got in a lil trouble

[pinkfloyd45769]

I have been talking to my ex,he was filling my head full of shit.Telling me he loved me and that everything was going to be ok again.I started to believe i i really di.I went over to house on Saturday morning to surprise him...it was me who got it.I found him in bed with his girlfriend!I first started on him,hitting,screaming..just going straight the fuck off.I then went off on her!I started beating her so bad that there was blood everywhere and i honestly didn't know hat i was doin.In the end the police came and i have charges against me as well a restraining orders.I fucked up,thats all i can say now.I feel a little better i won't lie.It sure as hell can't get any worse.I just thought i'd fill you guys in!:)

[Despare]

Sorry to hear that but please be careful, you can make yourself look bad to the court system and end up losing a lot because you let your emotions get the best of you.

[Angra]

I hate your boyfriend.

He makes us MEN look like dick-thinking jackasses. :mad:

[pinkfloyd45769]

I know,thats why i said i fucked up.Its hard sometimes to be the responsible one.The sad thing is my kids were there,they didnt see the fights.I know it was wrong.

[pinkfloyd45769]

I'm trying not to hate all men:)

[Despare]

I know,thats why i said i fucked up.Its hard sometimes to be the responsible one.The sad thing is my kids were there,they didnt see the fights.I know it was wrong.

Yeah, make sure you keep yourself in check. It's hard but really he could use that as ammo if he wanted to try and take your kids right? My dad was an ass when I was younger so I know about all the stunts they try and pull...

[urgeok2]

http://i153.photobucket.com/albums/s228/girlfitewizard2/f66e0760e428c0ffaef7bb9c0215d289117.jpg

[Roderick Usher]

You have to be more careful. I cannot stress this enough. Behavior like that can get your children taken away from you. We live in a fucked up world where a good parent making a bad decision can result in ridiculously harsh punishment.

I know you've had a very hard road and my heart goes out to you, but you must not do anything that will result in your children suffering. You must never allow your temper to take over like this again.

Yes he's an ass, yes he may have it coming. The girl could be entirely innocent (I don't know the story) but neither of them are worth you getting in more trouble.

I sincerely hope everything works out for you.

[Freak]

I know what it's like to lose you head in the heat of the moment.I'm going to therapy to control my rage.The fact that I'm bi-polar doesn't help.One thing that always help me is music.

You need to find your calmly item.The one thing that helps you to calm down.I've lost alot of things in my life becasue of my rage issues and I regret all of it.

[novakru]

Can't say I would do any different, although I think I would have been charged with attempted murder or straight up murder.

Next time, count to ten, breathe and walk away.
Then you will have plenty of time to think of some really good ideas of torture and getting away with it.

Oh wait, I'm not suppose to say shit like that....

Just take it one moment at a time, you will make it through this...and get a serious bitch of a lawyer (I'm not kidding)


Email me if you need me.

[ManchestrMorgue]

Oh I hope things work out for you.

Obviously I can't pretend to know much about the situation (only a few posts on a forum) but one thing seems obvious.

You need to get away from this guy for good. Don't be tempted to go back. From previous posts all it has caused you is heartache and distress. Your life won't get any better if you keep this up.

I only bothered posting because you seem like a nice girl, but the situation is certainly not bringing out the best in you.

[Vodstok]

this is going to sound weird, but you are kind of lucky. Better that he is a manipulative douchebag than a wife beater. Listen to everyone who suggests you use caution, but for the most part, unless you are balls-out crazy, the mother still has the upper hand for the most part in these things these days.

Plus, a smart judge is going to see that he is manipulating you, and isnt going to have any tolerance for that crap.

[Psycom5k]

Dang Pink remind me never to piss you off...

But seriously, next time try to keep a cool head, yes alot of us guys think with our dicks, but not all of us. So please don't try to lump us all in with that douchebag. The best I can say is the next time that you feel like your going to flip out. Just leave. Always works.

[Vodstok]

My aunt has 3 kids. way back, more than 20 years ago, she found out her husband was screwing someone else, got her pregnant, and left them all for her.

She turned into a man hating bitch after that and hasnt really changed in 20 years. dont go that route.




A happy note, though. Congradulations for reminding him that actions have consequences ;)

[Ferox13]

You have to be more careful. I cannot stress this enough. Behavior like that can get your children taken away from you. We live in a fucked up world where a good parent making a bad decision can result in ridiculously harsh punishment.

Agreed - you have more than just yourself to think of.

Where I'm from you could face a custodial sentance for that kind of assault - not sure what the laws are liek there.

[Vodstok]

Agreed - you have more than just yourself to think of.

Where I'm from you could face a custodial sentance for that kind of assault - not sure what the laws are liek there.
in the hands of the right judge, she could get away with a stern lecture. Given the circumstances, I've heard of the assaultee getting some sort of goofy communtiy service or the like because they instigated it; kind of a "You knew what you were doing, douchebag".

I'll keep my fingers crossed.

[Zero]

we're here for you maggie

[Angra]

we're here for you maggie



Says the most absent member of 2008. :rolleyes:

;)

[hammerfan]

Maggie, I'm so sorry that all this has happened. This is the last thing you need. Having said that, I agree with Rod in that you need to get control of your temper. Your ex could absolutely use it to take your kids away from you. If you need to talk, I'm here for you.

[Ferox13]

in the hands of the right judge, she could get away with a stern lecture. Given the circumstances, I've heard of the assaultee getting some sort of goofy communtiy service or the like because they instigated it;

Again i'm not sure of the laws there but it dependings on the charges. if as Maggie says 'there was blood everywhere' in Uk/Ireland that could be charged as GBH and not a simple assault which would be a much more serious charge.

Best thing I'd imagine to do is get the best lawyer that you can? What were the actualk charges?

[novakru]

Maggie, I'm so sorry that all this has happened. This is the last thing you need. Having said that, I agree with Rod in that you need to get control of your temper. Your ex could absolutely use it to take your kids away from you. If you need to talk, I'm here for you.


I didn't sleep all night thinking about Maggie's situation.

It's all well and good to say control yourself, but I know when I found out my husband was fucking some slut, I went into a blind rage.
You could say I was temporarly insane because there wasn't a thought in my head about the most precious things in my life: my children. I just wanted that bastard and the cunt to hurt as much as I hurt. I would rather have had my arms and legs ripped off with thousands of sharp instruments than feel the betrayal from the love of my life.

I almost went to jail for making threats against the Whore, ( I didn't make any threats that could be construed as harmful to her health, so there was nothing to it. Dumbasses, like I would TELL someone I was going to get 'em:rolleyes: )

Anyway, I ended up in the looney bin because I did something to MYSELF.

This subject is very much hitting all kinda nerves in me and I am trying very hard to get a check on myself right now because it still HURTS and I know EXACTLY what poor Maggie is feeling right now and it ain't pretty.The affair happened 7 years ago, so it heals but leaves a hellava scar.

Sometimes the memories come back without warning and hit me like a boulder that the man I adored and loved with all my heart thought it was ok to stick his dick elsewhere and ruin our life. It will never be the same between us, no matter what he does or says.
That purity, that trust, that unconditional love I felt for him is just not there anymore.

I stayed with him, obviously, and I do love him... truly. I'd give him my spinal fluid ...or a kidney.

I tell you what though...I have no CLUE what I would do if it happened again.

BTW: The bitch is up your neck of the woods, she lives in Del. with her husband (poor bastard- he KNOWS about her affairs too) and might still work at the Chadds Ford Winery for all I know.
The way I found out was a hotel receipt from a Chadds Ford hotel, then found her numbers later that week in his wallet.

I knew something was going on for awhile before I found the proof.

And that's one thing that really fucking kills me to this day, the deviousness of it all.
He fucks her and then comes home to his family that adored him and took CARE of him and he kissed me and fucking SMILED at me, like nothing was wrong. That makes me so fucking sick..you know?:mad:

Her name is Judy (I won't put her last name so I won't be breaching any libel laws... keep your friends that are married away from her...she is a serial husband fucker.
I hope she burns in Hell:)

Anyway, just a long, drawn out 'other side of the coin' experience.

...And I know there are ALOT of really good men in the world, 98% of the men and young men and up and coming men here at HDC are truly wonderful.


My chest hurts.
I'm going to go throw up now.

[novakru]

Christ:(

I did not mean for that post to turn out like the narcissitic rant that it did.

I wanted the people posting in this thread to feel a little bit of what people go through when things like this happen and realize how incredibly hard it is to keep it together. I am Truly Sorry my post looks so fucking selfish, that was the farthest thing in my intent.

MAGGIE: I am so sorry honey, I understand you so well right now and I wanted you to know, you have my prayers and PM me if you want and I'll give you my cell # for moral support or 'anything within my power ' support.

[Angra]

I stayed with him, obviously, and I do love him... truly. I'd give him my spinal fluid ...or a kidney.

.



For the love of God, WHY??? :confused:

[ferretchucker]

Wow. Sorry to hear that. Keep us filled in if you can, and please think before you act, we'd all hate for something bad to happen to you, as would your family.

[Vodstok]

holy shit... you think it only happens in movies, but then it happens to peopel you know...

Well, nova... Ithought your husband looked like Kevin Costner, but sorry, now he just looks like an asshole to me...

[Roderick Usher]

...And I know there are ALOT of really good men in the world, 98% of the men and young men and up and coming men here at HDC are truly wonderful.


but the women here are CRAZY

[Dante'sInferno]

Sorry to hear that.Like i said last night.There is someone out there for everyone.You just have to be patient and find that person.I wish you the best.

[hellfire1]

For the love of God, WHY??? :confused:



She could say why, but you wouldn't understand.

Neither would I, but we're talking about you, you pig of a male!


Sorry... levity. Can't help it.

[Doc Faustus]

but the women here are CRAZY

Crazy like the foxes they are.

[novakru]

She could say why, but you wouldn't understand.

A woman's heart man....it's an undecipherable thing.



But here's a reason Angra, this was taken about 2 years ago..http://fc99.deviantart.com/fs32/f/2008/208/0/5/The_New_Kid_in_Town_by_novakru.jpg

We created something beautiful, and we just don't work well apart (yes, it was tried) in raising these incredible creatures.




I will die loving that asshole:mad:

[Vodstok]

I will die loving that asshole:mad:
Not that you would, but never let him forget it...


I have screwed up in my marriage (financially, never anythign like screwing around), and Bree never lets me forget. Help keep me from repeating the same errors. I make all new ones...

[hellfire1]

Not that you would, but never let him forget it...


I have screwed up in my marriage (financially, never anythign like screwing around), and Bree never lets me forget. Help keep me from repeating the same errors. I make all new ones...



What woman ever forgets?? Show me one who does, and I'll show you a VERY happy lady.

[Angra]

A woman's heart man....it's an undecipherable thing.



But here's a reason Angra, this was taken about 2 years ago..http://fc99.deviantart.com/fs32/f/2008/208/0/5/The_New_Kid_in_Town_by_novakru.jpg

We created something beautiful, and we just don't work well apart (yes, it was tried) in raising these incredible creatures.




I will die loving that asshole:mad:







.................................................. ....................... Hellfire was right..

[hellfire1]

.................................................. ....................... Hellfire was right..



Told ya....

[Angra]

Told ya....



Nobody likes a smart ass, wise ass.

[hellfire1]

Nobody likes a smart ass, wise ass.


Nah uh....


You love it. :D

[Angra]

Nah uh....


You love it. :D



I might. Never seen it.












Your smart ass that is. (knew you wouldn't get it. Duh!) :rolleyes:

[hellfire1]

I might. Never seen it.












Your smart ass that is. (knew you wouldn't get it. Duh!) :rolleyes:





They sure raise you up real clever in Denmark, don't they?

[Angra]

They sure raise you up real clever in Denmark, don't they?


I've been raised by tv sitcoms in a very early age, so... yes. :D

[hellfire1]

I've been raised by tv sitcoms in a very early age, so... yes. :D



The defense rests.

[Angra]

The defense rests.

And now, back to topic.

[Papillon Noir]

Crazy like the foxes they are.

Amen, brother! :p

@Pink

It sounds like that guy is a real asshole, and I can relate--I've dated a lot of them. I wouldn't have this situation put you off of men entirely because there are a lot of non-asshole, i.e. nice guys out there. You just have to sift through the crappy ones. Also, being an asshole is not limited to men, it's definitely not a gender thing.

Violence--really bad in any situation! You just end up being the one to get screwed and a few minutes of pleasure you may get from punch your ex's face in is not worth jail time and losing your children. Get a dartboard and put a picture of his face on it or a punching bag. Something that is not illegal.

Betrayal hurts when it's coming from those closest to you, but the only thing you can do is move on from it, learning life's lessons along the way. One thing I have learned is that if you break up, there is no getting back together because you broke up in the beginning for a reason. Getting back together just screws things up worse and it doesn't give you an opportunity to find someone who is right for you.

[Disease]

Sorry to hear about this, I know it is hard to control emotions at times, I don't want to lecture you I know things are hard enough at the moment. I hope you can find a way to deal with this anger you posess soon.

The only advice I can offer is live well and cut him completley out of your life. I know it's hard when you have kids, but you can sort somthing out where perhaps your folks will have the kids when he comes to pick them up etc... So you just don't have to deal with it anymore.

Tak care.

[pinkfloyd45769]

I am really glad Nova told everyone what it feels like,it seems like noone around me understands.I am hurt but i'm also moving on and making a better life.Its getting better everyday.He told me he wants nothing to do with our four beautiful children and i'm ok with that.Hes losing it all for a fucking whore.Thanks for being here for me,its really all i got right now.I luv ya guys!!Nova i'll be pming you soon!:)

[Ferox13]

Pink - what were you eventually charged with?
Is there a chance you can get yor EX or the woman to drop the charages?

How did u get into his bedroom? Had you keys?

Best of luck in court - I'd definally invest in a decent lawyer.

[pinkfloyd45769]

I'm not sure of the exact charges yet,i have not been served with them yet.As far as the bedroom,he lives with his mom and i knocked and then walked in like always.I caught the two of them on the couch the minute i stepped through the door.I have actually realized that i am finally over the whole thing.I'm focusing on the future and saying fuck the past.

[The_Return]

...he lives with his mom...

Just when I thought you couldn't make the douchebag sound any more pathetic...

[urgeok2]

.Hes losing it all for a fucking whore.

well, arguably - he's the fucking whore.

anyone who would abandon 4 children ... who's worse - him or the person he messed around with ?

[Ferox13]

anyone who would abandon 4 children ... who's worse - him or the person he messed around with ?

I agree - I always find it weird that women blame the other 'home wrecking' female most of the time. Its obvious that the married/in a relationship man is WAY more to blame..

[Vodstok]

I agree - I always find it weird that women blame the other 'home wrecking' female most of the time. Its obvious that the married/in a relationship man is WAY more to blame..
But... he's a man...:confused: :eek:

Isnt it always the woman's fault? Imean, there was lillith, and she wouldnt listen... then Eve.. I mean come on... Its always the chicks dude. :rolleyes:














I usually leave these things assuming everyone is smart enough to know I'm kidding, but I'm not taking a chance with this one, I am kidding... :)

[Ferox13]

LOL@Vodstok's Disclaimer :-)

[Vodstok]

Hey, I am usually the type that just lets things fall where they may, let those who get it laugh and those who dont can get as pissed as they want, but given the subject matter here and that this was an otherwise pretty serious thread, i figured a little ass-covering was in order. :)

[Ferox13]

LOL@Vodstok's Disclaimer's Disclaimer :) :) :)

[Vodstok]

LOL@Vodstok's Disclaimer's Disclaimer :) :)
:D I can keep this up all day :)



I wrote the second disclaimer because i didnt want anyone thinking i had gone soft, but that my sense of humor has some limits due to sensitivity. I'm not a pure asshole :)

[Leprucky Cougar]

Can't say I would do any different, although I think I would have been charged with attempted murder or straight up murder.

Next time, count to ten, breathe and walk away.
Then you will have plenty of time to think of some really good ideas of torture and getting away with it.

Oh wait, I'm not suppose to say shit like that....

Just take it one moment at a time, you will make it through this...and get a serious bitch of a lawyer (I'm not kidding)


Email me if you need me.

I agree...naturally this is how any woman would think or think to act in this situation. However, knowing that he was the one that messed up should motivate you in knowing he's not worth yout time and you deserve better. While you acknowledge his lost, beat him up with kindness. Make him be the one begging and pleading leaving countless voicemails and emails on your cellphone. Make him beg and plead for your forgiveness. You need your time to emotionally heal, but don't let it get to the point where you depreciate yourself. As time moves on, your heart will too. Optimism is key. Think positive and stay positive. Mr Right Now isn't neccessarily Mr. Right forever.