular kids.

I'm actually glad I dropped out when I did cause I was about a insult away from making another school shooting.

[roseyred]

I got bullied alot in school.Mainly casue I was fat and I didn't wear all the name brand clothes like the popular kids.

I'm actually glad I dropped out when I did cause I was about a insult away from making another school shooting.

thats pisses me off more than anything. someone getting picked on for being fat. its pathetic im sorry you went through that. i use to see fat girls make fun of other fat girls. the world is cruel and pathetic.

[hacelikewhoa]

I got made fun of a lot in junior high. I was friends with a clan of bitches from my grade school until I realized that they were all bad people and I wanted no part of them. After that they found anything and everything to make fun of me for. They always threatened to fight me but never did anything. If they would've came at me I'd have been ready and willing. I was just a good kid for a while I guess. I was a 'prude' and I always got straight A's. I was quiet and always unsure of myself so I could never be part of that popular crowd. I liked to keep around 4 friends tops. 8th grade I guess I started to lash out a bit. My social studies teacher picked on me all the time for being quiet and not participating...And not haha funny picking on students, he was an ASSHOLE. He made all the dorky kids cry all the time. Well he just started to really piss me off after a while. A friend and I wrote an email out that said something like he deserves to die and a list of other mean evil things.. and it got back to the school and we got in a lot of trouble. Had to sign all these police reports and stuff. I got my way out of it though because technically my friend typed it, I just forwarded it. She got suspended for 10 days and I only had inschool suspension. He really did make me want to shoot up the school though. Why a grown man feels the need to insult others to please the 'in crowd', I'll never know. Nobody messed with me in highschool. I stood up for myself. I didn't fight with any girls, just a lot of guys. Jocks mostly picking on my gay friend Josh. I made a lot of threats and a lot of them shut up. Jealous guys would call me a whore or whatever and I'd just go up to them and tell them off. Nowadays if someone were to 'bully' me I think I would have to kick some ass and go to jail.

[roseyred]

I got made fun of a lot in junior high. I was friends with a clan of bitches from my grade school until I realized that they were all bad people and I wanted no part of them. After that they found anything and everything to make fun of me for. They always threatened to fight me but never did anything. If they would've came at me I'd have been ready and willing. I was just a good kid for a while I guess. I was a 'prude' and I always got straight A's. I was quiet and always unsure of myself so I could never be part of that popular crowd. I liked to keep around 4 friends tops. 8th grade I guess I started to lash out a bit. My social studies teacher picked on me all the time for being quiet and not participating...And not haha funny picking on students, he was an ASSHOLE. He made all the dorky kids cry all the time. Well he just started to really piss me off after a while. A friend and I wrote an email out that said something like he deserves to die and a list of other mean evil things.. and it got back to the school and we got in a lot of trouble. Had to sign all these police reports and stuff. I got my way out of it though because technically my friend typed it, I just forwarded it. She got suspended for 10 days and I only had inschool suspension. He really did make me want to shoot up the school though. Why a grown man feels the need to insult others to please the 'in crowd', I'll never know. Nobody messed with me in highschool. I stood up for myself. I didn't fight with any girls, just a lot of guys. Jocks mostly picking on my gay friend Josh. I made a lot of threats and a lot of them shut up. Jealous guys would call me a whore or whatever and I'd just go up to them and tell them off. Nowadays if someone were to 'bully' me I think I would have to kick some ass and go to jail.

wow about the teacher guy thats bullshit that man should of been fired. We had alot of them at my school i had a gym teacher smack my ass once. a friend and i decided to go tell someone in the office and even tho there were 50 plus witnesses they said no one saw it happen but me n her. Its pathetic what some teachers can get away with.

[hacelikewhoa]

I know it's ridiculous. He would make fun of chubby kids and kids that had torn up clothes and stuff. It really got to me, but I guess no one really ever believes kids. My school district had a lot of bad teachers..In high school there were two teachers that slept with students...One got caught, the lady special Ed teacher, and went to jail. The other one was my World studies teacher but he never got caught and no one really had any proof. The Special Ed teacher was actually caught in the act by the student's girlfriend.

EDIT: I left that school district in 10th grade and went to a career center for my last two years of high school and it was WAY better there.

[cheebacheeba]

I was bullied at times in primary/grade school, and a fair bit of the first two years of high school...a little less in my third as I had a growth spurt but there was always those few that were bigger, older than me.
I dealt with it by actually saying to myself I want to be able to hurt these people - not usually my style but I guess I'd put up with it for a while and it effected me. I took up some muay thai boxing classes and they put me through the paces...they were pretty rough, made me essentially change my body, learn to deal with pain, exhausted me, but after a few months I became stronger...so in conjunction with my growth spurt, I had this going and less people were presenting themselves as a problem to me.
I never used it, I try not to be agressive...until some one of these people at school that were still at it pushed me a few times when I was lining up for my lunch, same old name calling shit going on while his friends laughed, he was either one or two years above me, what you might call a "jock". Anyways, I put up with it for a bit as it didn't seem serious, although this guy had hit me in the past I had learned a few things since then, one of them being to make SURE you have a reason. My head got pushed from behind really hard, maybe punched, I don't know, but my head smashed into the corner of the counter in front of me, and started free bleeding almost immediately. The front of my forehead had a fairly large strip of skin taken off, even he looked a bit shocked at what happened, then he started laughing, him and his friends...I can't even really remember how it went down, but I just went at the guy and kept at him while he was on the floor...his friends left as there was a teacher approaching, I ended up pushing them down too. Either way, long story short I just went on almost auto pilot and the guy ended up with a fair bit of damage. He must've hit me a few times too as I was bleeding and bruised so yeah, this is one time when anger just took me over and I've tried to never let it happen again, because as good as it felt, it fucked up my schooling for half a year, and I actually felt sorry for the asshole, believe it or not.
I haven't had anything but the occasional drunk think about having a go at me since...that hasn't eventuated in quite some time though...never really does.

[roseyred]

I know it's ridiculous. He would make fun of chubby kids and kids that had torn up clothes and stuff. It really got to me, but I guess no one really ever believes kids. My school district had a lot of bad teachers..In high school there were two teachers that slept with students...One got caught, the lady special Ed teacher, and went to jail. The other one was my World studies teacher but he never got caught and no one really had any proof. The Special Ed teacher was actually caught in the act by the student's girlfriend.

Thats sick! Its amazing how many teachers get away with stuff. Thats why my daughter or son will not be going to school. Im homeschooling.

[Leprucky Cougar]

thats pisses me off more than anything. someone getting picked on for being fat. its pathetic im sorry you went through that. i use to see fat girls make fun of other fat girls. the world is cruel and pathetic.

Agreed.

Some years in elem and my first year in middle school I was picked on mainly for the stereotypical "goody-goody two shoes" image. I always wore the school uniform--even when it was no longer explicitly mandatory, had my hair in pigtails, always reached out to befriend everyone, and being an academic and extra-curricular over-achiever. I suppose the overlining reason was jealousy or popularity(you know how some bullies become bullies to become popular amongst the "cool guys" or if there's nothing people can be admirable about them, they instill a reaction in you: fear)

It stopped 7th & 8th grade and by highschool went to just common name-teasing (but amongst peers I was cool with--not neccessarily bffs with but asssociates) I was called things like "walking-dictionary" and "anna" (for over-analyzing)

But overall though it can be difficult, I've found that ignoring the bullies is key--when no one's showing them any attention, they lose interest in the picking-on-you game. Yes, yes, there are some stages when people who are in school and not necessarily mentally or socially stable who continue despite this but generally I think attentiveness plays a big part. Because they can fuck with you as long as they want, but when you make something of yourself or relatively satisfied with life, and they look like an ass--It's you that will have the last laugh. Fight back with kindness. :)

[Leprucky Cougar]

Thats sick! Its amazing how many teachers get away with stuff. Thats why my daughter or son will not be going to school. Im homeschooling.

I haven't experienced anything like that. The onlly thing close to that I know off are some teachers of mine offly close--that many of the students suspected the were dating. There's one particular teacher (Ms. Taylor) who always seemed to have a reason to interrupt my IB English class junior year and bother the teacher for some reason. One day he gave us an assignment said he'd be right back, but didn't return til the ringing of the class bell. We think he went to Taylor's room, but you guys guess is as good as mine.

[Angelakillsluts]

High school wasn't my most favorite of experiences, we can just leave it at that.

[Freak]

Through my time in high school I've became a very hate filled person who doesn't trust anybody.I don't even have freinds outside of work or the net because of my anti trust issues.

[Leprucky Cougar]

Through my time in high school I've became a very hate filled person who doesn't trust anybody.I don't even have freinds outside of work or the net because of my anti trust issues.

You're alone on this one. Typically people have bad experiences either with how someone treated them directly, or a situation they know someone experienced that ended on a bad note which makes them have difficulty trusting people. I suppose the same can be for the reverse--I've noticed that at times I trust too easily which can have the same negative feeling you have against trusting. Perhaps that is a weakness of mine.

[Papillon Noir]

You're alone on this one. Typically people have bad experiences either with how someone treated them directly, or a situation they know someone experienced that ended on a bad note which makes them have difficulty trusting people. I suppose the same can be for the reverse--I've noticed that at times I trust too easily which can have the same negative feeling you have against trusting. Perhaps that is a weakness of mine.

Freak's not alone. I've been screwed over by people so many times that I am very hard to trust too. I have very few friends, and I'm not even very close to them.

[urgeok2]

i have no trust issues .. except with commisioned sales people who i think are all crooks by nature.

i dont know if i've been 'screwed over' if i have i've forgotten - not something i dwelled upon.

I trust most people i meet - treat everyone at face value - until they do something that proves they arent trustworthy. at THAT point i'll never trust them again but i dont go through life assuming everyone is like that.

[Leprucky Cougar]

Freak's not alone. I've been screwed over by people so many times that I am very hard to trust too. I have very few friends, and I'm not even very close to them.

Yes, I agree with you too. I re-read the post and realized I had a typo. I meant to write "you're not alone on this one." I forgot the "not" Sorry to anyone who posted afterwards. That wasn't what I meant.

[hacelikewhoa]

Freak's not alone. I've been screwed over by people so many times that I am very hard to trust too. I have very few friends, and I'm not even very close to them.


I'm the same way. I have like many 3 people besides my boyfriend that I consider real friends. And out of those people there's probably only one of them that I can confide in.

[cheebacheeba]

Keep smilin' keep shinin' knowing you can always count on me, fo sho...
:D

I hate people some times.

[roseyred]

All my friends left me because they dont like the way my life went down. I ran into my best friend the other day and she called me a dirty slut so yea i really dont confide or count on anyone but my mama and maybe 2 other people.

[missmacabre]

Wow, I trust everyone with everything. I couldn't imagine not being able to open up to everyone I know, and listen in return.

[Ferox13]

I ran into my best friend the other day and she called me a dirty slut

WTF and they're a friend :(

[roseyred]

Thats how people around here are. I had a huge group of friends before i got knocked up. Now they act like im a disease. its really just pathetic.

[ferretchucker]

I've never been outright bullied. I'm often the butt of jokes though. I'm one of the shortest kids my age I know, my name is Gabriel, although people only seem to take note of the first syllable and of course, I've yet to have a girlfriend.

[Papillon Noir]

Thats how people around here are. I had a huge group of friends before i got knocked up. Now they act like im a disease. its really just pathetic.

That sucks. :( But honestly, if your friends are going to turn their backs on you when you need them the most, they were never really your friends to begin with. Now you can make new friends and you don't have to hang out with those losers. :p

[urgeok2]

Thats how people around here are. I had a huge group of friends before i got knocked up. Now they act like im a disease. its really just pathetic.


do you think it has to do with your getting pregnant - or your being with a guy who went to prison for being a criminal ?


if my best friend started hanging around - let alone sleeping with - criminals ....i'd cut them loose.

i would assume i didnt actually know them if they were capable of that decision, i wouldnt trust their judgement, and i wouldnt want to be exposed to the 'loser' myself.


i dont like being around criminal social fuck-ups.

[Papillon Noir]

do you think it has to do with your getting pregnant - or your being with a guy who went to prison for being a criminal ?


if my best friend started hanging around - let alone sleeping with - criminals ....i'd cut them loose.

i would assume i didnt actually know them if they were capable of that decision, i wouldnt trust their judgement, and i wouldnt want to be exposed to the 'loser' myself.


i dont like being around criminal social fuck-ups.

Just because the guy is in jail now, doesn't mean that he was a criminal when they were dating.

[urgeok2]

Just because the guy is in jail now, doesn't mean that he was a criminal when they were dating.


very true .. but it was a question .. not a statement ..


leaves room for that posibility

things are never as simple as described here

[roseyred]

do you think it has to do with your getting pregnant - or your being with a guy who went to prison for being a criminal ?


if my best friend started hanging around - let alone sleeping with - criminals ....i'd cut them loose.

i would assume i didnt actually know them if they were capable of that decision, i wouldnt trust their judgement, and i wouldnt want to be exposed to the 'loser' myself.


i dont like being around criminal social fuck-ups.

Actually urgeok my friends liked my boyfriend at the time until he started acting like a moron. My exbest friend actually hooked me up with him. They are just dickheads who like Papillon said werent ever really my friends to begin with. In highschool i was extremely popular sometimes people just want to be your friend b.c it gives them the feeling of being wanted by a high soical class. H.s sucks you'll do anything to survive im sure 90% of the people i hung out with hated me.

Papillon thank you :)

Ferret: Your very cute the older you get the cuter you'll get you see so in time youll have a girlfriend and all that stuff. My cousin was 5'1 until she got into highschool then she sprung up to 5'5 i have no idea how but it happens.

[ferretchucker]

Thanks Rosey! Here's hoping! :o

[roseyred]

You know though shorts cute. Im 5'3..5'4 on a good day lol.

[Leprucky Cougar]

Thats how people around here are. I had a huge group of friends before i got knocked up. Now they act like im a disease. its really just pathetic.

I agree with Papillon Noir. That's messed up that they stop being cool with you as soon as you became pregnant...but like Urge, I'm curious to know whether that was the sole reason they stop communicating with you or if it was a bigger issue and they just used that as an underlining excuse to stop hanging around you.

[Leprucky Cougar]

You know though shorts cute. Im 5'3..5'4 on a good day lol.

Same here. I', 5'1 and a quarter. All hail the height-challenged folks! Hip-Hip Hooray! Hip-Hip Hooray! Hip-Hip Hooray!

[Elvis_Christ]

High school wasn't my most favorite of experiences, we can just leave it at that.

^^ This. .......

[Leprucky Cougar]

^^ This. .......

Okay. What about Elementary? Middle?

[Elvis_Christ]

Okay. What about Elementary? Middle?

Primary school (Elementary - for you guys) was fun. Downhill after that...

[Doc Faustus]

I had a terrible time in elementary school. Lots of taunting, occasional fights. Middle school things got a bit better. Eventually got elected class president. Then I had to start over in high school just as my bipolar was setting in and lost all my friends and the ability to trust more or less anyone. Started trusting people again in college. Turned about to me a mistake. Started again recently. Probably a mistake.

[urgeok2]

i had such a shitty home life that school was more of a refuge for me.
it wasnt always pleasant or anything - but thats where my friends were.

also - i was 6'2" since being 13 years of age ..and i was starting to fill in. plus i didnt start shit with anyone.

all in all - i cant say school was that bad an experience for me - i made the best of it.

[milktoaste]

I used to be super afraid of getting in a fight during grade school. I was so sure my nose would get broke or any number of bad things would happen and I'd come out looking stupid somehow. Hey, looking cool used to be important to me.
So in the 5th grade 3 different bullies started a fight with me at different times of the year. Each time I was able to put my fear to good use by simply going ape shit and attacking my attacker. I rubbed one kids face in gravel till he quit, another kid got his head banged off a brick wall till he had enough. The last one came at me in class and tried to pull my shirt over my face like a hockey fight or something, I was a tubby kid and self conscience about it so I went doubley Ape Shit on the guy. I dragged him through the class by his head banging it off everything I could along the way. All 3 were part of a particular gang-no other gang members screwed with me for the next couple years:cool:
Bullies aren't so bad, you just have to know how to handle them. Fear isn't so bad either, it really will make your hands move faster.